Inspiration and ideas

[English Gentleman]

I am in a wonderful online relationship with a very devoted sub who is living up to all my expectations (you know who you are!)

She loves to be bound, gagged and 'forced' to whatever her master asks. I have a few ideas about how to please her, both online fantasies and real tasks for her to complete but thought I'd open it up to the wonderful people of Literotica for some more ideas and inspiration.

I look forward to hearing from you,

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am in a wonderful online relationship with a very devoted sub who is living up to all my expectations (you know who you are!)

She loves to be bound, gagged and 'forced' to whatever her master asks. I have a few ideas about how to please her, both online fantasies and real tasks for her to complete but thought I'd open it up to the wonderful people of Literotica for some more ideas and inspiration.

I look forward to hearing from you,

OK, I am curious yet again...how can she be bound, gagged and forced online? As to ideas, my agenda is a little full right now and I have no idea what either of you like so why would I know what you should do?

Catalina

 

[incubus'_sub]

Ditto, Cat.

 

[English Gentleman]

Ok!

Alright, I'm sorry! Wasn't very clear there, it's all about fantasies, didn't mean to be so serious! Just looking for a bit of relaxed (and generic) advice.

Guess I'll just stick to my overactive imagination!

 

[myinnerslut]

hi

if your looking for some ideas about an online D/s relationship, try the distance domination thread, there are other D/s couples who are online oe long distance who post there, including myself, who may be able to answer your quesions.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=474229

 

[English Gentleman]

Cheers!

Thanks for the tip, that's me finished for this evening but I'll definitely check it out next time I'm on.

Take care Literotica, see you all soon

 

[MasterPhoenix]

The only limitation is your imagination.

 

[English Gentleman]

Wow, thats a long thread! Took some serious (but very informative!) working through.

All of the D/s long distance relationships seem to be 'real life' couples who have been separated. Has anyone had a purely online relationship, either via email or IM's? Do you think it can work or will there always be a need for physical contact?

hi

if your looking for some ideas about an online D/s relationship, try the distance domination thread, there are other D/s couples who are online oe long distance who post there, including myself, who may be able to answer your quesions.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=474229

 

[CutieMouse]

Has anyone had a purely online relationship, either via email or IM's? Do you think it can work or will there always be a need for physical contact?

Honest questions...

Would you be perfectly happy going the rest of your life with a phone/computer for a Lover, and not having a person to person physical connection?

How can a purely online relationship, meet one's need for physical contact?

 

[English Gentleman]

How's about (and this might open up a whole can of worms!) a vanilla partnership that provides all the physical contact and love a man could desire, alongside an online D/s relationship that satisfies one's other (slightly more kinky!) needs?

The perfect balance?

Honest questions...

Would you be perfectly happy going the rest of your life with a phone/computer for a Lover, and not having a person to person physical connection?

How can a purely online relationship, meet one's need for physical contact?

 

[FurryFury]

Wow, thats a long thread! Took some serious (but very informative!) working through.

All of the D/s long distance relationships seem to be 'real life' couples who have been separated. Has anyone had a purely online relationship, either via email or IM's? Do you think it can work or will there always be a need for physical contact?

I think it can work provided both parties already have very full lives, someone in RL to have actual sex with and are very dedicated and honest.

If the online relationship provides something they don't get or get enough of and their RL partners are okay with it then it can add a great deal to their lives or at least that is how it works for me.

As to what would be good to do, that depends on the two of you. What you have in common that you hunger for and enjoy should comprise that.

Personally, I don't like to cyber much at all anymore. I do like tasks and training that keep me in a certain mind set as long as those tasks seem to have a purpose or goal other than me being a performing clown like figure.

I enjoy a lot of things though. So that only scratches the surface.

I will say that though it should and could work, most people online seem to have very short attention spans and little or no loyalty. Therefore it seems to many people this is not an honest and important thing to them or if it is, that importance quickly fades and it is hard to sustain a relationship.

It helps if you do plan to turn it into RL because then you are working toward a goal. Otherwise most people will suddenly get distracted, too busy and so on. Of course two truly honest and dedicated people could maintain a long term online relationship. I've known of a few that have. I certainly hope to.

Fury

 

[English Gentleman]

I don't mean to pressure you, and will totally understand if you want to keep it to yourself, but what tasks and training have you been set? Which have been your favourite?

I have a few ideas myself, so don't want to sound desperate or unimaginative, I just feel that it's best to get as much information as posible to ensure my sub and I are as happy and kinky as we can be.

PS Great stories!

I think it can work provided both parties already have very full lives, someone in RL to have actual sex with and are very dedicated and honest.

