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Expensive is fine for something so importantkurvy1 said:
Anything that vibrates really fast and hard is worth the money 
Increase his interest in foreplay?
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Anything that vibrates really fast and hard is worth the money eudaemonia
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jaded_pleasures said:
Here you go:
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Good Vibrations
Freddy and Eddy
SweetErika had some good suggestions about G-spot vibes, but I can't find them right now.
fae_bella said:
Of course. After all, who has any self-control when it comes to GoodVibrations.com, erm, I mean HomeDepot.
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I've been browsing the Lit toy store. Hmm...fae_bella said:
hehe.
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Definitely. Dead batteries with no replacements can kill the mood very quickly.kurvy1 said:Yes, plug-in vibes are the way to go if you ask me
Guys like this need to be tied firmly spread eagle to the bed and teased merciless until you are ready! Daring him not to come helps.
When you are physically ready slowly lower yourself on him. if he is still too wound up, pull off, keep bringing him close to edge and then back off, when you can't stand it anymore, then let yourself go, and maybe release his arms. When you finally let him come, he'll come so hard that the quick forget-that-I-have-a-partner sex should be a distant memory.
Frankly, if a guy can't wait for me to be ready too, he is history. It is not okay to hurt your partner in your hurry to get yourself off. That is what flesh pots or blow up dolls are for, not lovers. he doesn't like lubes? how nice for him, I hope he learns to love them or you replace him before you hit menopause.
He loves whatever you do, but doesn't seem do whatever you love or even be concerned. Maybe he is just being oblivious, I am sure someone will advise you how to talk to him about this. Its not fair to expect perfect lovers, but ones who value their partners enjoyment as much their own is a reasonable expectation
When you are physically ready slowly lower yourself on him. if he is still too wound up, pull off, keep bringing him close to edge and then back off, when you can't stand it anymore, then let yourself go, and maybe release his arms. When you finally let him come, he'll come so hard that the quick forget-that-I-have-a-partner sex should be a distant memory.
Frankly, if a guy can't wait for me to be ready too, he is history. It is not okay to hurt your partner in your hurry to get yourself off. That is what flesh pots or blow up dolls are for, not lovers. he doesn't like lubes? how nice for him, I hope he learns to love them or you replace him before you hit menopause.
He loves whatever you do, but doesn't seem do whatever you love or even be concerned. Maybe he is just being oblivious, I am sure someone will advise you how to talk to him about this. Its not fair to expect perfect lovers, but ones who value their partners enjoyment as much their own is a reasonable expectation
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Awesome advice girlMitsouko said:
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Aw mankurvy1 said:True, plus I always break the battery vibes too quickly. Kong is already working only intermittently
Intermittent vibes are just a big 'ol tease. Can't stand that. I am a fan of the bullet/clit stimulators. I'm trying to find something that will stay in place during sex so we can both climax together...eudaemonia
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fae_bella said:
...preferrably with fast rechargeable batteries ...
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Hehe. I'm liking the idea of a plug-in one.eudaemonia said:
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try this
Ahh the impetueousness of youth. Don't worry, his "get ready" time will slow down with age. (sad but true fact of life). Here is a humble suggestion from a male perspective. Set him in a chair at the foot of the bed and tell him that you want to "put on a show for him". Then show him what you like, and how you like it, saying "I really love it when you do .......(add appropriate action here)" This would be really very sexy for him, (be ready for a rapid response), and he might get an idea what it is that you want/need. when it comes to things like that we can be pretty thick headed, but occasionally can take a well placed hint!
Ahh the impetueousness of youth. Don't worry, his "get ready" time will slow down with age. (sad but true fact of life). Here is a humble suggestion from a male perspective. Set him in a chair at the foot of the bed and tell him that you want to "put on a show for him". Then show him what you like, and how you like it, saying "I really love it when you do .......(add appropriate action here)" This would be really very sexy for him, (be ready for a rapid response), and he might get an idea what it is that you want/need. when it comes to things like that we can be pretty thick headed, but occasionally can take a well placed hint!
fae_bella said:
Just like my wife did..."give me more foreplay, or you're not getting a damn thing".
Don't spread your legs until you're ready for some vaginal stimulation...didn't say penetration either...just stimulation.
he needs to understand that you're not just a fuck doll...you have feelings and physical needs too.
then again, don't expect him to be perfect everytime. some days you have time for 30 mins of foreplay, other days its a 'wham bam thank you ma'am' quickie.
each has its place...and he needs to learn that.
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That's what I mean Scaly, he just doesn't get it. Making it all about her doesn't make it less pleasurable for him, it will make it MORE pleasurable for him. Maybe our attitude isn't as selfless as we like to think and we're actually being selfish by pleasing them for our pleasure, but so far I haven't had any complaints about this approach.Scalywag said:
She said it perfectly though:
Not uncommon for young men to have this gap in their knowledge. The only way to get it though is if they can swallow their pride long enough to realize that they aren't born with the knowledge and skills of they need to be a superior lover. Most young men think it's some kind of failing if they can't do everything right just on instinct. The problem is our instincts are for mating, not love making. Ego is what gets in the way.
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human_male said:Wow, he sure sounds like mr. wonderful.
And I can't get laid.
LOL, u and me both
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I never even thought about it this way, but it makes perfect sense to me.
Well said.
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Well said.
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The Hitachi Magic Wand with g-spot and straight attachments is the best. Electric, powerful, high quality (even has a two year warranty!) and extremely versatile -- clit, g-spot, vaginal, anal, penile, nipple and muscle stimulation, masturbation, during sex, double penetration, etc. I'm getting all tingly just thinking about it!jaded_pleasures said:Hehe. I'm liking the idea of a plug-in one.
Anyway, Ladies, perhaps your guys don't know what to do and/or are just haven't realized sex isn't all about them yet, but it sounds like you haven't been taking an active role in making it better either. I've been there myself, and am certain I still would be had I not really started learning and communicating with my husband. It was tough to address our issues at first, especially because I didn't want him to feel bad, but with the help of Lit and the knowledge it wasn't going to get better on its own, I gathered up the courage to start talking.
I started by asking him what he thought of different acts, ideas, and sexual issues in general. I asked if he'd be up for trying some new techniques (e.g. those in Mr. GGG's "Try this and Report Back" thread, from The Blank Manual and stories) and toys. He was up for that, so we experimented often, which added a lot of fun and excitement for both of us. When I saw toys or lubes that looked good, I simply let him know I was purchasing them for us to try. I gave him lots of specific feedback and praise while and after he did things that felt good, encouraged and asked for more in subsequent sessions.
When he did things I didn't like or I wasn't ready, I told him so in a clear, nice, way. If I needed more lube or foreplay, I'd say, "Babe, I need more lube," or, "I'd really love to feel your mouth/fingers/toy first." He's learned sex is usually infinitely better if I have at least one orgasm first, and we've both come to understand pre-sex orgasms are a key factor in coming during sex.
Communicating got so much easier after I took the first few steps, and now we both have the sex life we really want. I shudder to think where we'd be if I hadn't started educating myself and him about my needs and wants.
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Ask him for what you want. If he doesn't comply, keep on asking. If not then, keep your legs closed untiil he does comply.
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