I'm out.......

[matriarch]

Thank you.

In a way, it's hard to comprehend. I was married almost 34 years. It's my choice, though, and I'm excited to see what the future has in store for me.

Your divorce sounds very much like mine. After 32 years we decided this had no further to go, the kids were grown up and moved out with lives of their own, so we did just like you. We put the house up for sale, he moved out to a rental, retired from work, which was what he wanted all along. I stayed in the home until the sale was final, then moved into a rental to give me time to make up my mind what I wanted to do. I helped him to move into his new home, he helped me to move out of what had been ours, and into mine. All very compatible and friendly. We went to the bank together to arrange the 'down the middle' split of monies from the sale of the house, and we are probably now, better friends than we were at the end of our marriage.

At the end of the 2 year period for a 'no questions' divorce, we did what we had to do, and like you, after 34 years, we were divorced. I did feel different, because by then I was with Min, and just 2 months later we were married.

If only all divorces could merely be an administrative end, without all the pain and heartache that so many people have to go through.

Good luck in your new single life.

 

[stickwork]

This morning I went to court for the final judgement of my divorce. I represented myself since I live in a No-Fault state and there are no minor children involved.

My spouse was curious how it worked so he went along. I wondered if he wanted to be sure I didn't change our agreement at the last minute. From the day I moved out in Nov, 2006 we have been in agreement of all divisions. I'm very thankful that it has been a civil split.

Today I am free..........I have the document in front of me saying so. Funny, but it doesn't feel any different than yesterday did. This is really just a technicality. I felt 'divorced' from the day I moved out.

So how do I plan to spend the day??? Just like any other, I guess.

No kids, no lawyers - count yourself lucky. I'm not saying it's easy, but at least you don't have to sit next to your ex at your grandkid's wedding someday.

Go have some fun if you can.

Best of luck.

 

[_Lynn_]

Your divorce sounds very much like mine. After 32 years we decided this had no further to go, the kids were grown up and moved out with lives of their own, so we did just like you. We put the house up for sale, he moved out to a rental, retired from work, which was what he wanted all along. I stayed in the home until the sale was final, then moved into a rental to give me time to make up my mind what I wanted to do. I helped him to move into his new home, he helped me to move out of what had been ours, and into mine. All very compatible and friendly. We went to the bank together to arrange the 'down the middle' split of monies from the sale of the house, and we are probably now, better friends than we were at the end of our marriage.

At the end of the 2 year period for a 'no questions' divorce, we did what we had to do, and like you, after 34 years, we were divorced. I did feel different, because by then I was with Min, and just 2 months later we were married.

If only all divorces could merely be an administrative end, without all the pain and heartache that so many people have to go through.

Good luck in your new single life.

Thank you. He and I get along alright. If he had his way I would be back with him. He didn't want the split but let me go anyway. It's been hard for him, I understand that.

Someday, I hope to have that special someone in my life. It isn't today, it won't be tomorrow, but it will be someday.

It takes way more energy to go through a nasty divorce. The things people fight over is just stuff. Choosing to divorce implies you want a new life........is the stuff from the old life needed, or does it even fit in? I left a lot of things behind that used to be important to me. I discovered my freedom was worth more. Everything I have now is mine, chosen by just me, for my new life.

I'm glad you have happiness in your new life.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Glad to see you back and on the path to happiness. Good Luck to you friend.

 

[_Lynn_]

No kids, no lawyers - count yourself lucky. I'm not saying it's easy, but at least you don't have to sit next to your ex at your grandkid's wedding someday.

Go have some fun if you can.

Best of luck.

Our children are 30 and 34.....and yes there are grandchildren. As for sitting next to him at their wedding, by then I anticipate someone new in my life, and would be with them. Where I sit would be minor compared to the happiness of my grandchildren.



Thank you.

 

[_Lynn_]

Glad to see you back and on the path to happiness. Good Luck to you friend.

Thanks Abs.......There are ups and downs, but as long as I keep getting back up to fight, I'll survive.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Thanks Abs.......There are ups and downs, but as long as I keep getting back up to fight, I'll survive.

Don't fight, just go with the flow and find out who you are. you might be surprised.

 

[_Lynn_]

Don't fight, just go with the flow and find out who you are. you might be surprised.

I've surprised myself several times already since I moved out.
Learning to write is new and is making a huge impact in my life.
I've been amazed at some of the things that happened to me this last year.
Life is tough on my own, but I love it.
Finally, after all these years, I'm not playing a role. I'm just me.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I've surprised myself several times already since I moved out.
Learning to write is new and is making a huge impact in my life.
I've been amazed at some of the things that happened to me this last year.
Life is tough on my own, but I love it.
Finally, after all these years, I'm not playing a role. I'm just me.

That is an incredible thing!!!
You're going to be amazing.

 

[_Lynn_]

That is an incredible thing!!!
You're going to be amazing.

I don't know if I'll ever believe it like others do.....lol......but I'm trying

Completing NaNo, in the topic I did, was good for me.
The people that have read it were impressed.
I think I'm beginning to see a bit of what they did in it finally.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I don't know if I'll ever believe it like others do.....lol......but I'm trying

Completing NaNo, in the topic I did, was good for me.
The people that have read it were impressed.
I think I'm beginning to see a bit of what they did in it finally.

You will. You'll have that moment of revelation where you know exactly who you are and where you are going.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Thank you.

In a way, it's hard to comprehend. I was married almost 34 years. It's my choice, though, and I'm excited to see what the future has in store for me.

Welcome back to singledom. The future is wide open.

 

[_Lynn_]

Welcome back to singledom. The future is wide open.

Thanks.

A scary thought but I'm ready for it.

 

[kendo1]

Out, in.
Out, in.
Out, in.
Out, in.

 

[_Lynn_]

Out, in.
Out, in.
Out, in.
Out, in.

I like how you think