In need of advice.

[smallbite]

I'm not too sure if this is where I should post this, but I'll ask anyway, and if it's in the wrong spot, I'm sure it can be moved.

I'm trying to write a story for my boyfriend, it will be my first but I'm not too sure where to start, or where to get inspiration from, and I thought it might be a good idea to ask here.

When you want to write a story, what process do you use? What usually inspires you, real life or fantasy? How would you go about writing for someone special?

 

[rgraham666]

When I write for someone special I dream up a scenario that I know I'd enjoy. And that they'd enjoy.

I go into great detail about what happens and more importantly, how I feel.

For an example try this story of mine, Distraction.

Welcome to the AH.

 

[MagicaPractica]

A good place to start is with your own personal fantasies. Do you have one that you think about sometimes? Just relax and picture that fantasy and describe it in words. If you're writing it for your boyfriend and he isn't usually the main focus of such fantasies maybe you could go back after you've written it and write him in as the male lead. If there are any particular kinks of his, you could then work them in. Good luck.

 

[tickledkitty]

I usually pretty much have a story completely worked out in my head before I start to write. Sometimes my inspiration comes from dreams, sometimes from things I see/hear/read, sometimes from other people. My characters live in my head and I can almost see their stories playing out like a movie.

A good place to start would be one of your fantasies. Just write it down and see where it takes you. You don't have to start at the beginning. You can always go back and add to it. I wrote a sex scene once and kept it for a long time before I added a story around it.

This probably doesn't seem very helpful, but I think writing is a personal thing, and everybody goes about it differently. You could also read some of the stories here for inspiration, and read some of the essays and how-to's under Writer's Resources.

The important thing to remember is that you're writing this for your boyfriend, and he'll probably love whatever you write. It doesn't have to be perfect.

Good luck.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I piss ideas, so this is never a problem for me.

But try this: Get yourself a pile of magazines, say, magazines about travel, decorating, flower arranging, wines, cooking, architecture, lingerie...whatever.

Thumb thru the magazines and attach paperclips to articles/phptps that appeal to you. Toss these ingrediaents into a pot and let them cook until done.

 

[smallbite]

I appreciate the advice given so far.

Feelings play a big role in this type or Erotica (written for someone special), but should I write this with more emphasis on the female character and how she feels through the story and sort of have it, inviting for him to know more of how I feel when some things happen, or would this be too hard for a first time writer?

Also, I hate to be a bother, but has anyone tried something like that method before? Or am I over-analyzing smut here?

 

[sadangel]

All excellent advice.

I tend to write much like tickledkitty does. I see it in my head. Hear it in my head and go from there. I get the basics written out of what I'm seeing the people in my story to someone special do, and then go back and flesh it out just a little bit. I try to incorporate what I'm feeling and what I think perhaps they may be feeling at that moment in the story.

Like Rob, I write what I know I'd enjoy and from what I'm certain they would enjoy also.
Distraction is a good one to read to get an idea of what Rob and others are saying about writing out your fantasies and scenario's for your boyfriend.

Also like Magica said...I tend to write from my fantasies first and what I think that special person would like to see/hear/feel.

My own advice. Just start from your heart. Just attempting it will make him feel special. It doesn't matter if it's a work of incredible art or not. Just that YOU wrote it will be enough. Write in a manner that works for you. Sometimes, I write my special thoughts in poetry/prose form and sometimes in a story form. I go with what feels right for me at that time.

Like I've been told. Just start writing!

 

[sadangel]

I appreciate the advice given so far.

Feelings play a big role in this type or Erotica (written for someone special), but should I write this with more emphasis on the female character and how she feels through the story and sort of have it, inviting for him to know more of how I feel when some things happen, or would this be too hard for a first time writer?

Also, I hate to be a bother, but has anyone tried something like that method before? Or am I over-analyzing smut here?

I know I'm double posting..sorry. Your answer came before I finsihed posting.

Looking back at what I've written for someone special...I see that often I write with more emphasis on what the female is feeling. (What I am feeling). I think it lets him know more about me and what I enjoy and like and how it makes me feel.

It is simply natural for me to write that way.

I then go back and try to imagine how He would be feeling. I find that when writing to that someone, that it's easiest to write in first person and try to show what I'm doing/feeling. Then to show what they are doing/feeling also. (Got that advice from a very smart person...and I"m trying to learn how to do it!!)

Just write it from your heart is the advice I have. He will enjoy it. To him it will be a work of art. Something from you to him. Just enjoy it.

