I'm ashamed of myself...

[stevemike08066]

I've been posting on here the past few days, all about my fetishes and kinks, and even about a very humiliating sex act that was done to me.

Now, I don't know why, but, I'm regretting it. I've always had very low self confidence, and.....I don't know...

Does anyone else feel this way after posting something private?

 

[live4thebj]

Nope! I don't regret anything I done sexually except that grandmother. Besides no one knows who I am and vice versa.

 

[twentywhales]

I do. Confidence isn't something I have a lot of, especially in this area. Sometimes I end up posting something only to delete it moments later, but it's slowly getting better with the more time I spend here

 

[sidonie45]

Nope. I don't.
I have thought twice of posting some things I have written, but I've never deleted or changed what I've posted. It's either something that has happened to me or how I feel and I take ownership of it.

I have 22 yo twin boys and are different as chslk is to cheese. No one person has the same life experience as someone else. Some things may scar us or leave a positive effect, but through it all, life experience shapes us.

It's how you decide to live you life that counts. Never be ashamed of who you are. Believe me when I say I've been there. Some people here tend to think I've had a great start in life, because of the person they assume i am by what they read in my posts. Its their formed opinion of me. It's far from the truth.

Confidence in yourself will grow, Don't be afraid to let it.

 

[Peach102]

I totally get where you are coming from. Lets face it, this forum contains a lot of discussions that few would have in the real world. Coming here can make you feel free to open up on things you normally would not. There have been some things that I started to share, but opted not to. I may share those things still, but did not feel totally comfortable doing so at this time. I have only been here for less than a month, and while I don't feel like I am part of the regular crew (I still find like I am looking in from the outside sometimes), I have never felt not welcome, if that makes sense.

I will say that, unlike that real world, I don't think many here judge others. It is a funky place to come and let your freak out. Everyone here is a little kinky (Ok, some are VERY kinky) in their own way and have themselves found acceptance at Lit....except for that one with the goose, pineapple, midget Nazi and accordion, that was kind of messed up.

 

[Ambro1409]

I've felt this way since I first posted on here. Like a constant knot in my throat or stomach of just profound guilt and fear. Terrified to refresh the page or check replies to my posts on threads for fear of derision or whatever.

It's hard opening up to anyone about sensitive shit like this that you would never speak about in real life and usual company. It's also why I use the alias 'Ambro'. My name is not Ambro. That's just the name I go by when I play computer games. Ambrosius/Ambro, etc.

Even when some people seem accepting of your kinks or your opinions, the feeling doesn't go away. At least for me. It's opening yourself up to a vulnerability that you're just not comfortable with and until you get used to it, it won't change. I think.

Anyway, I just wanted to post that you're not alone.

 

[NickCarraway12]

I've been posting on here the past few days, all about my fetishes and kinks, and even about a very humiliating sex act that was done to me.

Now, I don't know why, but, I'm regretting it. I've always had very low self confidence, and.....I don't know...

Does anyone else feel this way after posting something private?

I understand. Maybe I've felt this way a little bit but I don't think anyone is judging you here. It's a safe place for it as it's anonymous and we learn that when enough people talk about this sort of thing, you start to see similarities.

I hope that you work on your self-confidence in whatever way would be helpful. In my years of experience, I've learned that self-confidence is a choice instead of an assigned trait.

 

[KINKYCanada]

I've been posting on here the past few days, all about my fetishes and kinks, and even about a very humiliating sex act that was done to me.

Now, I don't know why, but, I'm regretting it. I've always had very low self confidence, and.....I don't know...

Does anyone else feel this way after posting something private?

No body knows who you are!!!! This is why sites like this work! You have a place say everything you are feeling, done, want to do, and generally lie to a bunch of strangers about who you are! lol

I used to be a troll I would go on and say shit just to stir the pot! Then I said fuck this and changed. If you are ashamed of who you are or what you did! Then that is something you need to deal with! If you are ashamed that you posted it on here. Then forget you did! Trust me every one here will and sooner than you think!

KC

 

[Samisstout]

I've been posting on here the past few days, all about my fetishes and kinks, and even about a very humiliating sex act that was done to me.

Now, I don't know why, but, I'm regretting it. I've always had very low self confidence, and.....I don't know...

Does anyone else feel this way after posting something private?

