Interconnectedness

[beths-virtue]

whoo, look mommy , she said a big word
yeah , all edumacated too

wondering, , in more of a random musing type thing i suppose, who are you connected to on this board , in real life???

obviously , you all know land and i are together,

but who else???

 

[WickedEve]

You two are together? Really? lol
Are you talking about romantic connections?
daughter, who isn't on the board much is a good friend.
Actually, I have quite a few friends I've made on the board.
No one that I've met in R/L though, but people that I talk to more than just on the board.
One of my very best friends that happens to be from the board is smithpeter. I probably don't even like him, actually. I think he hypnotized me with his odd voodoo ways...

 

[_Land]

I will neither conform or deny that. :X

 

[beths-virtue]

i meant, in real life, away from the keyboard, obviously , im not expecting true confessions time, just curious about people who know each other off line as well as on .

its my feline nature,
fortunately , so far, curiousity hasnt killed....

 

[daughter]

Huh

Beth--

Are you saying my friendship with Eve isn't real simply because we haven't physically met? Ummm. There are folks who have met and married after courting online. May not be everyone's ideal way to have an relationship, but discounting the connections isn't something I'd do across board.

I have friends now that I have only spoken to on the phone. Was invited to visit when I traveled to the part of the country. I did visit. The connection was very real and positive. It has been years since I visited. We're still friends. I have interacted with many people online longer or more intensely than connections I have made off-board in everyday encounters.

Don't we have relationships off board with individuals that we rarely see, yet we would argue are very important to us? I have friends and family that live in other countries and states that I rarely see. I wouldn't say we didn't have a relationship solely because we don't share physical space.

If you believe in anything metaphysical, you believe your connections transcend the physical. You can't convince me the connections I've made over the years haven't been real.

If Eve ever suffered a crisis, my butt be on a plane before she could finish speaking my name. And I hate flying.

Peace,

daughter

 

[WickedEve]

I understand what you're saying b.v. It's interesting to find out who has actually met face to face.
And I know where you're coming from d!
I do know that on another board here at lit that long distance relationships are often not considered to be worth much. It's all about real time. I've been in a long distance relationship for THREE years! It's a hell of a lot better than my r/l relationship. My best friend that I met OFFline now lives in another town. We basically communicate via email or phone. I don't have to see her or touch her for her to be real to me or important. I feel fortunate to have this wonderful tool so that I can reach out to special people that I never would have known otherwise. Actually, daughter and sp are among 2 of my closest friends, and if they never physically touch me that's okay. They've already touched my heart. (I don't care if that is sappy! lol)

 

[HomerPindar]

Holistic ~ it's one of my favorite words.

If I may, Beth, the question might stand, who here has a connection irl with folks that they also have a connection with online?

This all reminds me of my time traveling around the country, back a few years. I spent a couple months in one town, having planed to leave long before I managed to (need to sell a truck for the cash before I could go). My next destination was a couple of states over in order to look up friends I'd known online for years and had lost touch with. figure I'd walk into the library, and spend a couple hours looking them up. So, about a month later than I'd originally planed, I got into town. I looked them up, took almost a week. And...they'd moved. To another state. A month ago.

HomerPindar

 

[Lauren Hynde]

I live too far away from anyone here to have physically met. But I have made some very good and true friends here in this board. Not gonna name them, because they know who they are and if they want to they'll speak up. And they are real to me. They have helped me in some difficult times, and I hope they feel like I did and would do the same for them anytime. And I don't doubt it for a second that if we ever find ourselves in need, we'll be there for each other. Not having touched yet is a mere technicality.

 

[Rybka]

Friends

I have VERY close internet friends that I have never met in person. They range from Russia to New Zealand to Colombia and beyond. I also have e-connection to old friends and family whom I have not seen for many years.

I have met a number of people that I first encountered online, and I have liked every one I have met. (Although I must state, that none of them were met for other than common interests.) I cannot imagine getting involved in an emotional union online and ever wanting to make it a face-to-face relation. - (The exception to this are some children around the world who call me Uncle, and to whom I have supplied occasional support.)


Regards,                       Rybka

 

[daughter]

love

Like Rybka,

I never imagined connecting romantically online with someone. I'm always meeting folks one way or another because of my interests and my personality. I'm a chatterbox and my interests are pretty varied.

I've been online more tha 5 years now. One of my first online communities was a poetry board. I was pretty popular on one board when this fella showed up. I talk to just about anybody so we chatted up. He didn't want an online affair, wasn't his thing. We had marathon online sessions anticipating our real time encounter. Three weeks and 2+ yrs later, we're lovin' and laughin'. We're an LDR. We see each other regularly. He's pretty private so how often I see him is nobody's business. Let me give you a hint: Have you seen me in here complaining about being lonely, horny or depressed? I'm in love and happy.

I made a connection that changed my life. No matter what goes on, I know I have a partner who loves me and all my madness. Lovers don't love you inspite of your flaws, they love you because they make you who you are.

Peace,

daughter

 

[beths-virtue]

wow, detours....

all right, now , i wasnt implying or inferring that online friendships were any less valid than face to face ones, i was merely curious .


i have been online for 8-9 years now, back when aol was a manageable tool... ahh the good ole days, i digress.

its interesting to see the tangent this has departed off to , im watching, silenely, allbeit, but still watching

 

[HomerPindar]

Re: wow, detours....

all right, now , i wasnt implying or inferring that online friendships were any less valid than face to face ones, i was merely curious .


i have been online for 8-9 years now, back when aol was a manageable tool... ahh the good ole days, i digress.

its interesting to see the tangent this has departed off to , im watching, silenely, allbeit, but still watching

AOL vs manageable.....hmmm...

HomerPindar