I'm fucking furious

[Wildcard Ky]

My ex wife lives in another state with our two daughters.

I get a phone call from my oldest daughter tonight. She asks if I've heard from her mom lately. I say that I haven't. Then she says "I guess you don't know"

She informs me that my other daughter is in the hospital in pretty bad shape. She was in a car accident. She was the passenger. The driver ran a red light and was broadsided on the passengers side.

Her injuries aren't life threatening, but pretty severe. Shattered pelvis, collapsed lungs, and cracked ribs.

I just got this call about an hour and a half ago. The wreck happened Wednesday night.

I'm relieved that she's not in danger, but I'm way beyond pissed that no one called me sooner. I don't think I've ever been this mad in my life.

 

[lipsofanangel]

My ex wife lives in another state with our two daughters.

I get a phone call from my oldest daughter tonight. She asks if I've heard from her mom lately. I say that I haven't. Then she says "I guess you don't know"

She informs me that my other daughter is in the hospital in pretty bad shape. She was in a car accident. She was the passenger. The driver ran a red light and was broadsided on the passengers side.

Her injuries aren't life threatening, but pretty severe. Shattered pelvis, collapsed lungs, and cracked ribs.

I just got this call about an hour and a half ago. The wreck happened Wednesday night.

I'm relieved that she's not in danger, but I'm way beyond pissed that no one called me sooner. I don't think I've ever been this mad in my life.

I'd be pretty pissed myself!

My thoughts are with you and your daughter.

 

[slyc_willie]

You've got every right to be pissed. I would be, too.

They're your daughters, too, wasn't she thinking about that?

I'm glad her injuries are not life-threatening (although may cause complications further down the road). Take comfort in that, I suppose.

Are you going to go see her?

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I'm so sorry this happened!

My thoughts are with you and your girls. *hugs*

 

[sereneone4u]

That is just horrible, Wildcard...

You have every right to be upset and angry. However, stay focused on your daughter and getting her through this and then confront your EX privately about this matter...it really is beyone wrong and you should have been notified immediately...hoping for the absolute best...

 

[Wildcard Ky]

You've got every right to be pissed. I would be, too.

They're your daughters, too, wasn't she thinking about that?

I'm glad her injuries are not life-threatening (although may cause complications further down the road). Take comfort in that, I suppose.

Are you going to go see her?

I want to, but I'm not sure it would be a good thing in my present state of mind. When I walked in the room and her mother was sitting there, I'm not sure I could control my temper.

I need to get calmed down before making any decisions.

 

[Belegon]

Damn Dude! I'd be pissed too...

Glad your daughters injuries aren't life-threatening...I'll send healing thoughts.

 

[Pure]

i'm sorry to hear about your daughter. yes, i'd be upset too; i wonder if your ex had some obscure purpose...?

 

[impressive]

 

[SlickTony]

Well, maybe she just forgot; it must have been very upsetting to go through. I hope your daughter heals up all right, WCK.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Definitely something that you should have been informed of...

maybe she was so distraught? I know when my dh ended up in the hospital and was given a 50% chance of making it (or not) I wasn't thinking about who I needed to call, kwim?

Just... ya know... maybe giving her the benefit of the doubt?

 

[slyc_willie]

I want to, but I'm not sure it would be a good thing in my present state of mind. When I walked in the room and her mother was sitting there, I'm not sure I could control my temper.

I need to get calmed down before making any decisions.

I'm not a parent, but I would think that, regardless of your state of mind, you would be able to control yourself for your daughter's sake.

Got to her; she needs her father.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

I'm not a parent, but I would think that, regardless of your state of mind, you would be able to control yourself for your daughter's sake.

not as easy as it sounds...

I do hope you never have an ex-wife, Willie...

 

[Goldie Munro]

You are right too be pissed - hope all goes well

 

[slyc_willie]

not as easy as it sounds...

I do hope you never have an ex-wife, Willie...

Hmm . . . point taken. Not being in such a situation makes such decisions easier for me, I suppose.

 

[Xelebes]

You need to change your av. It's no longer funny, WCK.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

I'd be loading my Glock, and (given that I wouldn't really be planning to use it), at the same time be telling myself that it is unproductive and futile to be angry at something completely beyond my control (the irrationality and injustice of a former spouse), that this makes as much sense as being furious at the weather or the tides, and so I should instead 'let it go,' chalk it up as just sad that this person has chosen to be irrational and unjust, and think about what I can do to help my daughter in the most effective and sympathetic way, in both her immediate situation and her long-term life in general.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Hmm . . . point taken. Not being in such a situation makes such decisions easier for me, I suppose.

no I mean it... I hope you never do... it's no fun I wasn't being mean... honest...

Divorce sucks with a capital S... it's so hard for everyone, and there can be so much anger and bitterness and resentment...

it can take years for people to even be able to be civil to each other again sometimes... and you think, "We'll be better, we'll do this the 'right' way," but then... things just happen... feelings are what they are...

I won't do divorce again.

 

[SeaCat]

Damn dude, this sucks.

I went through something like this with my sister and my mother a couple of years back. I'm still steamed about it.

I hope the little one pulls through all right.

Cat

 

[cloudy]

 

[drksideofthemoon]

The important thing is your daughter, and thankfully she will be okay...everything else is secondary...

 

[starrkers]

Go to your daughter. The travel time is enough to get a hold of the urge to strangle the ex. She can wait.
But likely the daughter doesn't know why you're not there either...

 

[3113]

Keep us updated on your daughter, Dude. And I agree with the rest. Just get to her.

 

[Guest]

Go to your daughter. The travel time is enough to get a hold of the urge to strangle the ex. She can wait.
But likely the daughter doesn't know why you're not there either...

I agree.

Go to your children.

Blessings on you all, Wildcard.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Sory to hear about both incidents. Neither should ever happen.