In control of the BJ

[titfuckplease]

This came about from a comment a female friend made ages ago, which niggled at me. She said she didn't like her guy standing during a BJ as it made her feel submissive and him in control. In all my experiences of getting BJs whilst standing, I've never felt even remotely in control, especially when I'm getting close to orgasm and clutching at her for support as my legs go, and definitely not after when I'm a helpless wreck. I was wondering what other people think? Same for standing titfucks-is the guy in control at all? Guys-do you ever feel in control, and if so for how long? Ladies-what about you?

 

[Tomahawk26]

I guess it depends on the guy... I pretty much never feel in control when I'm sucking my husband's cock, but I do with other guys. My husband often likes blow jobs when he's lying on his back on the bed, because he has a great view and can relax. But being on your knees, as a woman, certainly feels like a submissive position. Which is all the better, as far as I'm concerned...

 

[lynn-23]

This came about from a comment a female friend made ages ago, which niggled at me. She said she didn't like her guy standing during a BJ as it made her feel submissive and him in control. In all my experiences of getting BJs whilst standing, I've never felt even remotely in control, especially when I'm getting close to orgasm and clutching at her for support as my legs go, and definitely not after when I'm a helpless wreck. I was wondering what other people think? Same for standing titfucks-is the guy in control at all? Guys-do you ever feel in control, and if so for how long? Ladies-what about you?

You need to look at it from her point of view, not yours. If you are standing, she is probably kneeling in front of you and that likely just feels submissive to her. So there you have a situation where neither partner feels in control. Husband and I rarely do standing bjs, but that is mostly his choice not mine. I do sometimes enjoy the control i have over my husband when I have him in my mouth.

 

[help_me_Rhonda]

This might be related to the man trying to control the BJ by pushing the woman's head down-

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=841926

 

[Ashleigh_XOXO]

I kinda like when I am told to get on my knees to suck a man off. A blow job is a very submissive act in my mind. Usually, my guy forces my head completely against him, suffocating me. But even when he is more gentle with me, it is still submissive because I like to take my time, kissing all over, licking, sucking, loving, worshipping, etc all while looking up to see his eyes. I vote submissive in an incredibly sexy way.

 

[sterculius]

I kinda like when I am told to get on my knees to suck a man off. A blow job is a very submissive act in my mind. Usually, my guy forces my head completely against him, suffocating me. But even when he is more gentle with me, it is still submissive because I like to take my time, kissing all over, licking, sucking, loving, worshipping, etc all while looking up to see his eyes. I vote submissive in an incredibly sexy way.

I agree! A major aspect of my love of sucking cock and being a cocksucker involves the surrender of power. I enjoy being subjugated and having my head held and forced down. I like being on my knees while being roughly throat fucked! I have often ejaculated myself purely from the erotic excitement I experience from giving blowjobs this way!!

 

[MatthewVett]

I understand her feelings. I think kneeling is a very submissive position.

 

[Emmcee20]

I vividly recall one memorable BJ when we'd got frisky and naked in the lounge and she then led me by the cock toward the bedroom. Halfway there in the hallway she went down on me and blew me hard and fast to a huge cum. Totally shattered I had no doubt she had controlled the whole thing despite being on her knees. She then led me to bed where we played more.

 

[408w]

My experience has been that some girls love to be in control like said earlier they want you laying down so they can do as they wish but have also had the ones that love to be instructed and he directions as well as the ones that don't want you to even look at them while doing it.

I dot have any preference as long as they are enjoying themselves because I surely am so whatever makes them feel comfortable

 

[lizbeth7]

I definitely prefer to service a man who is either sitting or lying down vs. standing. I feel more in control that way. I definitely feel subservient when kneeling and the man is standing.

 

[amofiga]

Sitting in a chair with a willing lady kneeling on the floor is quite nice, affords a good view of the action, and eliminates the "leg buckling" thing mentioned earlier. If the lady does not like to feel submissive on her knees, try lying down with her perpendicular to you. It makes it easy to fuck her mouth and the angle of the cock with respect to her mouth is quite easy for both. It does not allow well for deep throating. 69 allows for good angle and deep throating but your view will be of her pussy as you lick. Frankly, I enjoy that.

 

[KinkStevens]

Agreed

It is a very submissive position. Thats the way I view it when I'm standing receiving oral and the way I felt the times when I had one in my throat. Isn't that the point?? Who gets all control sensitive while sucking dicks?

 

[Artfan2]

I don't try to guide a woman's head or otherwise control her when she's sucking my cock. It wouldn't be possible to control what she's doing with her lips, tongue and hands anyway. So I feel like she's the one who's in control, especially if she knows what she's doing.

Sometimes a woman will get me to the point of almost cumming only to back off for a while, sucking or stroking my cock just enough to keep me from getting completely soft. Then she'll increase the intensity and get me really hard again. She may do this several times before finally making me cum.

 

[lizbeth7]

Sometimes a woman will get me to the point of almost cumming only to back off for a while, sucking or stroking my cock just enough to keep me from getting completely soft. Then she'll increase the intensity and get me really hard again. She may do this several times before finally making me cum.

That is exactly how I like to give a BJ. I don't want it to be over too fast. Keep building, and building to increase the orgasm.

 

[408w]

That is exactly how I like to give a BJ. I don't want it to be over too fast. Keep building, and building to increase the orgasm.

