Inexperienced with online Domme/Sub relationships and how they work. can you help?

[CuriousKimmy]

Hi,

I'm Kimmy 24 and submissive. I've come to realize that I become more alive than I've ever felt before when being controlled by and older Domme. I had one RL relationship for 3 months when I was 19, on summer break from college. I now crave this type of connection and am wondering if anyone with experience could tell me what are the expectations of an online sub? I'm sure there must be some guidelines and rules that are established. Trying to understand what is expected of me if I seek out a relationship with a Domme online. Thank you for your input.

 

[GriffinTheGryphon]

Since you can't meet IRL, I think one of the best things to keep in mind about an online D/s relationship is to get comfy using a camera! Pics and vids! It's one of the best ways to tease each other with sexy peeks at each others' hot bods ;3

But on a more macro level, what's most likely is you'll spend some time feeling out each others' wants and needs. Once you've reached an agreement and want to go forward, you'll find that the most typical and direct way to dom(me) someone online is to make demands and enforce rules. After all they can't be there themself! So it's up to you to keep to an honour system and report yourself if you fail or disobey. Be ready to give yourself punishments ;3

Common orders include limiting what you can wear (like, say, no panties ever again), enforcing things like always having to ask permission to reach orgasm (or even just touch yourself!), or making it a necessity to *always* refer to your dom(me) by their title.

 

[CuriousKimmy]

Since you can't meet IRL, I think one of the best things to keep in mind about an online D/s relationship is to get comfy using a camera! Pics and vids! It's one of the best ways to tease each other with sexy peeks at each others' hot bods ;3

But on a more macro level, what's most likely is you'll spend some time feeling out each others' wants and needs. Once you've reached an agreement and want to go forward, you'll find that the most typical and direct way to dom(me) someone online is to make demands and enforce rules. After all they can't be there themself! So it's up to you to keep to an honour system and report yourself if you fail or disobey. Be ready to give yourself punishments ;3

Common orders include limiting what you can wear (like, say, no panties ever again), enforcing things like always having to ask permission to reach orgasm (or even just touch yourself!), or making it a necessity to *always* refer to your dom(me) by their title.

Thank you for your input. Will keep this in mind.

 

[AZeroticist]

I would agree with much of what has been written above.

However, I would also say that a lack of camera and pics, the relationship becomes fantasy in and of itself, with no accountability to do what you've been asked. That comes through the relationship.

To receive clear instructions and follow them, you must have given some boundaries you are uncomfortable crossing. These need to be respected, though in time, pushing them may be necessary to open your mind further.

A sub needs her dome, but the domme should cherish the sub for what she craves in her obedience.