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Flyingsgt said:
That depends on what exactly you are doing, doesn't it?
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Daddy2mylilgirl said:A leash, a collar and a smile.
Sigh... which could expose people without their consent, possibly get the Op and his partner arrested/fined, etc.
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Flyingsgt said:
I presume you're talking about a kink-friendly club; that would probably be fine.
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Give Yourself Options
If you're sure it is kink friendly then you can make your choices based on what the two of you have discussed. Since it is your first time at this place, I'd start on the conservative side with an outfit that can change / show more depending on both the actual scene and the reaction both of you have to what is going on. Give yourself options going into the evening. Things can always come off. On the other hand if you ask for / show too much to start with you can hurt the future of the relationship. That's based on real life mistakes...
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Flyingsgt said:
If you're sure it is kink friendly then you can make your choices based on what the two of you have discussed. Since it is your first time at this place, I'd start on the conservative side with an outfit that can change / show more depending on both the actual scene and the reaction both of you have to what is going on. Give yourself options going into the evening. Things can always come off. On the other hand if you ask for / show too much to start with you can hurt the future of the relationship. That's based on real life mistakes...
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There is no standard sub or slave uniform.
If you are going to a kink club, you want into make sure nothing is showing until you get to the club, or at least I do.
I will say black is what you see worn the most anywhere. I tend to buck any trend, that shit is boring but I do like black.
If you are going to a kink club, you want into make sure nothing is showing until you get to the club, or at least I do.
I will say black is what you see worn the most anywhere. I tend to buck any trend, that shit is boring but I do like black.
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One of my previous Doms took me clothes shopping once. That was so much fun! Boy, did he have good taste in ladies clothes. And it wasn't sexy understuff either. He bought me a skirt and vest and dress... very classy and nice.
I always thought he was not so good at dressing himself, though. Way to conservative. I bought him this beautiful tie... a Jerry Garcia. He had the most lovely navy blue eyes and like most men, blue was his favorite color... Gorgeous blues in the tie and he thought it was way too flashy. (insert rolley eyed guy) I think he did wear it one time. (He had to wear ties to work everyday.)
Tell me this isn't a nice looking tie...
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c170/RoxannaDanna/tiebar2_1966_303363031.gif
Maybe you ought to take her shopping sometime.
I always thought he was not so good at dressing himself, though. Way to conservative. I bought him this beautiful tie... a Jerry Garcia. He had the most lovely navy blue eyes and like most men, blue was his favorite color... Gorgeous blues in the tie and he thought it was way too flashy. (insert rolley eyed guy) I think he did wear it one time. (He had to wear ties to work everyday.)
Tell me this isn't a nice looking tie...
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c170/RoxannaDanna/tiebar2_1966_303363031.gif
Maybe you ought to take her shopping sometime.
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Flyingsgt said:
Thanks for the idea, Flying! I'm planning a road trip to that area and this might make an interesting stop ...
I also found this review of the club that might give you an idea of the dress code. Hope that helps!
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Please do not do this to your girl...
unless you really want her to feel oogy.
There are beautiful gothic girls and seriously creepy men. It's like bizzaro high school dance. Yes I've been there. Yes I know the place. The creepy perving vibe actually calms down upstairs. You can pay a little for the exceptionally beautiful Mistress Jean to spank her in public, I don't know any girls who don't like watching that go down or trying it, and the vibe watching the play is pretty mellow.
Something low cut and cute and her little collar and lead would probably be good for a first outing. Maybe a schoolgirl skirt and white tights thing if you like that, but please give the girl a leeeetle coverage. Unless you really want her ogled and creepified, if you do dress her in lingerie, stay close.
unless you really want her to feel oogy.
There are beautiful gothic girls and seriously creepy men. It's like bizzaro high school dance. Yes I've been there. Yes I know the place. The creepy perving vibe actually calms down upstairs. You can pay a little for the exceptionally beautiful Mistress Jean to spank her in public, I don't know any girls who don't like watching that go down or trying it, and the vibe watching the play is pretty mellow.
Something low cut and cute and her little collar and lead would probably be good for a first outing. Maybe a schoolgirl skirt and white tights thing if you like that, but please give the girl a leeeetle coverage. Unless you really want her ogled and creepified, if you do dress her in lingerie, stay close.
