I'm not very happy with my wife tonight.

[Guest]

Ten years ago today we were married. For her birthday in the latter part of april and for our anniversary today i bought her a new computer (a nice one).
I had flowers sent to her from the best florist in town with a card i picked out myself because their cards were not good enough. I asked her if she would like to go out to eat tonight when she arrived home from work.

I took the day off from work because i was ill and went to the doctor (sinus and protate trouble, fever mostly) and ran several
errands for her.

You know what i got for our anniversary?...NOT a damn thing!

I know i had fever this morning, but i can't remember if she wished my a happy aniversary or not.

i have a birthday coming up on the 24th and if i get the same thing she may find out what a real texas pissed off son of a bitch looks like.

 

[fgarvb1]

No respect either from computers either!

 

[Mister Ryder]

Its still your anniversary right? Maybe she has a surprise for you.

 

[Shaq]

Ten years ago today we were married. For her birthday in the latter part of april and for our anniversary today i bought her a new computer (a nice one).
I had flowers sent to her from the best florist in town with a card i picked out myself because their cards were not good enough. I asked her if she would like to go out to eat tonight when she arrived home from work.

I took the day off from work because i was ill and went to the doctor (sinus and protate trouble, fever mostly) and ran several
errands for her.

You know what i got for our anniversary?...NOT a damn thing!

I know i had fever this morning, but i can't remember if she wished my a happy aniversary or not.

i have a birthday coming up on the 24th and if i get the same thing she may find out what a real texas pissed off son of a bitch looks like.

Don't get angry....get sad. Or at least pretend to be. Be hurt and withdrawn. Make her confused, make her guilty. Then milk her for a Playstation 2.....or whatever suits your fancy...

 

[alexandraaah]

Re: Re: I'm not very happy with my wife tonight.

Don't get angry....get sad. Or at least pretend to be. Be hurt and withdrawn. Make her confused, make her guilty. Then milk her for a Playstation 2.....or whatever suits your fancy...

I bet you're a real hit with the ladies.

 

[red_rose]

<schtuff>...

i have a birthday coming up on the 24th and if i get the same thing she may find out what a real texas pissed off son of a bitch looks like.

http://www.easycarts.net/ecarts/TShirtsNTexas/images/903.jpg

 

[Sillyman]

Wait and see. You never know. Your birthday is still sometime away so there is no need to go getting pissed off over nothing man. Just be cool. Besides, you gave her that stuff because you love her right, not because you wanted something back, right? Buck up.

 

[fgarvb1]

If she has a suprise it's how loud she can snore! she went to sleep an hour ago when she got tired of playing on her computer after she ate the food i went out an bought.

i forgot to mention she is selfish, self centered, and it looks like she quit liking sex when i put the ring on her finger.
i haven't had a good work out in bed in so many years i don't even like to think about it.

 

[#1tankcomander]

we were married

Hummmm. First of all, the first day I was on lit I registered!

Second, I'd look at your sex life or lust life, what ever.

Maybe you need to reg. and get your wife to look on and play along.

Better yet, go to the pic's and both look on. You never know.

I registered due to my loving wife was having fun and I joined in. Now we have fun together. It's made our marrige stronger!!!!!!!!!!!

Try it. What can you loose??

 

[Mister Ryder]

Man you need to sit her down and talk to her,its likely that she doesn't even realize that she's doing anything wrong. Have you always bought gifts for each other for your anniversary? If you have and she didn't this year then I guess you have a right to be pissed. But you said that you bought her a computer and flowers for her birthday (combined? Sorry dude that just won't cut it when it comes to women) and maybe she didn't want to go out to dinner because she knew that you are not feeling well.

 

[freakygirl]

Do you have a TV with a VCR or DVD player in the bedroom?

Masturbate to a porno... making sure the volume of the tv and yourself are really loud. When she wakes up and asks what you are doing.. tell her.. getting some Anniversary nookie.

 

[freakygirl]

Re: we were married

Hummmm. First of all, the first day I was on lit I registered!

Second, I'd look at your sex life or lust life, what ever.

Maybe you need to reg. and get your wife to look on and play along.

Better yet, go to the pic's and both look on. You never know.

I registered due to my loving wife was having fun and I joined in. Now we have fun together. It's made our marrige stronger!!!!!!!!!!!

Try it. What can you loose??

very good.. you registered.

now learn to read the whole thread before posting

 

[Sillyman]

I suggest therapy immediately. This sounds like you need to get some counseling or else you aren't going to have a marriage of any kind after a while. At the very least you need to sit down and talk about your feelings. Telling us about them won't do jack; we're not her. I hope things work out for you man, and try to remember the good times before getting to hung up on the bad.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[cymbidia]

If she has a suprise it's how loud she can snore! she went to sleep an hour ago when she got tired of playing on her computer after she ate the food i went out an bought.

i forgot to mention she is selfish, self centered, and it looks like she quit liking sex when i put the ring on her finger.
i haven't had a good work out in bed in so many years i don't even like to think about it.

