Intelligence as a prerequisite?

[GILF_69]

Good morning all -

Would love to hear opinions on whether you believe that intelligence is a prerequisite for full appreciation of good sex (or any other enjoyable activity). Does it enhance the experience? Detract from it? Make no difference?

Does being intelligent add a dimension to an enjoyable activity that may not be available to those with less brain power?

 

[cunnilingual2]

I don't think you have to be intelligent to appreciate it. However, I can't fully enjoy it unless my partner is on the same intellectual level as myself. I find intelligence to be a huge turn-on and I seek it out in any partner.

 

[BiggBill70]

No i don't think intelligence is a prerequisite for appreciating good sex. I mean look at dolphins, they appreciate good sex, and even the smartest of them can barely read.

 

[frodowolf]

The question is flawed. Good sex in itself is not defined to a BDSM lover whips may be a pre-requisite whereas a cave man with no IQ might enjoy clubbing. Either way what makes sex enjoyable will differ from person to person let alone intellect to intellect and ergo the question is self answering - No!

 

[tritiusj]

I have to agree with cunnilingual2 on this; it's more about intellectual capability than intellectual level. For me, that component of compatibility is just as critical as looks or libido, but then I am one of those "total package" kind of guys, so maybe it's not true for everyone. It would be like having a brand new gorgeous Lamborghini, with a lawnmower engine under the hood.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

there's gotta be a spark 'tween the minds for me. the prettiest can be dull as ditchwater.

 

[Desire4More]

I'd rather be with a woman who's intelligent 'cause I happen to think I'm intelligent too. It seems to me she'd bring more to the table. Or to the bed!!! Does that make it more enjoyable? I don't know but I bet it would be less enjoyable if I was less intelligent and surely less enjoyable if my woman was less intelligent!

 

[JSensei]

Is intelligence important? I believe it is. Let us consider the two basic scenarios.

In an in-person relationship, the two (or more) partners usually must be of similar intelligence. It's not always the case, but for a lasting relationship, the two must be compatible. This is usually not the case when there is an extreme difference in their respective intelligences.

In the case of Lit, there is usually not physical contact. Instead, we make our contact through written word and occasionally via voice chat. In this case, it is of the utmost importance that those involved are of similar intellect. If someone in the chat or role play cannot play to the standards of the other, it tends to be a poor role play. As long as the pair is evenly matched, then both will be satisfied. If one is more descriptive or a better writer, then that person is likely to come out of things feeling that it was one-sided and not as enjoyable as it should have been.

Lit and relationships are tricky business indeed.

 

[funinmyoffice]

Whereas I don't believe it's a prerequisite I believe that an intense intellectual connection can definitely add to the experience. On the other hand that alone won't make the enhancement..meaning both being on the same intellectual plane. My point is that it is one element that can add to an otherwise wonderful sexual encounter.

Personally I've had mindblowing sex with pure "animal magnetism" with women who were not intellectually congruent with me...that could be either of higher intelligence or lower...but connecting with that one person, mind and body, can be something to behold.

 

[yesidid]

So often, an inadequate lovers forgets to sate the best sex organ we have: our brain. Yes, intellect (and wit) are key!

 

[GILF_69]

Wow! It seems that I have found a special group of people here! For me personally, I love an intelligent partner. I'm not very good at resorting to my "reptilian" brain and find that intellectual stimulation is key to other kinds of stimulation. Much as I would love bigger tits, my brain is still the largest sex organ I have and must be satisfied first. And if you've got brains AND a sense of humor, I'm halfway there!

 

[123hot]

Beggars can't be choosers so if there's any nice lady out there who's thick enough to be convinced that I'm a 6ft 2 stud with an amazing body, give us a shout

Seriously, I'm not bothered when it comes to body shape/size, etc, but a pretty face and to be able to relate to whoever I meet is what I'm about. Intelligence ain't the word really but, as someone says above, intellectual capacity perhaps is more appropriate.

 

[englishgent73]

Without an intellectual connection, it's just fucking

 

[ManInIronMask]

On lit, in the absence of intelligence, one would not be able to communicate well enough to pique the interest of someone that they would be keen on talking to. This is especially true for a guy who has to compete with a hundred others that are PM-bombing a girl in order to vie for her attention.

Intelligence, or even better, being street smart and conversationally adept does add, I think, to the whole mix of being able to signal to the other person that they are in store for a decent conversation in the very least, even if it peters down later on due to many reasons that people can't anticipate at the start of a conversation.

 

[TheDarkAngel13]

there's gotta be a spark 'tween the minds for me. the prettiest can be dull as ditchwater.

That's cute. ^



Me, I'm one of those obnoxious intellectuals who is always playing up her own intelligence. I'm woman enough to admit it - I'm insufferable. Especially because I just ain't that smart.

My first boyfriend was uneducated (and frankly...dumb), but incredibly kind. He's still the greatest friend I have.
He didn't know anything about a woman's body, but he listened to my wants and desires and did his best to please me.
Intelligence isn't a requirement. But if you're like me, and attracted to intelligent people, of course it makes it better.

