I'm not in love...

[Black_Bird]

"... but I'm going to fuck you until somebody better comes along."

What would you think of a person who would say this and mean it? What would you think of a person who would think this but not say it? What would you think of a person who wouldn't think it, say it, but would mean it?

Are you someone who is like this?

 

[Sillyman]

Someone who would say it is an asshole, but ultimately one you can make a deal with. Have sex now if you want, and tell the fucer to screw off when you're done. No biggie.

Someone who would think it is an asshole, and should be kicked hard and repeatedly.

Someone who would simply mean it would be sadly too human.

 

[Oilpainter]

What would you think of a person who wouldn't think it, say it, but would mean it?

I would say this person is having a Zen moment.

 

[Black_Bird]

Someone who would say it is an asshole, but ultimately one you can make a deal with. Have sex now if you want, and tell the fucker to screw off when you're done. No biggie.

Someone who would think it is an asshole, and should be kicked hard and repeatedly.

Someone who would simply mean it would be sadly too human.

Why is there a difference between the three?

 

[Black_Bird]

I would say this person is having a Zen moment.

Alan Watts Zen, J.D. Salinger Zen, or Martha Stewarts Zen?

 

[Oilpainter]

More like a Henry Miller Zen moment. This man acts instinctivly; he does not think. He is the Buddha!

 

[Black_Bird]

More like a Henry Miller Zen moment. This man acts instinctivly; he does not think. He is the Buddha!

Don't know much about Henry Miller, so I can't tell you if I disagree or not. All I know is that it's not my zen...

My zen starts when I stop saying "zen".

 

[scylis]

that line makes me think of two words: "fuck buddy"

that's all that person really is. in the right context, i don't see a problem with doing that. it's just that the right context tends not to happen often. at least how i see things.

 

[Black_Bird]

that line makes me think of two words: "fuck buddy"

that's all that person really is. in the right context, i don't see a problem with doing that. it's just that the right context tends not to happen often. at least how i see things.

So is that why a person who says that phrases is perferable to someone who only thinks it?

 

[scylis]

So is that why a person who says that phrases is perferable to someone who only thinks it?

only if they pretend to act in the opposite manner as what they really think.

 

[Oilpainter]

My zen starts when I stop saying "zen".

Exactly BB, that is why in the third example you give the guy is the Buddha. He doesn't think, he acts. He does not stop and say "This is a Zen moment." My comments where about your example not about what my Zen is. As you know everyones dharma, or road to the truth, is unique.

 

[Guest]

I'm Not In Love ~ 10cc

 

[Oilpainter]

Perfect song for this thread Fox!

 

[Laurel]

Are you someone who is like this?

No. I usually really dig the people I fuck. At the time I'm fucking them, anyhow.

 

[Guest]

 

[kotori]

You got that right. Hi, foxy.

 

[Lasz]

Depends on the fuck buddy. YOu would basically have to get in the mind set ahead of time. It would be good to know that my partner is thinking this though just so I know what I am getting into.

Although in the end I will probably be disapointed, but at least I can prepare myself for the downfall.

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

It's funny that this thread was near the top just now. Because I swear to Jeebus, I am in the worst turmoil I have been in a while. I am friends with this woman who has a perfect personality. Bounces right off mine. Funny, charming, and she even likes me.

But I think she's not that attractive. I just can't see myself with her. I wish I was less shallow somehow, but I can't change the fact that I might be embarrassed to be with her.

All I can think about is how lonely I am, and how this would be almost perfect, but, alas she's just below the limit.

I hate myself, especially since I know she is probably hurt by my indecisiveness.

This did happen once before, except with a woman much less attractive. It wasn't as hard a decision. But in the end, I think I'll be happy that I didn't give in to just the lust my hands have and lose my self-respect for not thinking anyone better (looking) would come along.

I just had to get that out.

 

[kotori]

Hi lamb chop

What's shakin'?

The leaves off the trees. First hints that sweater weather may be approaching.

Better be careful in that position, you might get humped. Er, I mean jumped.

 

[Guest]

 

[Laurel]

It's funny that this thread was near the top just now. Because I swear to Jeebus, I am in the worst turmoil I have been in a while. I am friends with this woman who has a perfect personality. Bounces right off mine. Funny, charming, and she even likes me.

But I think she's not that attractive. I just can't see myself with her. I wish I was less shallow somehow, but I can't change the fact that I might be embarrassed to be with her.

All I can think about is how lonely I am, and how this would be almost perfect, but, alas she's just below the limit.

I hate myself, especially since I know she is probably hurt by my indecisiveness.

This did happen once before, except with a woman much less attractive. It wasn't as hard a decision. But in the end, I think I'll be happy that I didn't give in to just the lust my hands have and lose my self-respect for not thinking anyone better (looking) would come along.

I just had to get that out.

I don't think that's necessarily shallow. If you're not attracted to her, you're not attracted to her. End of story.

People are a whole package. I've madly lusted after funny-looking guys with insane charisma. (In fact, that's the ones I usually end up with ) But even though the guys weren't drool-worthy on looks alone, they weren't a total turnoff...and their personalities gave them the extra appeal necessary. If there was a guy whose physicality totally turned me off, all the charisma in the world may not help.

That's not shallow - that's life. Anyone who says that looks are of zero importance is a liar. Looks aren't everything, but they are part of it.

 

[kotori]

Naughty boy.

How's about you stick a sprig of rosemary 'tween your teeth and jump into this here roasting tin?

As long as I'm basted regularly, and you've got the mint jelly on the side. Guess I won't be needing this sweater afterall.

 

[Guest]

I don't think that's necessarily shallow. If you're not attracted to her, you're not attracted to her. End of story.

People are a whole package. I've madly lusted after funny-looking guys with insane charisma. (In fact, that's the ones I usually end up with ) But even though the guys weren't drool-worthy on looks alone, they weren't a total turnoff...and their personalities gave them the extra appeal necessary. If there was a guy whose physicality totally turned me off, all the charisma in the world may not help.

That's not shallow - that's life. Anyone who says that looks are of zero importance is a liar. Looks aren't everything, but they are part of it.

Thanks. I know it's not really shallow, but for lack of a better word... I wish that I had different (i.e. lower) standards. I am especially saddened because I may not find another woman who is as fun to be around.

What's worse is, I led her on tonight. Partially, because I at the moment, I didn't mind. But then I look again and it's "What am I doing?"

I wish I could tell her that "I'm kinda lonely, don't get love often, so I want to touch you. Mess around a little. But I can't stay with you." I think this would not work.

If you're wondering why I'm trolling, it's in case she finds out my av and that this is about her (long shot, but I think I'm going to stay unreg).

 

[Guest]

not av, I mean user name.