I'm fucking pissed!

[PacificBlue]

Sooo...my 'best' and I use that term loosely at the moment is coming to my state at the end of the month. She is from here but lives far away now. I haven't seen her in 3 years.

I got an 'itinerary' today in the mail and I have been penciled in for two hours. Oh please...can I spend some time with you? I would be so grateful if you would pay just a little attention to me! FUCK!!! Do I look that fucking desperate?!?!? If you don't want to see me, don't bother stopping bye and don't send me a fucking itinerary with a bunch of other people on it that you plan on spending several days with and then tell me how much you fucking miss me and love me!!!!

I'm doing just fine on my own thank you very much and I'm sorry if you fucking don't agree with my not going to church, being *gasp* a liberal, or that I've had SEX!!! If you don't like me anymore because I don't fit into your little box, walk the fuck away but DO NOT expect me to turn myself inside out to please you. I will not!

Excuse me...I think I need to go watch some porn and masturbate in front of the living room window now. AAARRRGGGHHHH!!!

 

[deliciously_naughty]

This happenned to my best friend when she came home to visit. Her other close female friend got very pissy with X when she (X) couldn't meet her friends expectations of her. They aren't even on speaking terms anymore.

 

[Blackbich]

I'm not getting a sense of how you REALLY feel about this - maybe you should learn to express yourself in clearer terms.

Do you feel better now??

 

[Orwell84]

Some times your friends aren't who you think they are. I was just having a conversation with a friend recently. He was concerned that he was involved in something that I would not approve of, so he was avoiding me. I was kind of disappointed, and explained that it wasn't my thing to judge him or anyone else, but that I considered him a good enough friend that I would give him an honest opinion on the issue without judging him. I don't know. Seems like a lot of people are reluctant to be honest with each other for various reasons.

 

[Guest]

Look at it like this: You have friends.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

I understand the need for iteneraries ...

and trying to plan how you are going to spend your time. However, I'm not sure if giving time amounts is the way to go. By saying that others are going to get more of her time. She has made you feel that you are "less important, or less valueable" than the others. Can't say if this is true or not PB, but at least you are someone she wants to see. Try to look at it this way.

I know that when I'm visiting like that, I'll say that I want to spend X amount of time with this person, and X amount of time with that person. Do I usually spend that time with them??? Not usually. Often times I spend more time than I've allocated. Which causes someone else to get less time. Not trying to make an excuse, but it sometimes happens. Then you end up apologizing to the ones that didn't get any time at all. Sometimes it's a no win situaltion, but that's what happens when visiting. Hopefully you will get some time.

As someone already said. Some time is better than no time at all.


((((HUGS)))


kgboot
aka "Mr. Bootie"

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I'm doing just fine on my own thank you very much and I'm sorry if you fucking don't agree with my not going to church, being *gasp* a liberal, or that I've had SEX!!!

You're a liberal??!?!?!?!?!

GASP!?!?!

I am sorry, we can't be friends anymore!

 

[kiwiwolf]

Excuse me...I think I need to go watch some porn and masturbate in front of the living room window now. AAARRRGGGHHHH!!!

Need any help with those movies?

 

[Cheyenne]

Just out of curiosity, did she write all those things as reasons for why she only wants to see you for 2 hours? Or are you coming up with all that stuff about church, being liberal and having sex on your own? Are you sure those aren't things about you that are bugging YOU and they actually have nothing at all to do with your friend?

 

[PacificBlue]

There is a whole lot more background here than what I'm going to post. Let's just say I'm over myself now. I'm not hoping around swearing and I do not intend to see her at the end of the month.

 

[PacificBlue]

Just out of curiosity, did she write all those things as reasons for why she only wants to see you for 2 hours? Or are you coming up with all that stuff about church, being liberal and having sex on your own? Are you sure those aren't things about you that are bugging YOU and they actually have nothing at all to do with your friend?

I did not come up with them on my own and no they don't bother me. It does bother me that I've lost the majority of my friends over these particular issues.

I remember clearly the conversation we had the evening she found out I wasn't a republican.