 

[tickledkitty]

I appreciate the advice given so far.

Feelings play a big role in this type or Erotica (written for someone special), but should I write this with more emphasis on the female character and how she feels through the story and sort of have it, inviting for him to know more of how I feel when some things happen, or would this be too hard for a first time writer?

Also, I hate to be a bother, but has anyone tried something like that method before? Or am I over-analyzing smut here?

Yes. And this is just me, but I find writing in first person, just as if I'm telling my own story, the easiest. Write it as if it has already happened and you're telling a good friend all about it. It will be a turn on for him to read something like that, for sure.

 

[damppanties]

I appreciate the advice given so far.

Feelings play a big role in this type or Erotica (written for someone special), but should I write this with more emphasis on the female character and how she feels through the story and sort of have it, inviting for him to know more of how I feel when some things happen, or would this be too hard for a first time writer?

Also, I hate to be a bother, but has anyone tried something like that method before? Or am I over-analyzing smut here?

I wrote one like this. It's Intimate Expression if you want to see it.

The point of view depends on what your objective is. If it's primarily for him to 'enjoy' then you might want to incorporate some of his fetishes into the storyline. If you just want to let him know how you feel and share your feelings through the story, then write it from your point of view.

Good luck.

 

[DeeZire]

Coming from the guy perspective, I think you should write a story about how you lose a bet and the payoff is getting down with another female. Perhaps he walks in during the festivities and joins in. Of course, this could open up a whole new can of worms in your relationship, but that's what makes life exciting.

 

[JackLuis]

Just write what is in your heart.

You have to start somewhere but keep in mind the ending of the story.

If it is to be a "feel good" story I wouldn't mentioned the FMF or whips and handcuffs.

He will want to hear your perspective of the act. He knows how he feels so I'd write it in first person. How do you feel about the inital opening move? Are you excited? Are you "in the mood"?

Do you feel his need and want to satisfy his base desires to make yourself indespensible to him?

Let the story be an exposition of your feelings and be sure to put in how much you like his shaving to be prepared for you, (if you do, that is.)

I'd put in how he feels inside you, how you can feel his length and the crown of his cock massaging your insides. Men never get enough positive feedback.

 

[gauchecritic]

As a bloke I'd advise that a story is a story. How people feel in 'stories' doesn't make a good story. Yes, it's a good idea to include perspectives and moods and change but don't concentrate on that. That's for later, when you find that your story is lacking in some way.

As a first time writer, write about what happens, not what people think about what happens.

You've actually asked the question in both the best and worst place to ask it. A writers forum. Writers think about writing, very rarely do they think about reading.

Having said that, all the advice given so far is very good and usable but only for the more sophisticated writer that has gone through the pain and heartache of being told that their first story isn't quite as good as they thought it was.

Again, write about what happens, don't write about what people think about what happens. That's for later stories.

ETA. Under no circumstances even attempt to write from the heart. Tell a story first.

 

[Boxlicker101]

I'm not too sure if this is where I should post this, but I'll ask anyway, and if it's in the wrong spot, I'm sure it can be moved.

I'm trying to write a story for my boyfriend, it will be my first but I'm not too sure where to start, or where to get inspiration from, and I thought it might be a good idea to ask here.

When you want to write a story, what process do you use? What usually inspires you, real life or fantasy? How would you go about writing for someone special?

I've been thinking about this thread for a while. Since you are asking about writing a story, this is a good place to do it.

Since you know what your BF likes, you can write a story, in the first person, about doing it with him and for him and to him. Emphasize how good it is for you, and how you know he likes it too. Describe your feelings and emotions, etc. The climax of the story, of course, is your climax, followed immediately by his.

Don't be afraid to use very earthy language; guys love that.

I loved the feel of his hard cock sllding between my lips and teeth and all the way to the back of my throat. My tongue laved its entire length, relishing the feel of the smooth skin that was stretched so tightly over its hard roundness.

Slowly, I moved my mouth back and forth, caressing his shaft with my lips. I like to take my time when I suck off Joe. The best part is when he cums into my mouth, and I swallow it all, but it's so much fun getting there that I always make it last as long as I can.

To get an other ideas, you might read some of the stories here. Remember, you are trying to turn him on, not provide great literature. Many of the people will tell you about character development and conflict and other parts of creative writing, but you shouldn't worry about that. You just want smut.

 

[sadangel]

As a bloke I'd advise that a story is a story. How people feel in 'stories' doesn't make a good story. Yes, it's a good idea to include perspectives and moods and change but don't concentrate on that. That's for later, when you find that your story is lacking in some way.

