Insecurity to infidelity does one lead to the other?

[MaturemanAJ]

So here is a question for Lit readers and the mental health professionals that monitor these pages searching for answers.
Does a person's insecurity lead to infidelity?
We all know that there are tons of sexless marriages and relationships out there yet some decide that isn't enough of a reason to end a relationship.
I honestly don't know many people that have been 100% faithful in relationships including family, friends, neighbors and co workers.
Is it insecurity? Boredom? The thrill of something new and different that drives people to having affairs or fwb?

 

[Robbie527]

Who knows. Seems impossible to make any general assumptions given the variability of humans. A psychologists report prepared on my wife after she was assaulted concluded that she sought sexual contact as a way of making herself feel greater self worth. Without frequent intercourse she would be likely to become increasingly depressed. The only thing that he recommended was that she always carried condoms and always let somebody know who she was meeting and where. So I guess in her case it was insecurity coupled with a bi-polar condition that drove her to seek the thing she needs largely regardless of risk.

 

[Man4mystery]

For me it was the risk, the pleasure of someone new, the thrill… believe it or not, my affair has increased my libido with my wife

 

[live4thebj]

Not for me. Not insecure. I for the most part monogamous. But I did cheat a few times on a mother I dated for two years. I wasn’t ready for a relationship so close to my divorce but it happened and the sex was like out of a porn movie with her.

 

[Budgie698]

Been married for 46 years the last 15 I've had no sex at all with my wife only enjoyment is to masterbate, coming to a head now getting me down .

 

[Man4mystery]

Been married for 46 years the last 15 I've had no sex at all with my wife only enjoyment is to masterbate, coming to a head now getting me down .

15 years? My god man! Find a side hustle, maybe she has?

 

[Man4mystery]

So here is a question for Lit readers and the mental health professionals that monitor these pages searching for answers.
Does a person's insecurity lead to infidelity?
We all know that there are tons of sexless marriages and relationships out there yet some decide that isn't enough of a reason to end a relationship.
I honestly don't know many people that have been 100% faithful in relationships including family, friends, neighbors and co workers.
Is it insecurity? Boredom? The thrill of something new and different that drives people to having affairs or fwb?

Boredom, the thrill, the risk of being caught. Hormones take over