I'm not trying to be a bitch

[CaseyBlack]

I can't tell you how often I roll my eyes at some of the messages I get here (and elsewhere). Be unique. Be different. Sending me a message that says, "I would love to fuck you," does not make you stand out. I know you would. If I was a guy, I'd love to fuck me too. Say something about one of my posts (I know I haven't posted much but there's enough to spark conversation if something caught your eye). Tell me who you are. Age? Married? Kids? Job? Stand out from the rest or be ignored.

 

[CaseyBlack]

Curious as a hotwife what’s the status of your husband? Have you ever thought of having him wear lingerie? My biggest kink is to enjoy wearing lingerie

A message like this would have been perfectly acceptable if I had posted or even hinted at it. I haven't. Out of the blue this is an insane question to ask a stranger. Don't be this guy.

 

[Cowboy34]

A message like this would have been perfectly acceptable if I had posted or even hinted at it. I haven't. Out of the blue this is an insane question to ask a stranger. Don't be this guy.

That's kind of crazy! Definitely don't be this guy!

 

[Chilllax]

I can't tell you how often I roll my eyes at some of the messages I get here (and elsewhere). Be unique. Be different. Sending me a message that says, "I would love to fuck you," does not make you stand out. I know you would. If I was a guy, I'd love to fuck me too. Say something about one of my posts (I know I haven't posted much but there's enough to spark conversation if something caught your eye). Tell me who you are. Age? Married? Kids? Job? Stand out from the rest or be ignored.

So why would you think you are a bitch for calling out something obvious? You are making a great point so...

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I can't tell you how often I roll my eyes at some of the messages I get here (and elsewhere). Be unique. Be different. Sending me a message that says, "I would love to fuck you," does not make you stand out. I know you would. If I was a guy, I'd love to fuck me too. Say something about one of my posts (I know I haven't posted much but there's enough to spark conversation if something caught your eye). Tell me who you are. Age? Married? Kids? Job? Stand out from the rest or be ignored.

Im pretty sure your not the only woman who gets these pm's. This is a male dominated site and most guys are here for quick satisfaction. It's pretty funny on my end it's the opposite. The Women who pm me don't even want to bother with small talk. But I'm pretty sure you get a hell of alot of pm's than me

 

[aego99x]

I can't tell you how often I roll my eyes at some of the messages I get here (and elsewhere). Be unique. Be different. Sending me a message that says, "I would love to fuck you," does not make you stand out. I know you would. If I was a guy, I'd love to fuck me too. Say something about one of my posts (I know I haven't posted much but there's enough to spark conversation if something caught your eye). Tell me who you are. Age? Married? Kids? Job? Stand out from the rest or be ignored.

I completely agree with you. Way too many people (male AND female) seem to thing "Wanna fuck?" works all the time. I'm like you, Casey, except I'm male.

I like to chat with a woman first to find out if we can carry on a non-sexual conversation, before getting into the naughty parts. If we can't, the naughty part just doesn't feel right to me. Don't get me wrong, it's not going to take long for me to be able to tell - so there's no worry of wasting anyone's time.

Maybe it's just because I'm older and have raised to be a polite gentleman. I've only had one "one-night-stand", but even that was at the end of a great evening of getting to know each other a bit first after meeting at a bar.

 

[Chernosoth]

 

[TheGxForum]

 

[strongnsensual]

I once sent a message and got a response that sounded angry because (obviously a paraphrase/summary) I hadn't done enough homework. It sounded so much like a work message saying my training wasn't up to date for what I was trying to do. Well, except for the very personal and sexual insults. Gotta keep your sense of humor engaged.

Don't remember who it was, that's not the point anyway.

No homework/training required if anyone is bored enough to reply to this specific comment.

 

[Jw75766]

I can't tell you how often I roll my eyes at some of the messages I get here (and elsewhere). Be unique. Be different. Sending me a message that says, "I would love to fuck you," does not make you stand out. I know you would. If I was a guy, I'd love to fuck me too. Say something about one of my posts (I know I haven't posted much but there's enough to spark conversation if something caught your eye). Tell me who you are. Age? Married? Kids? Job? Stand out from the rest or be ignored.

Some people don't know how to break out of the one dimensional way of thinking they've adopted. Expressive and thoughtful words take work. We are very much living in the instant gratification generation that people have dismissed romance, healthy pursuit and conversation as unnecessary and work. Why be creative and fun when they can go to any number of sites and instantly get the need they are pursuing fulfilled? I love the communication, the thrill of meeting new people, discovering who they are, what makes them who she/he is. Anyway, I hope you find more success finding people who want to invest the time it should take to get to know you and that it's a healthy and fruitful relationship.

 

[CaseyBlack]

Don't get me wrong, I like to know a person's kinks and limits. But this particular message was just a slap in the face with NO LEAD UP at all.

For the record, I don't like "How are you doing?" messages either. Tell me something about you, or something about what I have written or posted that caught your eye...that's the best way to start a conversation with me.

Here's a quick template...

Hi, I'm (age) and work in (industry). I'm (married/divorced/widowed/single) and have (number of kids, ages, genders).

That's the best way to get my attention. Family is super important to me.

 

[Jw75766]

Don't get me wrong, I like to know a person's kinks and limits. But this particular message was just a slap in the face with NO LEAD UP at all.

For the record, I don't like "How are you doing?" messages either. Tell me something about you, or something about what I have written or posted that caught your eye...that's the best way to start a conversation with me.

Here's a quick template...



That's the best way to get my attention. Family is super important to me.

You're not asking too much. That's how conversations should start ideally.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Horny dudes are unoriginal, intrusive and selfish? Who knew!?!?! My whole world view is shattered!

 

[TheGxForum]

Don't get me wrong, I like to know a person's kinks and limits. But this particular message was just a slap in the face with NO LEAD UP at all.

For the record, I don't like "How are you doing?" messages either. Tell me something about you, or something about what I have written or posted that caught your eye...that's the best way to start a conversation with me.

Here's a quick template...



That's the best way to get my attention. Family is super important to me.

Hi I'm (your favorite age) I'm divorced and have no kids and family is super important to me and I love bitches

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

I can't tell you how often I roll my eyes at some of the messages I get here (and elsewhere). Be unique. Be different. Sending me a message that says, "I would love to fuck you," does not make you stand out. I know you would. If I was a guy, I'd love to fuck me too. Say something about one of my posts (I know I haven't posted much but there's enough to spark conversation if something caught your eye). Tell me who you are. Age? Married? Kids? Job? Stand out from the rest or be ignored.

It’s wild how shallow most folks are. Most. Cheers

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

I can't tell you how often I roll my eyes at some of the messages I get here (and elsewhere). Be unique. Be different. Sending me a message that says, "I would love to fuck you," does not make you stand out. I know you would. If I was a guy, I'd love to fuck me too. Say something about one of my posts (I know I haven't posted much but there's enough to spark conversation if something caught your eye). Tell me who you are. Age? Married? Kids? Job? Stand out from the rest or be ignored.

What more is there to add to this?

I get it. Everyone one on here has different tastes/needs. I get it. Just be you - if we click, we click. But don't come at me so far out of left field we're not even in the same stadium. -Rant complete. lol