i'm not white trash i swear

[shynsexy]

well maybe i am...

this has been bothering me alot lately.

My husband's in jail and as sad as it is, I am happy. I wanted to throw his ass out of the house looooong agao....I just didnt have the balls to do it. So my current BF and I were having this discussion(i use the term lightly) . He just got out jail (its not a fetish i swear ) and was telling me to give my hubby another chance, blah blah blah. I couldnt believe. I thought he loved me, and he's telling me to go back to a man who verbally and emotionally abused me from 16 to 21.... no way. I may have been to chicken to kick him out but I'm not stupid. He's not getting back in.

So what the problem is that I am a basket case---- constantly depressed and just lost a baby (hubby btw) i dont even know were my mind is most days----but I am really happy with my SO, and he's telling me to go back with hubby... he's like "i know how he feels" but doesnt anyone care about how I feel? My mom has been trying to get meout of this marriage forever and now all of the sudden I am a terrible person because I am cheating on my husband???? Why cant I be happy????

I feel like I am the only one who has ever dealt with this.... why does so much get thrown at me all at once????

 

[clit_licker30]

Leave Texas, go to another state. Join the Navy and go get a different look at life! Run damnit before you end up in jail or dead from one of your "boyfriends" or husband!

Run run for your life!

 

[shynsexy]

funny you say that my best friend in cali always tells me to move out there....

 

[Ishmael]

I feel like I am the only one who has ever dealt with this.... why does so much get thrown at me all at once????

Darlin' don't mean to be cruel, but they were ALL your choices. No one threw anything at you.

CL's advice is probably the best.

And if you choose to hang with "Billy Bad Ass", don't be surprised when he beats yours.

Ishmael

 

[paganangel]

Please go back to your husband- society needs a thinning of their herd.

 

[BarberBabe]

Sounds like a plan shy ...don't stay there ..it will only bring you down. You sound like a survivor , & you can pass the test you've been given . Good Luck

 

[clit_licker30]

funny you say that my best friend in cali always tells me to move out there....

Go before you get trapped, well you already seemed trapped. You might want to get away from the situation, just to get a look at your life from a distance. If you don't go, and you seem to draw loser jaibird types, you will keep doing it over and over. And one day one of them will kill you while hopped up on meth or whatever!

Go somewhere and get a job and stay away from crimminals for a little while. You are young a few years seeing the world and traveling will do you a world of good.

 

[shynsexy]

Ok, Yall know what? Moving to a new state is NOT going to change anything. I'm not running away from my home or family... and I was never beaten, I just want to clairify that. My current SO is someone special.... I just wanted to know why he would suggest giving hubby another chance.....

 

[clit_licker30]

Ok, Yall know what? Moving to a new state is NOT going to change anything. I'm not running away from my home or family... and I was never beaten, I just want to clairify that. My current SO is someone special.... I just wanted to know why he would suggest giving hubby another chance.....

He just wants to fuck you. He doesn't want the responsibility of taking care of you financially.

It is easier to just come over and bang you than feed you!

 

[Woodmiester]

Please go back to your husband- society needs a thinning of their herd.

That's fucked up

 

[BarberBabe]

Might want to ask him shy ...sounds like he thinks you want your ex back.

 

[Wiggles]

Ok, Yall know what? Moving to a new state is NOT going to change anything. I'm not running away from my home or family... and I was never beaten, I just want to clairify that. My current SO is someone special.... I just wanted to know why he would suggest giving hubby another chance.....

Well, either he's identify with your husband, maybe he lost his girlfriend to another guy while in jail?

Or, he's bent on hurting himself, and is pushing you away to fufill some masochistic feeling.

Maybe he's trying to get out of the relationship but he's too cowardly to just say so?

Could he possible be afraid of your husband?

Just throwing some ideas out here, there aren't really many facts to go on. And of course, I have no experience, just rambling on really.

I'm curious as to why both men were incarcerated, how long your current SO's been out, and when your husband gets out? Basically, their track records.

 

[Ishmael]

Yep

Ok, Yall know what? Moving to a new state is NOT going to change anything. I'm not running away from my home or family... and I was never beaten, I just want to clairify that. My current SO is someone special.... I just wanted to know why he would suggest giving hubby another chance.....

He's so special that he wants to give you up. Or just have a 'little' on the side after hubby is home.

"and he's telling me to go back to a man who verbally and emotionally abused me from 16 to 21...."

And he really wants to take care of you too! Not all beatings are physical you know.

So stay. God help the gene pool.

Ishmael

 

[shynsexy]

Thanks to yall who arent flamming... and to those of yall who are... o well... i'm not even gonna go there... i asked for advise and got it... even if i didnt like it, i can appreciate the thoughts. and thats what matters right.... i dont want my current so to finacially support me.. he has his own responciblities he has to take care of.... i really think he's scared of what will happen when hubby gets out.. i tyhink thats why he's trying to tell me to go back, so it doesnt hurt him as much.... yall have given me alot to think about though... maybe i just need to be single for a while..


o btw... he doesnt know about the verbal and emotional abuse....so i cant get mad at him for that.... i havent shared that with him. i dont need pity.

 

[april-wine]

Just an opinion, honestly I think you need to step back and take a look at where your life is headed....

