Indecision

[ultramarineblue]

Does anything ever make you indecisive? If so, what?

 

[cromsgirl]

Just about everything

Most things make me indecisive. Choosing food is a really bad one. Clothes usually aren't too bad, 'cuz I don't have that much choice. Usually always willing to hang out with friends, except when they decide to go to New Orleans.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sunday mornings; should I get up off the sofa and make more coffee, or should I lie here under the laptop for another couple hours untill nap time?

 

[teknight]

Does anything ever make you indecisive? If so, what?

Food at a restaurant. I hate menus!

 

[Kitkat103]

Everything makes me indecisive. It takes me 2x as long as the average person to purchase groceries. I go to Whole Foods because I only have one choice: The Cheap one.

 

[ultramarineblue]

Most things make me indecisive. Choosing food is a really bad one. Clothes usually aren't too bad, 'cuz I don't have that much choice. Usually always willing to hang out with friends, except when they decide to go to New Orleans.

Food isn't too bad especially when I have an idea of what the menu is or what the food will be like. I can be indecisive about it though. It's the same for me with clothes except when buying them.

Sunday mornings; should I get up off the sofa and make more coffee, or should I lie here under the laptop for another couple hours untill nap time?

For me, that's a good indecisive when there isn't anything that needs doing.

Food at a restaurant. I hate menus!

Why? Because you want to try everything or don't want to be disappointed in what you think it will be like and it isn't at a place you haven't been?

Everything makes me indecisive. It takes me 2x as long as the average person to purchase groceries. I go to Whole Foods because I only have one choice: The Cheap one.

Groceries aren't too bad for me. It's the other stuff like music, books, clothes, etc. I have trouble justifying whether or not I really need the other stuff.

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When I'm by myself I have no problem making the decision about what I want to do, eat, etc. When I'm with someone else I have a lot of trouble making a decision. I want everyone to be happy even though I know it isn't possible. I don't care if I like what the outcome of the decision is so long as everyone else likes it.

 

[where]

choice. I went into a starbucks once and had to leave because the 5 hudred ways with coffee just freaked me out.

I have so many clothes but i wear the same ones because I can't decide what to wear.

But I'm good with aesthetics. I'm happy with my choices then.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Buying furniture. For example, 2 summers ago I moved to my present house. The living room is part of a L shaped great room including a dining room and a kitchen. I need seating. Right now I have a leather Stressless recliner and an old sectional split in parts so it will fit the room. It is falling apart but I can't figure o ut what I am looking for. I am willing to spend the money for something high quality but I refuse to spend anything if it is not exactly perfect. So I put up with ugly old stuff because I can't make a decision on what I want to spent money on.

 

[the captians wench]

I am totally indecisive in most ways.

I don't have a problem with clothes so much, except for buying them. Well, I have a problem buying anything for myself really. I am very cheap when it comes to spending money on myself. I just can't justify spending the money to buy the things I like. My mom thinks it goes to self esteme issues, because I don't have the same trouble when I buy for other people.

One of my friends likes to put me incharge of picking where we eat when we are out. He likes to see me pout and fret over something he thinks is such an easy question. But I do fret over it. I worry that I'm going to choose the wrong thing, and no matter how much they tell me that's not even possible, I still worry about it. I worry that people are as polite as I am and will simply go along with me to not hurt my feelings. I forget they speak up more than I do so that's really not even possible. And yet every time he says "we'll let wenchie choose" I get butterflies in my stomach and nearly burst out of my skin with anxioty.

 

[BiBunny]

I'm indecisive about pretty much everything. I've been accused of being "afraid" of making decisions, but that's not true. I told my roommate the other day that, to me, making decisions is like singing. I'm not afraid of singing--I just know I'm awful at it and try to avoid doing it as much as possible.

 

[ownedsubgal]

any time i have actual options, and am actually expected to make an independent decision. non-life-threatening situations excluded.

 

[Netzach]

90 percent of the time I really just want someone else to decide for me. Where, when, how, what to bring - I want to have people FOR that.

Ten percent of the time if anyone thinks they're going to decide for me, it's going to be disappointing as hell to them. Blood will be drawn if need be.