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i say listen to netzach since she has real life experience in the place you are going to.
and im also not sure how serious of a relationship this is, how you intend for her to feel, or who the people involved are and what makes them tick, but above all, use common sense!
and im also not sure how serious of a relationship this is, how you intend for her to feel, or who the people involved are and what makes them tick, but above all, use common sense!
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I thought the dancing banana was a good indicator that I was not being serious.
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Sorry ADR, but that tie makes me shudder. No straight man would wear it unless he was wanting to send mixed signals... or wanting to impress his gay friends with how open minded he was.A Desert Rose said:
It looks like a scarf and totally 100% frou-frou.Thank you...
...so much. You all have been very helpful.
We are very happily married to each other and have discovered this side of our relationship just recently. She has always had fantasies of a man just grabing her, throwing her down and fucking her. She has voiced this to me. She really likes the "Man" thing (her fantasy includes Brian Urlacher)
Having read Netzach's post, I might reconsider this venue. However, we both don't want to reconsider the night out. Unfortunately, I don't know anywhere else to go in the Twin Cities, and that is our get away spot. If anyone has any other location ideas, please share.
She has expressed to me verbally that she wants to try this (courage is another thing - liquid helps I would like to take her shopping, but we are on different schedules with kids etc. Since we wont be going until October, maybe there will be an opportunity.
...so much. You all have been very helpful.
We are very happily married to each other and have discovered this side of our relationship just recently. She has always had fantasies of a man just grabing her, throwing her down and fucking her. She has voiced this to me. She really likes the "Man" thing (her fantasy includes Brian Urlacher)
Having read Netzach's post, I might reconsider this venue. However, we both don't want to reconsider the night out. Unfortunately, I don't know anywhere else to go in the Twin Cities, and that is our get away spot. If anyone has any other location ideas, please share.
She has expressed to me verbally that she wants to try this (courage is another thing - liquid helps
I would like to take her shopping, but we are on different schedules with kids etc. Since we wont be going until October, maybe there will be an opportunity.
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Flyingsgt said:...so much. You all have been very helpful.
We are very happily married to each other and have discovered this side of our relationship just recently. She has always had fantasies of a man just grabing her, throwing her down and fucking her. She has voiced this to me. She really likes the "Man" thing (her fantasy includes Brian Urlacher)
Having read Netzach's post, I might reconsider this venue. However, we both don't want to reconsider the night out. Unfortunately, I don't know anywhere else to go in the Twin Cities, and that is our get away spot. If anyone has any other location ideas, please share.
She has expressed to me verbally that she wants to try this (courage is another thing - liquid helps
No no no, it's not BAD. It's probably more club and less BDSM but it's not like, completely un-fun. I've gone there with my guy in full (I mean FULL) rubber, just 'cause where else are you gonna go? We rang in the new there with a friend of my husband's and had a blast.
I cast no serious aspersions on the place - but you asked what to wear. I Netzach would do it in a short dress cute heels and thigh highs, or put the same on my girl sub. I would not do it in a brief chiffon peignoir or ask her to. That's all I'm sayin'.
Whereas there ARE places where that would be only minimally uncomfortable and totally cool.I would go to GZ, and I'd cap it off with a drink at the Times bar and Cafe adjacent to it, if you want an adult candle-lit nightcap with an alternative element lurking in a sophisticated setting. If you look close you'll see some interesting couples and people. It's the perfect place for that "I secretly have on no underwear" moment. It's subtle, but our peeps are there, and the Jazz is decent.
Right before you go shopping way over at the Smitten Kitten or down at Sex World (which is kinda harmless seedy) and then ravish her in your hotel.
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Again...Thanks
Netzach, thank you. We have been to Smitten Kitten before. Again, she was a bit apprehensive, but after going, she kind of liked it. That was last year. We make an annual trip to St Paul for Alary's Bar and a Bears game. If you have never been to Alary's, you really need to go (Big Bears fans here). Lots of fun and a great game day atmosphere.
Netzach, thank you. We have been to Smitten Kitten before. Again, she was a bit apprehensive, but after going, she kind of liked it. That was last year. We make an annual trip to St Paul for Alary's Bar and a Bears game. If you have never been to Alary's, you really need to go (Big Bears fans here). Lots of fun and a great game day atmosphere.