Hooking up with jailbirds, living with verbal and emotional abuse, I think you need to be out on your own.....Your self esteem needs big time work, and you need to figure out what you really want....

Have you ever honestly thought about what would make YOU happy??? Do you know what you want out of life?

Get away, clear your head, and think about what is gonna make you happy.....Then do it....

 

[BarberBabe]

Just an opinion, honestly I think you need to step back and take a look at where your life is headed....

Hooking up with jailbirds, living with verbal and emotional abuse, I think you need to be out on your own.....Your self esteem needs big time work, and you need to figure out what you really want....

Have you ever honestly thought about what would make YOU happy??? Do you know what you want out of life?

Get away, clear your head, and think about what is gonna make you happy.....Then do it....

Yeah! What she said ^^^.

 

[Woodmiester]

Thanks to yall who arent flamming... and to those of yall who are... o well... i'm not even gonna go there... i asked for advise and got it... even if i didnt like it, i can appreciate the thoughts. and thats what matters right.... i dont want my current so to finacially support me.. he has his own responciblities he has to take care of.... i really think he's scared of what will happen when hubby gets out.. i tyhink thats why he's trying to tell me to go back, so it doesnt hurt him as much.... yall have given me alot to think about though... maybe i just need to be single for a while..


o btw... he doesnt know about the verbal and emotional abuse....so i cant get mad at him for that.... i havent shared that with him. i dont need pity.

My background gives credit as to what I'm about to say, so you can take it for what its worth, and this isn't flaming as you put it but some basic facts...
In reference to your current fuck buddy, and that's what he is if your honest with yourself, you are making excusses for him already. In your own words you've given him five (5) reasons or maybe they're yours to not commit.
As for the hubby, its sad that you fit into the fold of those women that seem to exist on being used as a fuck rag for when he wants a piece of ass. How many times have we seen women killed on the extreme side or beaten to a pulp to only say, he really loves me, I just make him mad or push his buttons. How many times has an Officer been sent on a abuse call only to be attacked or killed when they go to place the hubby or SO in cuffs?
You ask for advice and say its something to think about but get an attitude with those that take the time to do it? Maybe you should think about giving this tude to the hubby and your SO instead of us.
And with that said, I hope you make some wise choices and break the cycle you have let yourself fall into

 

[Ishmael]

You asked

Thanks to yall who arent flamming... and to those of yall who are... o well... i'm not even gonna go there... i asked for advise and got it... even if i didnt like it, i can appreciate the thoughts. and thats what matters right.... i dont want my current so to finacially support me.. he has his own responciblities he has to take care of.... i really think he's scared of what will happen when hubby gets out.. i tyhink thats why he's trying to tell me to go back, so it doesnt hurt him as much.... yall have given me alot to think about though... maybe i just need to be single for a while..


o btw... he doesnt know about the verbal and emotional abuse....so i cant get mad at him for that.... i havent shared that with him. i dont need pity.

You asked for honest opinions, not sympathy. If you want sympathy, it's in the dictionary. Between shit and syphillis.

Ishmael

 

[shynsexy]

Wood----

I'm not giving 'tude.. i knew the reactions when i posted this.. maybe i just needed to see them.. instaed of just thinking them....but in all reality yall only know what i tell yall..... thats why i may have the tiniest bit of attitude. it made me made when certain people told me to ruin the gene pool... AND????

 

[shynsexy]

Re: You asked

You asked for honest opinions, not sympathy. If you want sympathy, it's in the dictionary. Between shit and syphillis.

Ishmael

i can always count on u to be a dick.. thanks for never letting me down

 

[Monazwx]

SnS

It's not for the pity, but you should tell him so that he knows why you're so apprehensive for a reconcilliation with your husband. After that, if he still wants to give you up, something's wrong.

Still, it sounds like alot has happened in your life recently. I'd say to stay single for a while and find out what YOU want to do next. (And for God's sake, if you're not moving, get a restraining order for the ex-hubby! Hope it doesn't come to that though.)

Kisses.

 

[april-wine]

Rules of Lit....

Don't ask for advice if you really don't want advice......

You may hear what you really don't want to, but take all you hear filter the bullshit and take what you need.....

Don't ask for advice if you really don't want advice.......

Get a tougher skin, there really wasn't any flaming here, till the 'tude arrived.......

Don't ask for advice if you really don't want advice........



Now back to your regularly scheduled smut..................

 

[Ishmael]

Re: Re: You asked

i can always count on u to be a dick.. thanks for never letting me down

Then don't ask. I started out relatively mellow and got jumped on. The others have said the same thing, albeit in a more politically correct manner.

So far you have choosen to live your life with loosers. There is no one to blame for that but yourself.

As far as the gene pool is concerned. How would any children that you had with the hubby or the fuck buddy be raised? You have a lot to think about. Choose wisely.

Going back to school might be a good place to start.

Ishmael

 

[clit_licker30]

Dear shynsexy,
I am not flaming you either. One of the reasons I left law enforcement was running into cases like yours.

Over and over and over, again; with the victim (you) never making ant kind of change in their life. I was left with the impression people were terribly stupid. I didn't like thinking that way then and I don't like it 20 years later.


Really think about this from a different perspective, from a distance, from California.

 

[Woodmiester]

Rules of Lit....

Don't ask for advice if you really don't want advice......

Now back to your regularly scheduled smut..................

Great idea April, now .....
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