I'm confused....help me

[His Flower]

So I have a personal dilemma. I think I'm going through an identity crisis.

So recently, but not really that recently, the guy that I've been with and I seperated, and went our sepearte ways.

And I guess for those who knew me from before knows that I'm submissive, or at least that's what I thought I was...or I still am?

I'm confused guys....I mean, I take more pleasure in pleasing someone then my own enjoyment. But being put into the field of singlehood....I'm not utterly confused...I feel like I'm going through an identity crisis except I feel i can't even express what I'm feeling.

Anyone can understand, and explain?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Nice to see you here again...you have been missed. Sorry to hear about the end of your relationship His_Flower. It is never an easy time, nor do the effects always filter through immediately at time of parting. Perhaps the uncertainty you are feeling is simply one of those changes we find ourselves going through at various stages of our life, or a way for you to question everything and gain a firmer footing in the long term as to where you want your life to lead. Working through the confusion at your own pace can give you a greater understanding of who you are, what you need, where you belong...determining your own path to happiness.

It need not necessarily be a negative, though the change and uncertainty can definately be unsettling at times. Best thoughts I can offer at this stage is listen to your inner voice, your intuition, your heart, and let it lead you through the discoveries ahead...maybe approach it as an adventurous journey with perhaps a few unexpected but exciting turns. Number one priority is take care of you. ...and how is the acting going?

Catalina

 

[His Flower]

...and how is the acting going?

Catalina

The acting is going well.....I actually got another part in a play called Twelve Ophelias. and opening night is in 11 days and still counting....

 

[MissTaken]

Hello His_Flower,

I can remember when my first Dominant and I ended our relationship. I had become so enmeshed in "us" and "U/us" I felt the carpet had been pulled from beneath my feet.

I questioned so many things about myself, including my involvement with BDSM and longed for some concrete to put my feet on.

I found it, slowly. I stopped thinking and looking for someone special and started concentrating on me, my work, my children etc. I also spent many hours at lit which helped me to sort out some thoughts and feel less confused. I also felt less alone.

I wish I could make this easier for you, but can only offer to be here.

Many hugs,

MissT