 

[Guest]

I did not come up with them on my own and no they don't bother me. It does bother me that I've lost the majority of my friends over these particular issues.

I remember clearly the conversation we had the evening she found out I wasn't a republican.

People change. Friends change. You are who you are, and as long as you're OK with that, fuck 'em.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I did not come up with them on my own and no they don't bother me. It does bother me that I've lost the majority of my friends over these particular issues.

I remember clearly the conversation we had the evening she found out I wasn't a republican.

You're not a Republican??!?!

Such stuff happens - I once had a friend who said he couldn't be my friend any longer due to two things:

1) At the time I was a pacifist and he wasn't.

2) I bought Penthouse magazines and he thought this was a sin. His preacher brother convinced him that I was a bad influence and that he shouldn't associate with me.

There are a lot of people out there who just can't stand to be friends with anybody who is different. I can understand not wanting an intimate relationship with someone you may be at odds with on some important issues as you might be arguing about them a lot, but friends? I will be friends with most anybody unless they are obnoxious.

Please tell me you're not obnoxious.

 

[PacificBlue]

I'm not obnoxious. I am horny. I do like phone sex. I don't plan on getting rid of the porn I do own. I'm going to buy the vibrator I want and use it on a regular basis. I plan to continue to live my own life. I will probably have sex again outside of marriage. I don't think I'll become a conservative anytime soon. However, I will have open conversations with people of other belief systems. Don't bash me, I won't bash you. I will continue to talk dirty in bed because I like it.

 

[Jim_Henson]

And all I can think of is the people who arent seeing me, and how they can at least understand why I'm at least trying to do my best.

The people who saw me can understand why I have to leave far before I'd like to etc... having a time limit sucks but its better than none at all.

 

[Guest]

I'm not obnoxious. I am horny. I do like phone sex. I don't plan on getting rid of the porn I do own. I'm going to buy the vibrator I want and use it on a regular basis. I plan to continue to live my own life. I will probably have sex again outside of marriage. I don't think I'll become a conservative anytime soon. However, I will have open conversations with people of other belief systems. Don't bash me, I won't bash you. I will continue to talk dirty in bed because I like it.

You sound like my wife.

 

[intrigued]

Sooo...my 'best' and I use that term loosely at the moment is coming to my state at the end of the month. She is from here but lives far away now. I haven't seen her in 3 years.

I got an 'itinerary' today in the mail and I have been penciled in for two hours. Oh please...can I spend some time with you? I would be so grateful if you would pay just a little attention to me! FUCK!!! Do I look that fucking desperate?!?!? If you don't want to see me, don't bother stopping bye and don't send me a fucking itinerary with a bunch of other people on it that you plan on spending several days with and then tell me how much you fucking miss me and love me!!!!

I'm doing just fine on my own thank you very much and I'm sorry if you fucking don't agree with my not going to church, being *gasp* a liberal, or that I've had SEX!!! If you don't like me anymore because I don't fit into your little box, walk the fuck away but DO NOT expect me to turn myself inside out to please you. I will not!

Excuse me...I think I need to go watch some porn and masturbate in front of the living room window now. AAARRRGGGHHHH!!!

You Go Girl!!!


I'm sorry, I can understand your feelings very well, and you have every right to feel as you do. What are you going to do?

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

On the flip side...

I moved to Miami from Seattle three years ago and manage to make it back home twice a year for about one week per visit. When I'm home, there are a lot of people that I want to see and that want to see me- and for that I am truly greatful!

After the first few visits I DID start making an itinerary for my trip home. It was too hard to try and fit everyone in without doing so.
I usually call and email my friends before coming home and check their schedules so we can make plans. I also through one big party at my mom's house or at a club or restaurant and invite all my friends and family to come because I can't spend one on one time with everyone as much as I would like to.

My itinerary isn't something that is circulated to everyone, but I do send it to my closest friends and my parents so they know where to find me and when I'm not committed so we can spend even more time together.

