Is Cybersex Cheating?
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Fly_On_Wall
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I honestly cannot say.
i've no clue
i've no clue
KillerMuffin
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I picked Other.
If I had cybersex it would be cheating. The StudMuffin disapproves.
If Ruby had cybersex, it wouldn't be cheating. Her husband approves.
Easy.
If I had cybersex it would be cheating. The StudMuffin disapproves.
If Ruby had cybersex, it wouldn't be cheating. Her husband approves.
Easy.
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I picked other along the lines of what KM posted.
If it's done while lying and hiding, yep.
If the partner knows and approves, nope.
If it's done while lying and hiding, yep.
If the partner knows and approves, nope.
Fly_On_Wall
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KillerMuffin said:
That's exactly how I was thinking.
it depends on the persons envolved. among other things.
since i'm singel I can't asnwer for myself, but I think if my gf was open about it with me (as in she tells me she does it not all the details of who what when etc..) I'd have no problem so long as I know it's simply cyber. and so long as I know she loves me.
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well I voted no, because i was thinking of my case in point. My hubby doesn't care, (to an extent). Now if I was starting some kind of relationship, wanting to carry it further, that would be one hell of a problem.
But if your hiding it and your spouse s/o whatever, doesn't approve, would be pissed, well then obviously it is. My opinion anyhow.
But if your hiding it and your spouse s/o whatever, doesn't approve, would be pissed, well then obviously it is. My opinion anyhow.
Scabbers
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No
What's cybersex? Essentially masturbation with erotic images / ideas / stories generated by individuals in electronic quick-time rather than by some magazine publisher five months ago. Now if things move off-line, and into real life meetings, then there's a thread for that somewhere else.
What's cybersex? Essentially masturbation with erotic images / ideas / stories generated by individuals in electronic quick-time rather than by some magazine publisher five months ago. Now if things move off-line, and into real life meetings, then there's a thread for that somewhere else.
Summery
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What is cybersex?
Seriously, I voted yes always. But after thinking more about it, I should have voted other.
For me when I am in a committed relationship, I view cybersex as a form of cheating......UNLESS it is consensual. When I'm not in a committed relationship.......anything goes!
Seriously, I voted yes always. But after thinking more about it, I should have voted other.For me when I am in a committed relationship, I view cybersex as a form of cheating......UNLESS it is consensual. When I'm not in a committed relationship.......anything goes!
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KillerMuffin said:
Damn, she beat me to posting it..... once again.
That's how I feel about cybersex. While single, I'm okay with casual cybering, long as the other person wouldn't be cheating. But when in a relationship, like right now, it's my preference to be just me and her sharing that expierence.
Chanson_bleu
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It's just like "regular" cheating
If you hide cybersex from your S.O., then it's cheating. You obviously have relationship problems; work them out or get out.
If your S.O. knows and approves of your cybering, then it's not cheating.
If you feel you can't tell your S.O., figure out WHY you can't tell them.
(It was actually my first clue as to the depth of my problems with my husband when I got a lot more satisfaction out of cybersex than with physically with him. We're separating in a few weeks.)
If you hide cybersex from your S.O., then it's cheating. You obviously have relationship problems; work them out or get out.
If your S.O. knows and approves of your cybering, then it's not cheating.
If you feel you can't tell your S.O., figure out WHY you can't tell them.
(It was actually my first clue as to the depth of my problems with my husband when I got a lot more satisfaction out of cybersex than with physically with him. We're separating in a few weeks.)
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There is no black and white to this issue.
It depends on the people involved. Their expectations and needs in the relationships.
Is the cyber partner emotionally attached?
Does the wife know/care?
And on and on and on
Being true to yourself, you will find your answer.
It depends on the people involved. Their expectations and needs in the relationships.
Is the cyber partner emotionally attached?
Does the wife know/care?
And on and on and on
Being true to yourself, you will find your answer.
morninggirl5
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Renegade said:
Damn, she beat me to posting it..... once again.
That's how I feel about cybersex. While single, I'm okay with casual cybering, long as the other person wouldn't be cheating. But when in a relationship, like right now, it's my preference to be just me and her sharing that expierence.
