I'm getting seriously pissed off at my mother

[freakygirl]

Yesterday I spent most of the day cutting up veggies and making homemade veggie beef soup.

Today I decided to make chili.. so I fry the hamburger, soak the beans.. the only thing I "cheated" on.. was I used some tomatoes, onions and habenero peppers that we canned two years ago (so it wasn't exactly cheating)

Mom said yesterday.. "you know this soup is good but it would have been better if you would have added a can or two of Campbells veggie soup for flavoring".

Tonight she says "You know this chili is good but it would have been better if you would have added a can or two of Nallys chili for flavoring."


I will never again make anything from scratch. From now on.. it's Nalleys or Campbells.

Anyone have a can opener I can borrow?

 

[MaggieH]

Don't you just hate unappreciative people? *sigh*

 

[Guest]

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

I'd just feed her Chef Boyardee from now on.

 

[SpiceCake]

Mothers! Humph!

My mom doesn't like me becasue I'm too happy! She says that when I laugh it annoys her! She quit talking to me altogether about 18 months ago.


My sympathies!

 

[HeavyStick]

Peanuts and a sling shot.

 

[Nora]

Ya know, Freaksters, if she's going to *insist* on canned, it's not your fault if the sodium levels in it do damage...

 

[morninggirl5]

Freaky, it may be that she has a reduced sense of taste. I know that my grandfather's sense of taste has decreased as he's gotten older. My grandmother hasn't changed the way she cooks in the past 50 years, but suudenly "nothing on the table is fit to eat" according to my grandfather.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Cook for you and your family and then open a can for her if she prefers. When I cook, it is the pleasure I get out of doing it.

Did Mr. Freaky like it? He is the one who counts.

It seems that your mother cannot be pleased or doesn't want to be pleased.

This must be a lesson you are to learn. I tell myself that when there is someone in my life who acts like fingernails on a chalkboard. You are learning patience. That must be it.

 

[freakygirl]

Mom can't taste anything.. I don't know if it is age or if it is the two packs of cigs that she smokes a day.

All I know is I'm tired of it always being my fault.

Everything from the hot water heater not working to the roof being bad.. is my fault. It has NOTHING to do with the fact that we had 80 mph winds last night that blew out the pilot on the hot water heater.. and it's not that the roof hasn't been done in over 30 years (she insists it was done no less than ten years ago.) It's all because I'm me.. and I'm not perfect.

She is perfect.. everyone else is stupid.

Don't even get me started on her new sleeping habits

 

[MaggieH]

Well, I know you're getting frustrated, freaky...*hugs*

But I just wanted to say I really admire you for taking care of your mom the way you are...

 

[SpiceCake]

Well, I know you're getting frustrated, freaky...*hugs*

But I just wanted to say I really admire you for taking care of your mom the way you are...

I second that, Freaky!

 

[freakygirl]

Thank you.. but if things don't change I might be in prison.

Now it's my fault that she's already seen all the movies on tv.

 

[SpiceCake]

Thank you.. but if things don't change I might be in prison.

Now it's my fault that she's already seen all the movies on tv.

Hon, she needs to get out more! LOL

I wish I were there to give you a big hug!

 

[freakygirl]

Hon, she needs to get out more! LOL

I wish I were there to give you a big hug!

She's getting out tomorrow. There is a funeral for the lady who used to sit in the back of the church. Mom didn't know her.. and Mom hasn't been to church in a year.. but dammit we are going to the funeral.

Which is outside.. and we are in the middle of a storm. Not supposed to get nice again until Sunday.

I need a drink and a cigarette.

 

[SpiceCake]

She's getting out tomorrow. There is a funeral for the lady who used to sit in the back of the church. Mom didn't know her.. and Mom hasn't been to church in a year.. but dammit we are going to the funeral.

Which is outside.. and we are in the middle of a storm. Not supposed to get nice again until Sunday.

I need a drink and a cigarette.

I can see that you do. I feel blessed that my mother does not make that contact - only last month on my birthday - sent sent flowers! WTF - I just looked at them and thought WTF! LOL

 

[MistyBluEyes]

Next time you cook something great like the soup or chili, make sure you heat up some canned crap and give it to her instead of giving her the homemade.

 

[marksgirl]

Freaky have you ever looked into assisted living homes for your mother. Sounds like you need a break girl!

 

[shopperst]

sympathies from a random stranger, take a deep breath, head for the toilet with a large gin and have a good scream.

If you kill her, she'll only find another way to channel the guilt ... trust me. Join a boxercise class or invest in a heavy duty punchbag & gloves.

 

[sorority_girl]

Mom can't taste anything..
She is perfect.. everyone else is stupid.

I'm amazed at your stamina and patience!

You obviously need a break from her. I'd suggest long walks, or just like shopperst said, go learn a martial art/punch something inanimate.

She may also be expressing her frustration and fear at growing older... she can't taste much anymore, she's not the mistress of her own house, etc... and you're there, so you're the target. Believe me, I know about demanding/querulous mothers - but you have to keep it in perspective or we'll be hearing your neighbors on the nightly news: "She was such a quiet person."

Hang in there, love. We're here to listen if you want to vent.