 

[Netzach]

Buying furniture. For example, 2 summers ago I moved to my present house. The living room is part of a L shaped great room including a dining room and a kitchen. I need seating. Right now I have a leather Stressless recliner and an old sectional split in parts so it will fit the room. It is falling apart but I can't figure o ut what I am looking for. I am willing to spend the money for something high quality but I refuse to spend anything if it is not exactly perfect. So I put up with ugly old stuff because I can't make a decision on what I want to spent money on.

For a visually talented person I have absolutely no clue what I would want in my environment - if you handed me unlimited money I'd probably have a meltdown - mid century modern, modern, traditional and overstuffed, white looks so crappy so fast, dark looks so dated so fast - I have no idea.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Everything makes me indecisive. I just hate making decisions! I prefer leave the decisions to someone esle, if possible.

 

[wicked woman]

No, not indecisive. Don't have a problem making decisions although sometimes I get lazy about routine stuff. Like if I'm buying a muffin in the morning, I often get the same kind. I like it a lot so don't tire of it and it saves me making a decision in the morning. Or going out for lunch...I'm a bit of it's Monday so I'm having lunch at restaurant X.

Some people might think it's because I have difficulty making decisions, butit's more that I can't be bothered over the little stuff. I'm flexible enough that I can change it up if I have to but I have enough stress in my life without sweating over the little stuff.


I don't usually find big decisions that difficult. My logical analytical nature steps up.

 

[Chiara_searches]

I've spent the last week indecisive about sharing.

I am indecisive about moving even though I am doing so in a week.

 

[bronco20]

im indecisive on just about everything, something my friends never let me forget...they always ask what i want to do knowing i will just defer to one of them...

 

[the captians wench]

You know I don't have as many problems with big decitions as I do little ones.

Ask me where I see myself in 5 years, and I can give you a very detailed plan.

Ask me where we should eat lunch, and I freeze up.

 

[ArchLady03]

I'm always indecisive on Friday, Saturday and Sunday mornings. Should I get up and start on work right away or sleep in an extra hour? Should I clean the apartment first or start on my design project? So much indecision!

 

[ultramarineblue]

choice. I went into a starbucks once and had to leave because the 5 hudred ways with coffee just freaked me out.

I have so many clothes but i wear the same ones because I can't decide what to wear.

But I'm good with aesthetics. I'm happy with my choices then.

Too many choices in any situation has that effect on me. I'm always glad when I find a coffee or thing I like when I'm given many choices.

Buying furniture. For example, 2 summers ago I moved to my present house. The living room is part of a L shaped great room including a dining room and a kitchen. I need seating. Right now I have a leather Stressless recliner and an old sectional split in parts so it will fit the room. It is falling apart but I can't figure o ut what I am looking for. I am willing to spend the money for something high quality but I refuse to spend anything if it is not exactly perfect. So I put up with ugly old stuff because I can't make a decision on what I want to spent money on.

I'm like you in that I want to find things that are perfect especially when I'm spending a good bit of money. I certainly don't have money to spend on something that might do.

I am totally indecisive in most ways.

I don't have a problem with clothes so much, except for buying them. Well, I have a problem buying anything for myself really. I am very cheap when it comes to spending money on myself. I just can't justify spending the money to buy the things I like. My mom thinks it goes to self esteme issues, because I don't have the same trouble when I buy for other people.

One of my friends likes to put me incharge of picking where we eat when we are out. He likes to see me pout and fret over something he thinks is such an easy question. But I do fret over it. I worry that I'm going to choose the wrong thing, and no matter how much they tell me that's not even possible, I still worry about it. I worry that people are as polite as I am and will simply go along with me to not hurt my feelings. I forget they speak up more than I do so that's really not even possible. And yet every time he says "we'll let wenchie choose" I get butterflies in my stomach and nearly burst out of my skin with anxioty.

I ended up choosing where we went for the ladies munch this last month. We don't decide until we get together and most of the ladies couldn't go to dinner. I hated choosing. I felt guilty about it the entire time because I was worried that the other two ladies would rather go somewhere else.