You know, fgarvb1, i really like the way that Mister Ryder thinks.

You've been around the track a couple times.
You know the score with regard to marriages that fall apart.
You know what to do to keep them going, too.

Talk to her, darlin'.
Sit her down and just talk.

No accusations.

No yelling.

Quiet, from-you-heart declarations of love and respect and hurt. Tell her how hurt you were. Be open. Be honest. Let her talk, too.

If it starts looking like it's gonna blow up into something bad, back off and call for a time out for you both to cool down. Then start the discussion again.

Neither of you wins if one of you -or both- are feeling frustrated and pissed off but you don't talk to each other about it.

Surely the 10 years you have into each other are worth a dose of heart-to-heart honesty, right?

 

[fgarvb1]

#1 i'm about the most registered bastard on this board. thank you very much. the gereral board program timed out again before i could post and i'll be damn if i was going to type it all twice.

#2 if you would like to talk to my wife about anything sexual go ahead! God knows i tried enough and get nowhere. She bear traped my ass and doesn't seem to give a damn other than a couple of times a year.

#3 wild horses could not drag her close enough to look at porn or join in at Lit. hell, its like she's dead inside or something.

#4 it takes two people to play together and she is not interested.

 

[freakygirl]

fgarvb1

Cym has some good advice, but I know how it is to be in that kind of relationship. It's much easier said than done.

My ex husband and I were in the same place you are now, only it was him not me that wasn't interested in sex or togetherness in anyway.

I'm so sorry you are having problems.


PM me if you need to talk.. I won't give advice unless you ask...

Take care. I hope you get to feeling better soon

 

[fgarvb1]

Shit. i wrote four paragraphs detailing the things i've tried to bring this relationship into what it could and should and i was lead to belive it would be.

then i noticed insted of a submit reply button i had a post thread button. fuck it. its time to go to bed. tomorrow is another day.

 

[Bindii]

Hey, it sounds to me like you are more upset over your lack of sex than presents?

You really need to try and talk to your wife about this, chances are she is just as upset over it as you.
Your last post was awfully negative, and while I can understand that you are hurting right now I'd advice that when you talk to your wife not to do so in such a negative manner....don't throw accusations around such as "You never have sex with me anymore" instead try "We never make love anymore". You'll get further that way trust me.

You say that your wife would never look at porn, ok maybe its not her thing? You might find however that she may consider reading some erotic stories, why don't you try printing a few out for her reading enjoyment - nothing too full on at first, stick to the lighter stuff.

 

[cymbidia]

Oh! Excellent advice, Bindii! You too, fg. Really good stuff.

You might find however that she may consider reading some erotic stories, why don't you try printing a few out for her reading enjoyment

You, uh, might want to stay far far far far far away from my stuff if this is the direction you're going to go.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Oh! Excellent advice, Bindii! You too, fg. Really good stuff.You, uh, might want to stay far far far far far away from my stuff if this is the direction you're going to go.

Cym, your stories rock... awesome. Bindii and freakygurl, brilliant advice...


fgarvb1... I was in the same position as you late last year man... sorry pal. I hope things come right...

 

[Nora]

You married my husband?? I thought that was illegal in Texas?

 

[freescorfr]

Wait and see. You never know. Your birthday is still sometime away so there is no need to go getting pissed off over nothing man. Just be cool. Besides, you gave her that stuff because you love her right, not because you wanted something back, right? Buck up.

fgarvb1, Sillyman is spot on. Relationships get strangled by the expectations of one partner to respond in a particular way for the other. You seem to have decided how you want your wife to be, rather than letting her free to be herself, who she is.

Renounce your desires for her to be as you want and focus only on what you want to put into the relationship. Not only will you not be disappointed, you will know that when she does respond it comes from her heart and not from a desire simply to please you.

That said, on my 25th wedding anniversary last year my wife tore up every photograph of me she could find and sprinkled them over the bedroom floor and bed. I believe that was a response from the heart too!.

I'm sure Bindii and Cym are talking sense on the sexual interest side.

 

[red_rose]

<snip>
That said, on my 25th wedding anniversary last year my wife tore up every photograph of me she could find and sprinkled them over the bedroom floor and bed. I believe that was a response from the heart too!.
...

Why did she do that?

...if you don't mind me asking...?

 

[InnocentAngel81]

i'm sorry today went so wrong for you.