I think you just answered that yes, it is cheating.
I agree.
Lance Hardrock
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nope
cybersex when it is only sex, is no more cheating than when I beat my meat.
Now, if you get involved and other things happen, that might be a different story. But if you're just playing games, then I say go for it. Life's too short and sex sure is fun.
cybersex when it is only sex, is no more cheating than when I beat my meat.
Now, if you get involved and other things happen, that might be a different story. But if you're just playing games, then I say go for it. Life's too short and sex sure is fun.
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I voted "other", but it would also depend on the situation.Pokerman said:
I have discussed this with my SO, and we both agreed (a little reluctantly) that if either of us felt inclined to cyber with another, that it would be fine as long as we kept honest with each other.
However, I honestly do NOT feel any desire to cyber anymore with anyone but my SO!
Lance Hardrock
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about equal?
It seems that both the boys and girls are about equally split on this subject.
Interesting.
It seems that both the boys and girls are about equally split on this subject.
Interesting.
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I voted yes, but with the same exceptions; if it is hidden and without the knowledge and consent of your relationship partner then that is deceit and therefore cheating. Sex is sex is sex, whether it is cyber, phone or real-life.KillerMuffin said:
At the very least the partner should know - then the partner has the knowledge of the practice, and if they choose they can either live with it or choose to quit the relationship.
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Re: No
hmm..scabbers..i like you
and km's insightfull as always
i say no..IF and only if..
you make it clear from the start that you will NEVER..meet this person in real life,
that you are NOT after a repalcement for your SO.. and of course, mention that you have one..LOL
i have a "friend" - STF- from here..and he means alot to me..i know alot about him, and he about me..he's my main confidante and crying shoulder..a wonderfull man i'm soo priveledged to know
the bf does not know about him specifically..STF is a whole hemisphere away and no threat to the bf.
but he/the bf- knows this is a favourite "in the background" site, that it's always on when i'm online..
he knows i'm trying to write literotca and showing it too a freind online
he knows i've been getting some creative new ideas from here**GIGGLE**
and i don't see that anything i've done is wrong, or even hurtfull..as he said to me last year.."it's just words on a screen..i'm practising so i can say these things to you"(still hasn't btw..lol)
what IS hurtfull is what he did/still does?(don't know..stopped snooping it hurts too much)
which is chat to women, get intimate..
say lovely/sexy things i don't get to hear..
and describe his real life accurately..
but ommitting me totally..mentioning the shared life/stuff/house..like it's all just his and i don't exist..that hurts**OWW**
and he has single women from our city on his "locked" icq..that i don't "know" about.
that's Wrong.
but not worth the hissy fit i feel like throwing..LOL
Scabbers said:
hmm..scabbers..i like you
and km's insightfull as always
i say no..IF and only if..
you make it clear from the start that you will NEVER..meet this person in real life,
that you are NOT after a repalcement for your SO..
and of course, mention that you have one..LOLi have a "friend" - STF- from here..and he means alot to me..i know alot about him, and he about me..he's my main confidante and crying shoulder..a wonderfull man i'm soo priveledged to know
the bf does not know about him specifically..STF is a whole hemisphere away and no threat to the bf.
but he/the bf- knows this is a favourite "in the background" site, that it's always on when i'm online..
he knows i'm trying to write literotca and showing it too a freind online
he knows i've been getting some creative new ideas from here**GIGGLE**
and i don't see that anything i've done is wrong, or even hurtfull..as he said to me last year.."it's just words on a screen..i'm practising so i can say these things to you"(still hasn't btw..lol)
what IS hurtfull is what he did/still does?(don't know..stopped snooping it hurts too much)
which is chat to women, get intimate..
say lovely/sexy things i don't get to hear..
and describe his real life accurately..
but ommitting me totally..mentioning the shared life/stuff/house..like it's all just his and i don't exist..that hurts**OWW**
and he has single women from our city on his "locked" icq..that i don't "know" about.
that's Wrong.
but not worth the hissy fit i feel like throwing..LOL
