im confused and horny

[shynsexy]

hey yall... evaeryone having a great night?? well not me.... i have a problem with the fact that there no problem. let me explain.

i ran in to my fist love today whom i havent seen in over 4 yrs. Didnt even know he was back in town. So we talked for about 30 min and then agreed to meet tomorrow morning to go over old times. I knew my BF would be fine with it and as soon as i got to his house after picking my kids up, i made his fave dinner to kinda soften him up. he has told me in the past how jealous he has been of his ex's friends and stuff. i'm not worried about thats at all.

So after dinner (the kids were still eating--piggies ) I told him that I had ran into and old friend and we agreed to meet for breakfast in the morning . He said "whats her name? I was like shawn he said is that her nickname??? I was like no its his name. then he was like, "ok have fun" i am glad he didnt get all jealous and stupid, but i didnt expect this kind of reaction. was it even a reaction?

men???? can yall explain? after he has made it a point to express how jealous he has been in the past with people--- with me he was so nonchalant (sp) does anyone know whats going on here cuz i dont. ok i told him so there would be no secrets between us, and i know he trusts me, i have never given him a reason to be untrusting.

Thanks for yall responses in advance. and please dont bash me, i dont want him to be a jealous fool, but i do want him to care.

shy

 

[Zephan]

Chances are he is a bit jealous. As men we come by it naturally. If he tells you he is jealous or worried about you meeting a former lover well, that makes it seem as though he doesn't trust you or is extremely insecure. Neither of which a man wants his SO to believe about him. So he probably kept it short and even though it bothered him simply told you what he thought you wanted to hear. Life would be so much easier if people could just tell each other how we feel without thought of how those feelings would paint us in other people minds. Since we live in the real world however I guess we just suffer through and try and make the best of it. Take care.

 

[Zamdrist]

Don't mean to confuse you more, but I'm horny too.

 

[JazzManJim]

Ugh.

Of course he's jealous. Most men would be jealous.

You met your first love after years of not seeing him, agreed to meet him for breakfast (without once consulting your current boyfriend to suss out his feelings on the matter), sprung this on him casually over dinner and you're confused about his reaction?

He's jealous. He's not yelling, which is probably a lot worse than it would be if he were. Men aren't good when they're quiet like that. Were I you, I'd do some damange control immediately.

This wasn't, in my opinion, a smart thing to do.