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[lilsexkitty666]

hi im a 19 year old female n i have always been fascinated by the world of bdsm im kinda curious n thought it would be intersting to become a online sub only i mean i m hoping a male might want me to be his slave online not in person but i dont no wat i have to do ne one out ther willin to help me

 

[FurryFury]

I'm going to assume you are serious and give you a serious response here.

There are plenty of online Doms. Not all online Doms are what I personally would consider a Dom. Many know far less they they pretend. Many misrepresent themselves. They are likely to be married and sneaking around online. They are likely not to be the sex they say they are. BUT if they do it for you and vice versa, that's okay with me.

I can't tell you what you'd have to do because everyone and every couple has different things that turn them on and off. Both of you filling out a BDSM interest survey, could help you both. You can decide what your hard and soft limits are.

You do NOT have to do anything you don't want to do particularly if it violates your hard limits. IMO, you won't automatically know what those hard limits are with so little experience.

If you call yourself a sub, a slave or whatever you still have rights and the right to have feelings. Don't get confused about that because some online Asshat says you don't or should not have them!

Always, always, always use good safety rules. You do not have to send a picture, do cam stuff, give our your real name, phone number address and so on. If you ever entertain the idea of meeting make sure you meet in a public place with proper safety calls and after making him or her authenticate themselves properly.

I wouldn't do so until and unless trust was built and maybe not even then because online people are funny. They can be obsessive and stalker-like. They can also drop you like a hot potato with no warning whatsoever. When when you know "why" it rarely makes sense to the person dropped and for good reason.

I can say, and I don't mean to be nasty about this, that you might want to learn to capitalize and follow the basic rules of grammar because it's irritating to most to read posts without those things. I would never personally want to post back and forth with anyone on a regular basis that was difficult for me to read, you know?

Good luck!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

hi im a 19 year old female n i have always been fascinated by the world of bdsm im kinda curious n thought it would be intersting to become a online sub only i mean i m hoping a male might want me to be his slave online not in person but i dont no wat i have to do ne one out ther willin to help me

Learn to write in English - spelling, grammar, sentence construction - to start. This is not text messaging - you're not charged by the letter. Learn something about BDSM - read the BDSM Library thread, or at least the parts of it that interest you. Read the threads in this forum and the BDSM Café, paying attention to the posts by the experienced people here.

 

[Puman]

Learn to write in English - spelling, grammar, sentence construction - to start. This is not text messaging - you're not charged by the letter. Learn something about BDSM - read the BDSM Library thread, or at least the parts of it that interest you. Read the threads in this forum and the BDSM Café, paying attention to the posts by the experienced people here.

Couldn't have said it better myself.... the BDSM library is a really good place to start. It helped me tremendously..

 

[myinnerslut]

hi im a 19 year old female n i have always been fascinated by the world of bdsm. im kinda curious

well then, welcome to lit. this is a great place to learn

n thought it would be intersting to become a online sub

you sound a bit as if your entertaining a whim. while you have every right to experiment and learn and discover, jumping into a relationship, whether online or in RL, may not be the best way to go about doing so. i would recomend learing more about what BDSM is and what it is that submission means to you before you get involved in a relationship.

only i mean i m hoping a male might want me to be his slave online not in person

if you are looking online only, take into account what furry said. there are many people who are only looking for masturbation material. there are some who might be entertaining an online persona that may be a completly different personality, apperaence, or gender then who they actually are. if you are looking for something that you hope to develop into a long term relationship, be especially careful looking only online.

but i dont no wat i have to do ne one out ther willin to help me

to find somebody intrested in dominating you you can try putting up a BDSM personal in the lit personals area, or making an account with a BDSM online dating site like www.collarme.com or www.alt.com