InnerKitty Questions

[graceanne]

Jesus is there a queue?

Or do they work through levels?

Can we have a poll on it?

Or do we have to guess which newbie is at what level?

If there are any newbies that hear voices, do the voices get their own list?

You fill my mind with questions when its past my bedtime

Maybe it's another quiz for cosmo . . . 'who should you hate first?'

 

[shy slave]

Maybe it's another quiz for cosmo . . . 'who should you hate first?'

At this rate you will be a millionaire by Christmas lol

 

[graceanne]

At this rate you will be a millionaire by Christmas lol

woo hoo

I was born to be a millionaire.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Maybe it's another quiz for cosmo . . . 'who should you hate first?'

Start a poll. It would be me, hands down.

I strive to win!!! Dontcha know? And it'll be the only list type thread that I make, too.

LMAO

 

[InnerKitty]

errr???

thanks-all of you. I am still a little lost. But you have given me some great resources to go to.

I am still trying to figure out exactly what BDSM is and how it fits into my lifestyle. Did I mention I love leather and having leather on me tight! especially if it restricts my breathing. and I like to be choked a little, it pushes me into orgasm everytime. ooo baby, yank my hair! Okay, maybe I am just weird! LOL!
I am so confused. lol!

I was really hoping that, you know, I could get some ideas where to take it from here, suggestions of things to do. pointers. lets say, i am going to try being a sub- what does a dom do exactly? strangely enough, I'll have to tell my man what he needs to do for me. so we are both virgins here.. lol!

thanks again all of you, even the chatter was fun,
InnerKitty

 

[graceanne]

thanks-all of you. I am still a little lost. But you have given me some great resources to go to.

I am still trying to figure out exactly what BDSM is and how it fits into my lifestyle. Did I mention I love leather and having leather on me tight! especially if it restricts my breathing. and I like to be choked a little, it pushes me into orgasm everytime. ooo baby, yank my hair! Okay, maybe I am just weird! LOL!
I am so confused. lol!

I was really hoping that, you know, I could get some ideas where to take it from here, suggestions of things to do. pointers. lets say, i am going to try being a sub- what does a dom do exactly? strangely enough, I'll have to tell my man what he needs to do for me. so we are both virgins here.. lol!

thanks again all of you, even the chatter was fun,
InnerKitty

Like I said, find a checklist, that'll give you an idea of where to go next. Have him fill out a checklist, too. And cause I'm feeling nice I'll give you a place to start:

http://ms.ha.md.us/~tammad/over21/b...-checklist.html
http://smvillage.com/Modules/checklist2/default.asp
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_checklist.html
http://members.aol.com/MasterNik/BDSMCheckList.html
http://www.domsubfriends.com/library/question1.shtml
http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/checklst.html

 

[chris9]

thanks-all of you. I am still a little lost. But you have given me some great resources to go to.

I am still trying to figure out exactly what BDSM is and how it fits into my lifestyle. Did I mention I love leather and having leather on me tight! especially if it restricts my breathing. and I like to be choked a little, it pushes me into orgasm everytime. ooo baby, yank my hair! Okay, maybe I am just weird! LOL!
I am so confused. lol!

I was really hoping that, you know, I could get some ideas where to take it from here, suggestions of things to do. pointers. lets say, i am going to try being a sub- what does a dom do exactly? strangely enough, I'll have to tell my man what he needs to do for me. so we are both virgins here.. lol!

thanks again all of you, even the chatter was fun,
InnerKitty

It sounds like a bit of reading could be beneficial to both you and your man. Read up on the things you like already (google is a good place to start), learn about it, think about it, talk about it (both with each other and with others, like here).
Noone here will be able to tell you what a dom does exactly do. Or what the sub should do. It depends much from person to person, from couple to couple. Both of you have to figure out what exactly you want and need for your relationship.
This can be done by reading stuff. Try a mixture of reading stories here on Lit or from other sites, and reading informative things. Look at books with info, you'll find several threads here with book suggestions. See what turns you on, and what you don't like. Ask your partner to do the same. Compare notes. Pick stories you like for each other to read. Talk some more about it. Try out what you found you might enjoy.

You might also want to ask yourself if you want to put his needs first, submit to him, do what he wants you to do, or if you enjoy some actions that might seem submissive, like being spanked, tied up, only if and when and what you want. To make it clear, neither is good, or bad, or better or worse than the other, just different, and it's easier to find out what you want to try, and how you want to interact if you already know this.