I'm indecisive about pretty much everything. I've been accused of being "afraid" of making decisions, but that's not true. I told my roommate the other day that, to me, making decisions is like singing. I'm not afraid of singing--I just know I'm awful at it and try to avoid doing it as much as possible.

I like the comparison to singing. I'll have to use that one since I must be absolutely tone deaf.

 

[ultramarineblue]

90 percent of the time I really just want someone else to decide for me. Where, when, how, what to bring - I want to have people FOR that.

Ten percent of the time if anyone thinks they're going to decide for me, it's going to be disappointing as hell to them. Blood will be drawn if need be.

At first I read this as meaning that you would want people to make decisions for you until someone assumed that was what you wanted. Then I realized that may not actually be the case. I'm like that though especially with people I know very well.

Everything makes me indecisive. I just hate making decisions! I prefer leave the decisions to someone esle, if possible.

My stomach feels as though it is tied up in knots the more indecisive I feel.

No, not indecisive. Don't have a problem making decisions although sometimes I get lazy about routine stuff. Like if I'm buying a muffin in the morning, I often get the same kind. I like it a lot so don't tire of it and it saves me making a decision in the morning. Or going out for lunch...I'm a bit of it's Monday so I'm having lunch at restaurant X.

Some people might think it's because I have difficulty making decisions, butit's more that I can't be bothered over the little stuff. I'm flexible enough that I can change it up if I have to but I have enough stress in my life without sweating over the little stuff.


I don't usually find big decisions that difficult. My logical analytica naturel steps up.

I would imagine that your manner would imply that you didn't have trouble making decisions in spite of choosing the same breakfast, etc.

Do you ever find yourself at a place while making a big decision where either way has equal positive and negative aspects to it?

I've spent the last week indecisive about sharing.

I am indecisive about moving even though I am doing so in a week.

What makes you indecisive about moving?

I already know I don't much like sharing. Some things I don't mind but for the most part, I like my own space and my own things. If I mess something up, it's my own fault if I didn't share.

 

[ultramarineblue]

im indecisive on just about everything, something my friends never let me forget...they always ask what i want to do knowing i will just defer to one of them...

Do you ever think about telling them something you want to do to see what their response will be?

You know I don't have as many problems with big decitions as I do little ones.

Ask me where I see myself in 5 years, and I can give you a very detailed plan.

Ask me where we should eat lunch, and I freeze up.

That's good that you know the big picture of what you want. The little things like where you're going to eat lunch won't matter so much in a week or so.

I'm always indecisive on Friday, Saturday and Sunday mornings. Should I get up and start on work right away or sleep in an extra hour? Should I clean the apartment first or start on my design project? So much indecision!

For me those choices would be more of a choice of what I wanted to do more. My answer would be to not do the responsible things but do the fun things.

 

[wicked woman]

I would imagine that your manner would imply that you didn't have trouble making decisions in spite of choosing the same breakfast, etc.

Do you ever find yourself at a place while making a big decision where either way has equal positive and negative aspects to it?

No it's not a problem. I can decide (like I do when my preferred muffin is gone) I just decide to have the same kind because really it doesn't matter and I'm happy with it. I make decisions at work all the time...people come to me to make decisions...so it's more a case of relieving stress to reduce the number of decisions that I have to make.

Interesting question. For the most part no. But if that was the case, the decision is easier, because there`s no down side, regardless of which I choose. It doesn`t matter which choice I make...each is equally good and bad. I have more than once not liked the answer that rational thought gave me though. We don`t always like what`s best for us.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm not generally the least bit indecisive. I have random moments of it but mostly I make decisions easily and stick to them.

If my friends are going to New Orleans I'm sure as shit going if I can possibly get away and afford it. It's one of my FAV places to visit. If I were singled and could afford to live in the quarter, working on my art I'd do it in a heart beat! LOL

 

[Netzach]

At first I read this as meaning that you would want people to make decisions for you until someone assumed that was what you wanted. Then I realized that may not actually be the case. I'm like that though especially with people I know very well.

Yeah no, I just want an activities coordinator or assistant to figure out the stuff I don't really care about on the conscious level for me. Obviously it would be like "what kind of food do you want?" "Light, non oily, cold" or "Hot and filling" and poof, there it would be.