As a first time writer, write about what happens, not what people think about what happens.

You've actually asked the question in both the best and worst place to ask it. A writers forum. Writers think about writing, very rarely do they think about reading.

Having said that, all the advice given so far is very good and usable but only for the more sophisticated writer that has gone through the pain and heartache of being told that their first story isn't quite as good as they thought it was.

Again, write about what happens, don't write about what people think about what happens. That's for later stories.

ETA. Under no circumstances even attempt to write from the heart. Tell a story first.

Wonders if you realize she is asking about writing a PERSONAL story to her BF. Not for submitting to Lit. Therefore, I think writing from the heart is valuable advice.

 

[TE999]

All good...if slightly conflicting...advice up there.

Does your BF have any turn-on's...any kinky sex fantasies...anything he'd (or you'd) like to do, but haven't tried yet? Write a story about that. Maybe getting it on in a certain place is a turn on? You may also get a tad creative yourself with some ideas and surprise him.

Good luck and welcome to the AH.

 

[JackLuis]

You could write from the vigina too.

Depends upon what you want to say to him. 's or

 

[smallbite]

Thanks for the advice guys... I'm taking it all on bored.

Part of the problem with our Dynamic is that I'm a little further along sexually than him, and I'm not trying to rush him.

I thought I would write this as encouragement as well as a way to share things sexually and to explain how i feel when some things happen, and perhaps to give him some ideas or share ideas. And yes, smut is always fabulous.

 

[impressive]

Thanks for the advice guys... I'm taking it all on bored.

Part of the problem with our Dynamic is that I'm a little further along sexually than him, and I'm not trying to rush him.

I thought I would write this as encouragement as well as a way to share things sexually and to explain how i feel when some things happen, and perhaps to give him some ideas or share ideas. And yes, smut is always fabulous.

I'm sure you meant "on board"

As for your relationship, perhaps a kinky little teacher-student story would be effective.

 

[gauchecritic]

Wonders if you realize she is asking about writing a PERSONAL story to her BF. Not for submitting to Lit. Therefore, I think writing from the heart is valuable advice.

Personal, generic, general, for sale, for an audience doesn't make any difference. The operative word is story. Poor poetry and amazing love letters are written from the heart but not stories.

2nd person and 1st person present tense are very attractive for first time writers and give easy access to internal dialogue and 'the heart' but they rarely make readable stories. They are far too inclusive and rarely interactive. They give the reader very little leeway in identification and a story is nothing which doesn't allow the reader to bring themselves to it.

You can't choose which character your reader will identify with and stories from the heart give no options.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

If this is your first story, you might consider writing it in Second Person, using I/you, as if you're talking face to face to him about something you want to do, some fantasy, telling him how what he does feels to you and how it makes you react. We generally frown on second-person stories for publication, but for private use they're hard to beat for intimacy and immediacy. They're also the easiest kind of story to write:

"I kiss you and my kisses are deep and passionate, and you kiss me back. Your kisses drive me wild and soon I can't control myself. I drag you to the bed and crawl on top of you, loosening your belt with trembling fingers..." That kind of thing.

 

[tickledkitty]

I'm thinking now with all this advice you're thinking about it too much. It's your first try. It doesn't have to be fabulous. Just do it.

 

[Guest]

. . .

"I kiss you and my kisses are deep and passionate, and you kiss me back. Your kisses drive me wild and soon I can't control myself. I drag you to the bed and crawl on top of you, loosening your belt with trembling fingers..."

Don't stop now!

 

[jomar]

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2nd person and 1st person present tense are very attractive for first time writers and give easy access to internal dialogue and 'the heart' but they rarely make readable stories...

First person is okay. Second person bad. Stay away from the, "You came into the bedroom. Your eyes grew wide as you saw me in my corset, fishnet stockings and six inch stiletto heels..." style of narrative.

ETA: On second thought, the 'you' style might work if it is just for him. But usually it's not appealing. Try it first person and second person and see which you like best. But just write!

 

[tickledkitty]

First person is okay. Second person bad. Stay away from the, "You came into the bedroom. Your eyes grew wide as you saw me in my corset, fishnet stockings and six inch stiletto heels..." style of narrative.

ETA: On second thought, the 'you' style might work if it is just for him. But usually it's not appealing. Try it first person and second person and see which you like best. But just write!

Second person is not bad when it's something intimate written just for you. I mean, yeah, if she's going to post it, I'd say avoid second person. I kinda liked Dr. M's idea though.