If the online relationship provides something they don't get or get enough of and their RL partners are okay with it then it can add a great deal to their lives or at least that is how it works for me.

As to what would be good to do, that depends on the two of you. What you have in common that you hunger for and enjoy should comprise that.

Personally, I don't like to cyber much at all anymore. I do like tasks and training that keep me in a certain mind set as long as those tasks seem to have a purpose or goal other than me being a performing clown like figure.

I enjoy a lot of things though. So that only scratches the surface.

Fury

 

[CutieMouse]

How's about (and this might open up a whole can of worms!) a vanilla partnership that provides all the physical contact and love a man could desire, alongside an online D/s relationship that satisfies one's other (slightly more kinky!) needs?

The perfect balance?

IMO that would depend- is *every* person involved (both online partners, as well as the vanilla partners of the online partners) getting their needs met (emotional and physical)? Does every person involved (even those once removed) know about each other?

 

[FurryFury]

How's about (and this might open up a whole can of worms!) a vanilla partnership that provides all the physical contact and love a man could desire, alongside an online D/s relationship that satisfies one's other (slightly more kinky!) needs?

The perfect balance?

Not really the perfect balance IMO. But it can be a good enough balance. If your truly seek and feel a need for BDSM it probably won't totally satisfy. I'm only speaking from my own POV and experience.

Fury

 

[CutieMouse]

... I just feel that it's best to get as much information as posible to ensure my sub and I are as happy and kinky as we can be.

The only way to ensure your submissive and you are as happy and kinky as you can be, would be to discuss it amongst yourselves. Not to be a wet blanket, but IMO asking other people what kinky things they do, only works in a theoretical sense, and without any idea of what a couple is into, makes it difficult to even offer broad sweeping generic ideas.

There are things I view as ultimate acts of submission and kink (and quite a few things that would squick people out), that would do absolutely nothing for someone else- thus it would be rather silly for me to offer those acts as successfully kinky ideas for another. The beauty of being kinky is that (hopefully) you and your partner have had detailed conversations to learn each other's quirks, and thus you have a foundation upon which to expand, to custom tailor online activites between the two of you.

** Edited to add- my apologies if I'm being a bit difficult here; real life stress has be a bit short tempered at the moment.

 

[FurryFury]

I don't mean to pressure you, and will totally understand if you want to keep it to yourself, but what tasks and training have you been set? Which have been your favourite?

I have a few ideas myself, so don't want to sound desperate or unimaginative, I just feel that it's best to get as much information as posible to ensure my sub and I are as happy and kinky as we can be.

PS Great stories!

I think it would be very helpful to you and your lady to both fill out a BDSM activity check list and see what things y'all have in common. At the very least it could be fun. I know it surprised me when I did this with my husband and for my online Dom.

Second the things I liked doing best were tasks that I could fit into my life and which were meant to help me in some area that I was worried about or felt inadequate with. If the tasks were not chosen by someone with a great deal of experience, intelligence and wisdom that wouldn't have worked as intended and I might not have lived them.

One simple task was to practice kegels each day a certain number of them for a certain number of times.

Another was to masturbate by hand only a certain number of times a day for a certain period of time, stopping when the time was up whether I came or not. This was about my worries that I couldn't come without a vibe btw.

Some of the things that I liked doing were also purely to please him and were sensation oriented ones. I'm a sensation addict so that makes sense. One involved ice and hot wax.

The ones to please him also made me happy as long as I didn't end up feeling like a clown as I said or they didn't go past any of my few but strong limits.
I won't do anything in public, or send pictures of private parts for instance.

Fitting everything into my days or nights can be challenging at times. When I can't the things I do for me tend to be the balls I drop in my juggling act first.

To be honest I do BDSM for me as well as for him.

I hope this response is helpful to you.

Fury

 

[Blushing Bottom]

A taste...

A Dom once had me go into the pharmacy and purchase, lube, condoms and a Fleets enema. I was to purchase nothing else and was to give him the receipt when we later met. I was to include no other purchases in with those items so to be sure that the cashier, if at all aware, would be clear about what I was going to get.

I was mortified when the woman winked at me as she bagged my purchases and was treated to a glorious a...well you know later that month for completing my task. I still imagine my chagrin had that cashier been a man.

Though none of my online relationships have ever remained just online, I do understand the need to stay connected in any way possible. Keep looking you find loads of things to torture your little subbie with to be sure.

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I don't mean to pressure you, and will totally understand if you want to keep it to yourself, but what tasks and training have you been set? Which have been your favourite?

I have a few ideas myself, so don't want to sound desperate or unimaginative, I just feel that it's best to get as much information as posible to ensure my sub and I are as happy and kinky as we can be.

PS Great stories!