I'm having problems with my girlfriend.

[The Fish]

First off, thank you to anyone who replies.

Basically, my girlfriend and I have just started getting into sex with each other. I'm a virgin, but she has been with just a few guys. She has never had an orgasm, due in part to the guys she was with simply pleased themselves. Now, I've been doing oral on her quite a bit, and she seems to love it. She tighten ups, moans, everything. However, when she really gets into it, she makes me stop. She says that she is scared of what might happen. She says that she doesn't have control of what is going on, so she is scared. Also, she says that it feels like she is going to pee.

Basically, I need help. I always stop when she says, becasue I respect her. However, she says that it has never hurt, it is just scary. Any advice? She is slowly letting me move forward, and I assure her more and more, but I need help. Also, what is the deal with her feeling like she might pee?

Thanks..

 

[midwestyankee]

My advice is to relax and enjoy yourselves.

Chances are, she is not about to urinate when she has that sensation. Instead, it's probably due to stimulation near her urethra. You''d get quite a bit of benefit (both of you) from reading this thread:

Try this and report back

One of the first things you will learn in this thread is that the sensation of needing to urinate is common but also is generally a false reading of the sensation. Getting past that point will keep you two coming back for more time and time again.

Enjoy.

 

[Felt Tip]

Sounds like she needs to be freed from the fear of peeing before she can relax and go the whole way.

She almost certainly won't pee, though it will feel like she might.
If you're lucky, she might even squirt (go read stuff about female ejaculation) - which will feel like she is peeing as it happens.

Try to reassure her that she won't, or have her read stuff that should reassure her.


A good idea would be to have her go to the toilet before you start. That should help give her confidence too.


Maybe you could try to release her from her fear by telling her that you're sure she won't pee, and to let go. And that you'll accept the risk of her peeing, and if it happens you'll get over it.

Although if you've not been together long that apporach might freak her out a bit.


Good luck anyway.

 

[CaptainAhab]

She is slowly letting me move forward, and I assure her more and more, but I need help.

The only problem is that you think that there is a problem. You are progressing slowly ... trying new things and exploring. THIS IS PERFECT. Sometimes it takes time for a woman (or man) to become fully comfortable with the new feelings that come from different sexual experiences. She will get there ... just be patient.

Talk about it a lot between you. Tell her how much you love it. But don't pressure her. Continue respecting her and enjoy it.

It ain't a race. It is an adventure.

 

[caNcer_b0y]

i used to have this same problem, the wife was affraid that she was going to pee, and would clamp her legs down on my head like a vice... it was really a turn off, i knew that she was enjoying it, i never found out why until we had been married almost a year, and i basicaly just handcuffed her to the bed and told her to hell with peeing, i spread 4-5 big towels out and said just let yourself go. the way i get the G_spot going is a bit diffferent than Mr G's technique, but close, instead fo the thumb, i usualy use 2 fingers in a "come hither" motion, and my wife, previously a "i never have orgasms" girl is now a 10-30 a night woman. as my wife is in iraq, protecting our country right now i miss being able to do this to her, and she has told me the same. although, she is still a vanilla sex girl, and i am adventurous as hell. i was wondering if there was any ideas on a way to break her out of her shell. took me a year for her to allow me to give her face till she came multiple times... sorry to diverge, anyhow thats my $0.02

Note: sorry for any misspellings, as my back hurts and i took my pain meds, and it kinda makes me high

 

[Bandit58]

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Basically, I need help. I always stop when she says, becasue I respect her. However, she says that it has never hurt, it is just scary. Any advice? She is slowly letting me move forward, and I assure her more and more, but I need help. Also, what is the deal with her feeling like she might pee?

Thanks..

It can be scary for someone not very experienced to let go of control. It sounds like you are doing all the right things, and it seems she is learning to trust you more. That trust is THE most important thing.

I could never relax enough to let go properly with anyone before I met Gil. He is my fifth partner, the only one to have found my Gspot, and the only one I have had multiple orgasms with. The peeing sensation is absolutely normal - trust me, she won't pee but she may gush or squirt. I remember the first time Gil did it to me, I begged him to stop cos I thought I was going to pee but he didn't.....and I had the most wonderful orgasm (plus I gushed all over the floor )

Just continue doing what you are doing, and reassure her that yes she will be ok, cuddle her lots and keep trying. A safe environment and a loving partner make all the difference. It's all about the journey, not the destination