I don't know your situation or your friend, but I doubt she intended to hurt your feelings. If you really miss her and want to spend more time with her, maybe you should tell her that so the two of you can really have time to connect. After one visit home, my mom said that she was really sad that she hadn't been able to spend more time with me and as it turned out, she had a lot going on for her emotionally at that time and she really needed to be with me...but she didn't tell me before or during my visit. If she had told me, I would have made it a point to spend as much time with her as possible.

I understand that you are mad and frustrated and hurt...and I am not trying to take anything away from that. I just know what it feels like to be on the other side of the situation....

I hope everything works out for you

 

[Cheyenne]

I did not come up with them on my own and no they don't bother me. It does bother me that I've lost the majority of my friends over these particular issues.

I remember clearly the conversation we had the evening she found out I wasn't a republican.

Your best friend had to "find out" you weren't a Republican? How well could she have known you if that was a big surprise to you?

You've lost friends because you're liberal, have sex, and don't go to church? You've just described a large segment of the people at Lit! I can't imagine real life friends that would give up a friendship over any one of those 3 items.

 

[PacificBlue]

Your best friend had to "find out" you weren't a Republican? How well could she have known you if that was a big surprise to you?

You've lost friends because you're liberal, have sex, and don't go to church? You've just described a large segment of the people at Lit! I can't imagine real life friends that would give up a friendship over any one of those 3 items.

Chey...

Most of the friends I used to hang with attend church on Sunday, Wednesday and do church related activities Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday or Saturday. Yes, I know I just described a large segment of the people here at Lit. I was talking about people who know me face-to-face.

She 'assumed' that we held the same beliefs about politics, abortion, sex, etc., etc., because we held the same religious beliefs. We met while I was in college and at that time I didn't rock the boat much, nor did I speak my mind much. I spent the majority of my college career shocked that nobody was calling me names anymore and that people actually thought I was cool.

We were quite close until I started to push the envelope. It was my choice. I'm sad that this is pulling us apart. She isn't the person I slept 4 feet from in college and I'm not the one she remembers either. Its been painful for both of us.

As I said earlier in this thread...there is a whole lot of other 'background' information that makes the story all fall into place. I just came home, got the typed itinerary with a sticky note and felt incredibly hurt, frustrated, and angry.

 

[PacificBlue]

I don't know your situation or your friend, but I doubt she intended to hurt your feelings.

This may well in fact be true. Our friendship has gone from handmade notes to letters written on fancy paper to 'form' letters.

When this trip was orginally planned it went from she was staying with me for a couple of days to she was staying one night to she is staying at a hotel and we are having dinner on her way through town to another destination.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

This is sad to read PB.

I don't agree with some of my friends beliefs, but we are still friends. I know that some of my frineds don't agree with me as well. We have agreed to disagree. The friendships are more important than our differences. I just hope the two of you can work things out.


kgboot
aka "Mr. Bootie"

 

[april-wine]

I'm not obnoxious. I am horny. I do like phone sex. I don't plan on getting rid of the porn I do own. I'm going to buy the vibrator I want and use it on a regular basis. I plan to continue to live my own life. I will probably have sex again outside of marriage. I don't think I'll become a conservative anytime soon. However, I will have open conversations with people of other belief systems. Don't bash me, I won't bash you. I will continue to talk dirty in bed because I like it.

Hmmmmmm what's your number??? Let's talk dirty......



Although the republican thing kinda bugs me...........


Actually I'm Canadian....What the heck is a republican anyway???

 

[PacificBlue]

Re: This is sad to read PB.

I don't agree with some of my friends beliefs, but we are still friends. I know that some of my frineds don't agree with me as well. We have agreed to disagree. The friendships are more important than our differences. I just hope the two of you can work things out.


kgboot
aka "Mr. Bootie"

This is when I think the whole 'religion' thing isn't such a great thing. When you start distancing yourself from others because their beliefs don't exactly match up.

I've had lectures from people who said they were my friends about going to bars, dance clubs, dating 'non-christians' etc., etc., etc.

 

[PacificBlue]

Hmmmmmm what's your number??? Let's talk dirty......



Although the republican thing kinda bugs me...........


Actually I'm Canadian....What the heck is a republican anyway???