I love it ! Especially when people are turned on by it . No one knows me .

 

[4215]

Living life

Nope. I don't.
I have thought twice of posting some things I have written, but I've never deleted or changed what I've posted. It's either something that has happened to me or how I feel and I take ownership of it.


I have 22 yo twin boys and are different as chslk is to cheese. No one person has the same life experience as someone else. Some things may scar us or leave a positive effect, but through it all, life experience shapes us.

It's how you decide to live you life that counts. Never be ashamed of who you are. Believe me when I say I've been there. Some people here tend to think I've had a great start in life, because of the person they assume i am by what they read in my posts. Its their formed opinion of me. It's far from the truth.

Confidence in yourself will grow, Don't be afraid to let it.

Sid I have followed your posts for a long time now , you speak frankly and honestly about the subjects u comment on , even a bit of humour added . Over time one learns to sort out people who b....s..t
Confidence comes from life experience and normally that comes from age as well . In my case it's both , to the point where various people have told me to write a book on my experiences . I would never presume to inflict that on anyone .
If over your life you have improved others lives and been the best person u can be then shame isn't a feeling that comes to mind .

 

[klippert]

I've been posting on here the past few days, all about my fetishes and kinks, and even about a very humiliating sex act that was done to me.

Now, I don't know why, but, I'm regretting it. I've always had very low self confidence, and.....I don't know...

Does anyone else feel this way after posting something private?

It called a conscience man...and you have one. I had a bout of it...I was out work, and one day spent nearly 12 hrs engrossed in porn....WTF. I had to re-wire my brain. decided. If i'm going to enjoy it...lets narrow this stuff down.
When I have the house to myself...I may indulge longer than normal. I never go over the edge now

as for ashamed for what I've post..nope. I just avoid the political thread.

 

[Redhill123]

Regrets

This in an interesting topic/thread. Sid, your comments are quite insightful as are othres. I've posted little snippets of my sexual life here that are only known by the partner I was with. I can't say that I regret posting those exploits but after I hit the enter key I sometimes wondered if that was the right thing to do. But I think that is normal and I've never received any negative vibes from people on Lit. Actually is has been just the opposite. This is a free speach, non-judgemental but respectful forum...and what can be beter than that!

 

[Freebird49]

Relax.

I've been posting on here the past few days, all about my fetishes and kinks, and even about a very humiliating sex act that was done to me.

Now, I don't know why, but, I'm regretting it. I've always had very low self confidence, and.....I don't know...

Does anyone else feel this way after posting something private?

Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed. If there was any opprobrium attached to this site, the Tea Party would have called the owners to Capital Hill to upbraid them.

 

[tw63]

Shame

I feel enough of that in real life. That is why I created this account. I want, no - I NEED to express this stuff. It feels good to share and the shame is sluffing off like mud falling off a truck at a car wash. Not to mention the pleasure involved in making connections to others who feel the same.

You are not alone. It IS natural. Let it fall away.

 

[oOMinxOo]

I feel enough of that in real life. That is why I created this account. I want, no - I NEED to express this stuff. It feels good to share and the shame is sluffing off like mud falling off a truck at a car wash. Not to mention the pleasure involved in making connections to others who feel the same.

You are not alone. It IS natural. Let it fall away.

This.

It is most certainly a need.

 

[Kat1980]

I think this is a really interesting topic.

I think the first thing I've realised is that there's a difference between feeling shame and feeling embarrassment. You can feel ashamed all on your own. But you need other people to know about your shame to feel embarrassed.

For me, I've realised that it can be an exciting thrill to feel a bit ashamed. But I hate feeling embarrassed. And that's the joy of Lit, because I'm completely anonymous (well, I do my very best to make sure that I am) I can feel the former without the latter.

 

[ChattyAnnie]

I probably should be ashamed of many of the things I have said on this site and I certainly would be embarrassed if someone who knew me in RL knew half that stuff, but that's what makes Lit so much fun. I can tell my deepest darkest secrets and never worry. It does fill up the PM box occasionally but I don't mind. I enjoy the banter.

 

[bailey82]

I really should be but I'm not....however I wouldn't be willing to let family and friends know what I discuss here.Yes,people might be a bit judgmental of me here through my inbox but I enjoy reading about most aspects of sexuality and like to form my own views on what I think is right and wrong for me