You gotta love a girl who actually enjoys giving a very pleasurable blow job!!

Well done! Well done!

 

[Artfan2]

That is exactly how I like to give a BJ. I don't want it to be over too fast. Keep building, and building to increase the orgasm.

Getting a BJ like that is such an intense and prolonged pleasure. It's one of the greatest sexual experiences a woman can give a man.

 

[ThoMac_13]

My preference is to be lying down or sitting, not only because I feel more relaxed, but because I like my hands to have something to do while my cock is in her mouth. I enjoy running my hands from her head, down her shoulders and back, and fingering her as she's opening up and getting wet, and playing with her nipples.

I can see how standing she might interpret that as submissive, which is fine if you're into that. I never really feel in control of her actions when she's sucking my dick, but in another sense you are always in something of a superior position during oral (unless its a 69) because one partner tends to be deriving more immediate physical pleasure than the other. Its this way, too, when you cum in her mouth: while you're shooting your load, you're at the least rational and least in control of your body--but, at the same time, she is taking you down her throat and submitting to allow you to cum in her mouth/face. So the control/equality question is a difficult one.

If you're a guy who loves eating pussy, like me, it all evens out because I'm happy to reciprocate a good blowjob by eating her!

 

[foxpass]

I love feeling submissive giving blow jobs for some reason. It makes me feel so hot. I like to have my mouth fucked hard, to lay on my back with my head off the bed getting throat fucked, my mascara running down my cheeks. Just one of my things, I guess.

 

[tmmmbrrr]

I love feeling submissive giving blow jobs for some reason. It makes me feel so hot. I like to have my mouth fucked hard, to lay on my back with my head off the bed getting throat fucked, my mascara running down my cheeks. Just one of my things, I guess.

Each to their own and I hope your guy knows how lucky he is, fox. Love the bit about mascara runnning. ...that might just one of MY things, I guess.

 

[sterculius]

I love feeling submissive giving blow jobs for some reason. It makes me feel so hot. I like to have my mouth fucked hard, to lay on my back with my head off the bed getting throat fucked, my mascara running down my cheeks. Just one of my things, I guess.

I feel the same way too! I'm a guy, but there's something about the sense of subjugation, the feeling of being orally "used" that is such a tremendous turn-on for me. Giving other men blowjobs is the only same-sex activity I enjoy but for most of my life, since puberty, I've been an insatiable, voracious cocksucker.

 

[Porkwarrior]

I love feeling submissive giving blow jobs for some reason. It makes me feel so hot. I like to have my mouth fucked hard, to lay on my back with my head off the bed getting throat fucked, my mascara running down my cheeks. Just one of my things, I guess.

Oh gawd that is sooooo hawt, not to mention if the guy is, ahem, *girthy*, that position makes it easier for her to take a lot more of his cock. I like to start out on my back, have her bring me close a few times....but finish in THAT position. It's a fav.

On her knees can be awkward to get the right angle, unless she is almost as tall as the man, and it can be real awkward with a thick cock. Chairs are definitely fun though, if you are constantly worried about pushing on the back of the head or the submissive part bothers some women don't be afraid to tie his arms to a hard backed chair and let your tongue have it's way with him. Extra bonus points if you make it an exquisite teasing game and see just how long you can keep him on edge.

 

[Daniel_Hart]

I love feeling submissive giving blow jobs for some reason. It makes me feel so hot. I like to have my mouth fucked hard, to lay on my back with my head off the bed getting throat fucked, my mascara running down my cheeks. Just one of my things, I guess.

That is beautiful, a few ex's were into the more submissive side of bjs and I found it such the turn on. One would cum as she took my load, just from the intensity of the moment for her...it was stunning to watch.

 

[lizbeth7]

I love feeling submissive giving blow jobs for some reason. It makes me feel so hot. I like to have my mouth fucked hard, to lay on my back with my head off the bed getting throat fucked, my mascara running down my cheeks. Just one of my things, I guess.

I had never tried this position for a blow job and tried it with my husband yesterday. He didn't really enjoy thrusting into my mouth as he said he was afraid he would hurt me. But I did maintain the same position and sucked his balls while stroking him until he came on my chest. I enjoyed it, even if he didn't.

 

[HeyAll]

I also think it's really submissive. It's even more submissive when she's on her knees and the guy is standing.

But I've heard some women who say it makes them in control since their act of giving oral makes a man weak in the knees and vulnerable and all that. When it's over, he's going to want more and she has the final say if she wants to do it again or not. And that's really a good point.

So I guess it all depends on her mindset. It can be viewed either way.

 

[night&day]

Standing Over Her

Yep I had a FWBs who disliked me standing over her while she sucked my cock. She loved sucking cock, but wanted to feel in control, or at least that she wasn't in danger of having me shove my cock halfway down her throat and gag her. Apparently that had happened to her before.

In fact we were going to meet and I told her that she needed to suck my cock alot and she got mad at me (yes really). I was trying to tell her that I wanted to stay hard for her, and get hard again after cumming, and she just went off on me that I was bossing her around. OMG we are chatting on Yahoo and she gets all crazy. I always made her cum, and ate her cunt like few of the other younger guys she had sex with did.

Maybe she will read thsi and contact me. I have a new screen name, but prior to moving to Florida I was living in TN. So E.S. if you are out there and want to meet again my wife will be out of town in the next week or so.

Artie