Chatting with people on Lit, I enjoy talking to the slightly-better educated ones. I get lazy when chatting and don't stay on my tip-toes about spelling and grammar, but things like "your" instead of "you're" rather bug me and distract from the convo at hand. Get me?

And in all aspects of relationships, an overlap of tastes, personalities, and intellects is necessary for people to get along. It just makes sense.

 

[Mwool]

Intelligence for me is something that I seek out. That and humour. They are the key components for me in any sort of relationship, even if it is just a fling or even online.

The reason, for me, is this. I find that everything is infinitely more enjoyable if you can have fun, through humour and good natured conversation and debate. It makes what has happened/what is to come even more intense and interesting. Knowing that on some level, even if the person you are chatting with is on the other side of the planet and you will never meet them in your life shares a bond with yourself. Good company is the key to a good time and a happy life.

I like to think myself as an intelligent, kind, and quite funny guy. If a woman isn't at least sharing 2 of those three qualities then I really find myself wanting to get out of the kitchen before I despair at the human race enough to want to throw myself out of the window with my cat.

Because I am teetering on the brink of being a teacher I also hate it when people get the most basic grammatical rules incorrect. I mean whoever doesn't know the difference between there/their or here/hear, unless English is not their primary language really get short thrift from me. Maybe I am an elitist, maybe I am just mad. Who knows?

Anyway, my point, in this long winded random babbling is this.

If there is no intellectual "spark" then everything you do is shallow and hollow, you may as well hook up Microsoft Sam and get him/her to speak to you for all the joy you would get from speaking to someone who is not on your wavelength.

 

[BigTXTeddyBear]

For me intelligence does play a big part. I am the type that like to get to know my partner and not just rush to it. If the conversation is good, then that will make things even more enjoyable. When looking at the big picture, physical attraction is such a small thing when compared to a partner that will stimulate you not only physically but also mentally.

 

[NewCouple100]

Intelligence is a major prerequisite for us, and unfortunately, we haven't been able to find too many here who fit the bill. Seems like they're all in this thread! Perhaps if any of you are interested in chatting with a couple, you could PM us?

 

[LindsayRae]

Intelligence most definitely is a prerequisite! This isn't only true for a partner, however. Intelligence is needed in many things out there and I've never been one to believe that "being on the Internet is an excuse to be ignorant". (Although many others seem to think so.)

Take this example, if you will. When someone posts a personal ad it should be an actual personal ad. When they wish to hold a discussion, they should post their topic in the appropriate board. Ie: one wouldn't go to How To if they wished to discuss the weather or current movies out there. Nor would they visit the BDSM board to ask how to set their old VCR clock. (lol)

Something to think about there.

 

[Aquagal]

I think intelligence on a similar level is key. Which brings to mind one scenario long ago. The handsomest of men in every way physically asked what I meant when I told him he was the 'cat's meow'...sigh....he didn't have a clue. My creamy panties dried up rather quick.

 

[Midfielder86]

To be honest, I find intelligence (sans smugness) to be extremely sexy and one of my biggest turnons.

 

[Midfielder86]

That's cute. ^



Me, I'm one of those obnoxious intellectuals who is always playing up her own intelligence. I'm woman enough to admit it - I'm insufferable. Especially because I just ain't that smart.

My first boyfriend was uneducated (and frankly...dumb), but incredibly kind. He's still the greatest friend I have.
He didn't know anything about a woman's body, but he listened to my wants and desires and did his best to please me.
Intelligence isn't a requirement. But if you're like me, and attracted to intelligent people, of course it makes it better.

Chatting with people on Lit, I enjoy talking to the slightly-better educated ones. I get lazy when chatting and don't stay on my tip-toes about spelling and grammar, but things like "your" instead of "you're" rather bug me and distract from the convo at hand. Get me?

And in all aspects of relationships, an overlap of tastes, personalities, and intellects is necessary for people to get along. It just makes sense.

Nothing makes me tune out quicker than when I read "hey what r u doin today". Their ( ) very tough to talk to.

In all seriousness, there is nothing sexier than a confident, smart woman.

 

[Size13]

An intelligent woman is SO sexy...

Sorry, I just can't do stupid, even for one night.

 

[janeyl]

Not so much intelligence measured in IQ points or qualifications, rather wit, wisdom, a certain sharpness of intellect and an ability to hold a conversation that can fly off into tangents of obscurity...

An absence of original thought, no cultural reference points in common, repeating others parrot fashion or taking on the mannerisms or catchphrases of others just leave me cold...

 

[janeyl]

Intelligence is a major prerequisite for us, and unfortunately, we haven't been able to find too many here who fit the bill. Seems like they're all in this thread! Perhaps if any of you are interested in chatting with a couple, you could PM us?

If you've been looking purely in personals, you'll find that most here think with their little head...there is a plethora of smart, witty individuals playing and posting all over the playground