Interracial Relationships

[HotAzLady69]

Embarrassed

OK LMAO I was getting ready to lay down and go to sleep.

NVM Bobmi357 I just got it LMAO.

Oh man am I slow sometimes.

And to answer you. mmmm yes.

 

[Lust Engine]

Having been in inter-racial relationships, I tend not to focus on anyone else around me but instead I tried to focus my energies around that person.

I understand the social ramifications of the situation if you're in that kind of hostile & backwoods environment, but at some point we've got to evolve beyond the stupidity of racism.

 

[butterfly27]

I've been reading your opinions with great interest. I believe I learnt a lot.

Did any of you got subjected to some really bad outburst of racism, and if so, what happened?

 

[Blackbich]

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Life has it's problems, but it's how you and your spouse to be deals with them and how you teach the kids to deal with them.
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Ditto, Ditto, Ditto! The 'problems' that biracial kids have are the same as other children. Anything above and beyond that are issues they deal with because the families have issues with it. 99% of the bi-racial children I know have family members who hate the fact they are bi-racial. These children have/are growing up with that knowledge and with parents who are telling them they are just as good as their white relatives which, should be true, but of course isn't. As long as you raise your children to be proud of who they are, love them like crazy and don't allow your family's opinon to cloud their judgement you and your man will be fine!!!

Trust your heart. If you truly love this man, be with him.

Good Luck, My Dear.

 

[Bobmi357]

Lets hijack this thread slightly and ask the question from another angle? Is it racist to not find a person of another race/color attractive? I'm not talking about someone being bigoted to the point of refusing to interact with someone from another race. I'm just talking about someone's own idea of what they consider attractive.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

*hands PinkOrchid a steaming turd*


I'm not racist myself...I'm willing to date "foul whitey" chicks.

 

[Madame Manga]

The theory I generally hear is that many men tend to be attracted to women who in some sense resemble their mothers--even if Mom was a raging alcoholic bitch or some such. A minority go for women who are nothing like Mom, of course, and that's probably not entirely up to them either.

I wouldn't call an early visual imprinting something you can blame people for. What you *can* blame people for is making up crackpot theories about why sleeping with someone who doesn't resemble your parents is "unnatural". Preferences are fine. We all got 'em. I like big guys, I like red hair, I like a quirky sense of humor. I have a right to my druthers--I do not have to get wet around skinny blond men who hate Monty Python. There is nothing in a good theory of general ethics or of ideal relations between people of different colors from yours to say that you have to seriously consider being attracted to every human being you meet. If that's genuine racism by anyone's definition, the word loses a lot of meaning.

MM

 

[Lust Engine]

If you make a decision about, judgement about, or so much as form your impression of someone based on their ethnic origin or the color of their skin, then you are racist.

Moreover, it is my personal belief that nearly everyone in our society is racist because of the mere fact that we notice race. We don't notice people who wear blue sweaters and form opinions about them based on their sweater color, yet we do that with skin color. When describing another person, what's the FIRST factor? Skin color/race. Caucasian male, black female, Asian male, etc.

So we're racist. Nearly all of us. Including me. We are products of our society (great excuse, eh? ). So the trick is to deal consciously with it and to have a significant amount of introspection about it so as to have as little impact on other people as possible and to try to avoid passing this on to future generations.

So by my definition, an attraction or lack thereof that is based on someone's race is, in fact, racist.

Ok, I'm prepared to take a lot of shit for this, so go ahead.

I think the term racist has been used too liberally at times and connotes a bad thing in society. To describe someone by their skin color factually I don't consider to be racist- it's just fact. To use race in describing someone with an intent to malign them is another thing.

So I understand where you're going with this Orchid...no shit given here.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Motu79]

Well, now a little problem has occured that really really bothers me: My parents are trying to talk me out of a marriage with him but are telling me at the same time he shouldn't take this personally, they like him, bla bla bla. And only because he is a black guy. And I am white. And races shouldn't mix. Whatever.

They say I'll be looked down on by society if I'm his wife, that I'll be responsible for my future children never getting anywhere in life and having a hard one to begin with, that I'll end up with a tough life myself and so on.

Stereotypes. I refuse to listen to that crap, no matter whose mouth it is coming from. You know better.

 

[Vixandra]

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If you're in an area that won't accept a couple of different backgrounds then move. Lots of new houses in Cali for different background couples. Trust me- hubby's hispanic and other then my high cheek bones I look about as nordic as they come with pale skin and blue eyes and naturally blonde hair (though its currently red- artificial intelligence). I get a few glares in the "Mexican Ghetto" areas but don't go there often enough for it to matter. Everyone else seems cool and no one questions my Latin last name at all.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Boy, Mayberry, you sure know how to give a girl a unique gift.

That's love, baby!!

 

[peachykeen]

Lets hijack this thread slightly and ask the question from another angle? Is it racist to not find a person of another race/color attractive? I'm not talking about someone being bigoted to the point of refusing to interact with someone from another race. I'm just talking about someone's own idea of what they consider attractive.

When you say 'a' person, do you actually mean 'one single' person, or are you saying 'any' person of a particular race? On an individual basis of course it's not - we aren't all going to be attracted to absolutely everybody. But if you say "I just couldn't imagine ever finding anyone black/hispanic/asian/whatever attractive," well, that is saying much more, isn't it.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[sweet T]

Hmmm! Thinking! I agree that we are all racists of some type! I myself am guily in one way or another. Which I will keep to myself at this point

We are attracted to someone because of a connection we feel.

Racisim stems from ignorance. Not being familiar or comfortable with a certain aspects of different cultural backgrounds! Therefore , Up goes that mental block!

"I dont like this or that", you say. Is that because you have no knowledge or experience with the aspect that you dislike?

 

[voxovixen]

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[voxovixen]

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[Lust Engine]

Boy, Mayberry, you sure know how to give a girl a unique gift.

Keep the receipt & take it back!

 

[Lust Engine]

I've heard the children argument too - they'll be tortured and teased, which will break their spirit, so on. But the fact is, thiis happens to the fat kid, the gay kid, the white kid who is too pale, the kid who has breasts at the age of 9.

I totally agree with this point. I remember a wise person once stating that children aren't born with prejudice but it hurts me to think that children can be so cruel. Not meaning to be naive but if there was one issue that I'd love to see kids not pick on one another for is race.

Wishful thinking but then I'm always an optimist.