My wife has in the past expressed the fact that she sometimes has "girl crushes" but has never acted upon them. It has always been a fantasy of mine to watch her in a girl/girl situation (w/ no active participation from me). Any suggestions on how to setup such a scene?
Introducing my wife to a lesbian experience?
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Well, I doubt your wife would leave you for another woman. After all, Ross Geller is just a TV character.
What you need to consider is the fact of you having "no active participation." I've always wondered what that meant, and find it even more difficult to believe it can happen. You have two naked women in front of you eating each other out - and you are just gonna watch while you stroke yourself? Yeah. Okay. Keep telling yourself that.
You need to talk to your wife and find out how serious she is. There have been many times I've seen women and entertained thoughts about them sexually. But I would not act on it. Also, I doubt I would have my man in the same room with me if I ever did do anything, though he would know I was with her. Believe me, two women together is a beautiful thing (and no, I'm not les or even bi), but as soon as a man enters the room, the whole feeling changes.
What you need to consider is the fact of you having "no active participation." I've always wondered what that meant, and find it even more difficult to believe it can happen. You have two naked women in front of you eating each other out - and you are just gonna watch while you stroke yourself? Yeah. Okay. Keep telling yourself that.
You need to talk to your wife and find out how serious she is. There have been many times I've seen women and entertained thoughts about them sexually. But I would not act on it. Also, I doubt I would have my man in the same room with me if I ever did do anything, though he would know I was with her. Believe me, two women together is a beautiful thing (and no, I'm not les or even bi), but as soon as a man enters the room, the whole feeling changes.
Lake4321 said:
hmmmm...how to set up such a scene? Not sure if I have any actual workable suggestions, but at the present time, my husband and I are discussing this exact same topic. 7 years ago, I had my first bi experience, and it rocked my world! I wanted to tell the whole world about it! It was fortuitous that my roommate and her boyfriend liked to "play"; it was w/ the two of them and another woman when I had my first (and last thus far!) 4-some...
The other woman was my "first"; we were all pretty damn close, I can tell you!
However - the sexual fun ended. Roomie and I got together a total of about 4 times and the other woman and I got together twice. Ever since, I've been craving - absolutely craving - to be with another woman. My husband knows about these experiences I had, and just the other night I expressed to him how I'm really craving to be w/ a woman again, WITH him.
I'm MORE than ready, but I don't think he quite is...We have ideas on how to make it happen; ideally i'd really just like to pick her up in a bar (SOOOO lame, I know...) but the likelihood of that happening seems slim. We may well just reply to some personals, either online or newspaper.
It's hard to say what the chances of her leaving you for another woman would be - It happens, and it doesn't. Just be completely open w/ her, and she should be the same with you, of course; hopfully trust is NOT an issue...If you were "not to participate", make sure you will wake up the next morning (or afternoon!) feeling confident that she is still your loving wife, and who knows -
this may well open new doors for you both...sexually and emotionally speaking.
And what's this about you not participating? Is this something she states she wants or is it just your fantasy to watch from the other side of the room as some lady buries her face between your wife's legs? man. that really sounds good.
Perhaps you could stand along side and give a good whackin' on the bums when you feel the urge!
SexyChele said:
Yup. I can vouch for this first hand. My first threesome had been with a girl I'd played with on my own a few times, and my bf at the time. He'd always known when she and I played, and finally, he wanted a piece of the action. He wanted to 'watch'. Which meant, he wanted to touch and fuck.
Believe me, it messed up everything between she and I, and I've not seen much of her since.
Oh, and he's toast, too.
As far as setting something up.. your wife is a grown woman. When she is ready, if she ever is ready, she will talk to you about it. Let her know that you think her fantasies are fine and that, if she ever feels ready to take the next step, you'll support her. But like Chele said, many women notice and are appreciative of other women's beauty, and sometimes even have crushes on them... but many fantasies, no matter how attainable, are often left as fantasies for a reason.
