innocent, but... finding words to express....

[lilpriss]

I'm looking for words that will express attraction for the new man I've been seeing...

A few suggestions would be nice...

I don't want the guy to start paying someone to protect his pet or anything, but I do want to let him know that I'm starting to really dig him. We've been seeing each other casually for maybe six weeks.

I'm not usually at a loss for words, but this one's different... I get all shaky and my hands start to sweat. I know it's not exactly a "sex" how to, but hey, ya gotta start somewhere... although thus far... on sex... neither of us seem to need any "how to" advice...

I guess I'm just getting a little spooked.

 

[Lust Engine]

So what's wrong with being nervous a little bit?!

Go with the flow baby! Be yourself.

Since you already seem to have at least a casual relationship with the guy, build upon that. Any lines that I might give might not even sound like you. If you're gonna snag this guy, it's gonna be with your charms, wit & cute wiggle of your butt.

Just keep delving into who & what he's about. Pay attention to what he's into, interject your thoughts on it and continue the dialogue back & forth. Take a deep breath.

You've always seem like a perfectly sound & rational person here and I'm willing to bet even money that you are outside of Lit too. But realize that your nervousness is a good thing too. A little enthusiasm shown to a guy? Wow- that's a major icebreaker right there! I'm sure you're doing more than fine. Just keep the lines of communication rolling; this is just the build up to something that could really be cool. It does get easier for the both of you guys.

Again, good luck.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I want what you got...

I crave the feelings you are having...when is MY turn?...lol

 

[lilpriss]

Thanks LE for the encouragement, you are a sweetie. That's just it LE I'm starting to think if I continue going with the flow, then it will stay just casual... <sigh>

and Jeff, you'll get yours, just remember what comes around goes around.

 

[Lust Engine]

Thanks LE for the encouragement, you are a sweetie. That's just it LE I'm starting to think if I continue going with the flow, then it will stay just casual... <sigh>

Well, m'dear lilpriss... who's to say that you still can't ask him out to lunch, dinner or a movie. As subtle and innocent as that is, it is almost connsidered by most standards, the next step up in a relationship. See where it goes from there with him. If he accepts and you guys have a blast, then let him know you had fun. In so many words, also let him know you'd like to do it again (ie. the set up for ANOTHER date). By letting him know you enjoy his company, you can see how he responds to your presence. If he agrees to being with you, then I think the embers of a more serious relationship could be flaring up a bit.

Again, my line about "going with the flow" meant more about you being yourself, letting YOUR own charm work its wonders and not being phony and trying to come up with pick up lines or do things out of your way to impress someone. Be yourself by all means and if your Mr. Wonderful is worthwhile, he'll notice you for you and not some glossy fake pumped up pretense.

Again, good luck!

 

[lilpriss]

aww shucks... <kicks the ground with hands behind back, swinging back and forth>

Thanks Lust E. I just have these freak out moments at times. Which is silly but we all do it.

 

[Aston]

How about, "I dig you. You make me feel like I used to feel when I was a kid going really high on the swingsets. You know, when you are so high in the air that you almost fly out of your seat? That's how you make me feel." This is what I told my now wife when I asked her to marry me.

I'm looking for words that will express attraction for the new man I've been seeing...

A few suggestions would be nice...

I don't want the guy to start paying someone to protect his pet or anything, but I do want to let him know that I'm starting to really dig him. We've been seeing each other casually for maybe six weeks.

I'm not usually at a loss for words, but this one's different... I get all shaky and my hands start to sweat. I know it's not exactly a "sex" how to, but hey, ya gotta start somewhere... although thus far... on sex... neither of us seem to need any "how to" advice...

I guess I'm just getting a little spooked.

 

[lilpriss]

Oh wow, that is so sweet! It's also close to accurate on the way he makes me feel...

however it's more like a "Oh shit!!! Run! Run away!! no... GO BACK!!! That quesy stomach is butterflies and I like it. Ok, wipe hands off on pants and be cool... ooh, maybe hot would be better... WAIT! ERRR uhh, ummm shit... just kiss the boy! Ok, now do it again..." See, this is where the mind wanders when left alone to it's devices... I become a bumbling freak.

I think the whole non-planned... see what happens approach will be best, I'm known for being out there with my opinions and things I say... So who knows what will pop out.

In answer to a question he asked while in bed ... "do you like it?" I, instinctively, simply told him, "I like you." And that seemed to work pretty well. It's plain spoken and true. his response? "You do?" hmmmmm.... Whatever, I'm not going to analyze it to death. Because I could if i wanted... and I might not like what I came up with... the proper response would seem to be, "I like you too..." so.... AND I SAID I WASN'T GOING TO ANALYZE...

Good night.

 

[Lust Engine]

Great suggestion by you as to not over analyzing, lilpriss. If you start examining every bit of minutia, of course you're gonna sound & look dorky! We can't be smooth, suave & debonair 24/7 now! That's why I said go with it. So what if you sound a little goofy... it's genuinely you coming through! It's actually kinda cute to see someone all googily every once in awhile.

If the relationship evolves on its own, you'll be able to look back & laugh at how silly you were and hopefully not be too ashamed. Again... you'll do absolutely 110% fine by being YOU!

 

[HzDomme]

In answer to a question he asked while in bed ... "do you like it?" I, instinctively, simply told him, "I like you." And that seemed to work pretty well. It's plain spoken and true. his response? "You do?" hmmmmm.... Whatever, I'm not going to analyze it to death. Because I could if i wanted... and I might not like what I came up with... the proper response would seem to be, "I like you too..." so.... AND I SAID I WASN'T GOING TO ANALYZE...

Good night.

This may be a stupid question, or maybe I'm just getting old;
but don't you think it is a good idea to know if someone likes you before you have sex with them?
If you're sleeping together it might not be a bad idea to discuss all the "what ifs"......

 

[lilpriss]

Hz, trying to reprimand me for being impulsive isn't the topic.

And one would hope that two people in bed together WOULD like each other. However we all have moments of insecurity.

 

[Lust Engine]

However we all have moments of insecurity.

And if we didn't at least have a few moments of insecurity, we'd probably become complacent and a total bore to be with.

You hanging in there, lilpriss??

 

[HzDomme]

Hz, trying to reprimand me for being impulsive isn't the topic.

And one would hope that two people in bed together WOULD like each other. However we all have moments of insecurity.

lilpriss,
Reading the thread and the answers you received I thought you meant you were just dating. I didn't read your original question clearly enough. You said you'd been seeing each other casually. I wrongly assumed that you were not having a sexual relationship. It threw me when you said you told him you liked him, after you'd had sex, and his reply was so..... casual. I posted that reply without thinking. Please accept my apologies, I truly was not trying to reprimand you and I'm sorry I offended you.

 

[lilpriss]

Thanks LE for asking, things seem to be going well. I'm getting more affirmation about how he's feeling which helps a LOT. Starting to look more like more than casual... YIPPPEEE!!!

Hz, I accept your apology... we all have instant responses. No biggie.

 

[Lust Engine]

Thanks LE for asking, things seem to be going well. I'm getting more affirmation about how he's feeling which helps a LOT. Starting to look more like more than casual... YIPPPEEE!!!

Keep enjoying it lilpriss! Keep enjoying! That's what it's supposed to be about!

I'm happy for ya.