I'm a little freaked out! (bi related)

[bicuriousosaur]

Hey you all, I have a question.

If some stranger over the Internet instant messages you over your Messenger (Yahoo! or MSN), and wants to meet you in a public setting, what would you do?

I had that happen most recently. This bisexual guy instant message me on my Yahoo! Messenger and asked if I was from Missouri. I said yes, and he guess which town I was in, and he was correct. He said he lives about 30 minutes from my town, and if we like to meet in a public setting. Now, I refused him that I want to meet until I get my driver's liscense(spelling), so end of that. Well, until today, anyway.

He iM me, and asked if we would like to meet each other at a park. Again, I refused him. So, am I being hard to get or just being cautious about this thing? He isn't bad looking, in fact, he's cute, but, you never know.

Alot of it that factors in is my parents and the fact that they be very upset if they found out the REAL reason me and this guy would be friends. What do you think I should do?

 

[iwanna3sum]

I'd wonder how he got your IM, how he knew where you lived, etc. Don't meet the guy! If you think you might be interested, IM him, chat, get to know each other a little more. If you decide to meet, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, make the first meeting in PUBLIC!

Remember to not tell him anything "personal" about yourself (birthday, address, school, school mascot's name, etc. ) tell him nothing that would enable him to find out where you live or go to school.

If for any reason you feel like he's a creep, stop all contact with him right away.

Better to be alive and safe than dead and daring.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

Well, it was through the chat room, and he just guessed my hometown.

Don't worry, I am being EXTREMELY careful. The only thing I told him that's personal in a way is my work hours, but not my place of business.

(I'm 25!).

 

[freeflyer]

That sounds really fishy to me. How did he get your IM? How did he "guess" your town? I wouldn't meet him nor would I continue to correspond with him. There will be plenty of other great looking guys you can hook up with and, of course, when you do, always meet in a public place. Never let your hormones put you in an unsafe situation. You are too important to risk your life!

 

[Nabokov]

I do not trust that kind of thing at all. It is always best to spend time and get to know them even if you happen to meet them online.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

Yahoo! Chat shows your usernames, and if you click on them, you can IM the person.

Yeah, I think it sounds iffy as well. The bad thing, he knows what I look like (via cam). I don't think he would do anything to me if we met in public, but... you guys are right! I should tell him to fuck off and don't talk to me ever again.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

I do not trust that kind of thing at all. It is always best to spend time and get to know them even if you happen to meet them online.

I agree. I know alot of people on my Messenger for years that seem cool and honest. Hell, one of the more recent ones (who I know for more than two-three months), I consider really hot, and I have fallen in love with him, so to speak. As I said above, I tell him to fuck off, and leave me alone.

 

[cinnamonstick]

Don't meet this guy. There is something strange about it. Just put him on ignore and leave it at that.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

Done & done. I also put if we meet in public that he should leave me the fuck alone.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

Today, he instant messaged me, and he was rather upset. Can't say that I blame him, cause I was being a little a asshole. We both agree that we have to be both careful and cautious.

To let you know, he is 28 years old, so he ain't that much older than I am. Still, I am being cautious.

Why don't you guys want me to meet this guy?

 

[Nabokov]

Today, he instant messaged me, and he was rather upset. Can't say that I blame him, cause I was being a little a asshole. We both agree that we have to be both careful and cautious.

To let you know, he is 28 years old, so he ain't that much older than I am. Still, I am being cautious.

Why don't you guys want me to meet this guy?

I wouldn't go so far as to say that you should not meet the person. However, it has been my experience that the net seems to speed up the normal process of what people expect when they meet someone. Just take your time and make sure you feel comfortable with the person before you go ahead and meet. I suggest when you do, you meet in a public place for drinks, so you can back out if you choose.

 

[Ashleey]

Today, he instant messaged me, and he was rather upset. Can't say that I blame him, cause I was being a little a asshole. We both agree that we have to be both careful and cautious.

To let you know, he is 28 years old, so he ain't that much older than I am. Still, I am being cautious.

Why don't you guys want me to meet this guy?

I wouldnt say you shouldn't meet him..but one of the things i've done in the past is set up a meeting for drinks or coffee in a public place...with the understanding that no matter what, nothing sexual will happen at that meeting...that way, you both have a chance to meet each other and feel out the situation, and then go home...think about it....and decide if you're interested in meeting again. No pressure that way.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

I agree with you Ashley. There are plenty of places where we can meet and talk that are rather public.I still probably wait till I learn to drive.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Hmm..yeah, meeting him is alright I guess.
After all you ARE just meeting to know each other better.
My only advice is to remain sober.Not too much alchool, k?
Good luck whatever u decide!

 

[revolution724]

Why not have coffee with the guy? Tell a friend where you're going to be, if you're worried.

I've met about 15 people in person who I first met on the net. (Note: almost all in "friend only" kinds of contexts.) I've not been murdered via axe yet. Every one I met in a public setting and had access to an escape route if they turned funny. Actually, I have several very good friends I met that way.

Just because you meet doesn't mean anything. You'd just like a chance to talk in person, right? You don't necessarily have to be planning to be sexual right away. Do be careful, meet in daylight, don't give out personal info too soon, but what the hell? I'd do it.

 

[B20civic]

Why not have coffee with the guy? Tell a friend where you're going to be, if you're worried.

I've met about 15 people in person who I first met on the net. (Note: almost all in "friend only" kinds of contexts.) I've not been murdered via axe yet. Every one I met in a public setting and had access to an escape route if they turned funny. Actually, I have several very good friends I met that way.

Just because you meet doesn't mean anything. You'd just like a chance to talk in person, right? You don't necessarily have to be planning to be sexual right away. Do be careful, meet in daylight, don't give out personal info too soon, but what the hell? I'd do it.

i would do it too. just have a backup plan

 

[bi_asian_guy]

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[bi_asian_guy]

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[wild175133]

Hey you all, I have a question.

If some stranger over the Internet instant messages you over your Messenger (Yahoo! or MSN), and wants to meet you in a public setting, what would you do?

I had that happen most recently. This bisexual guy instant message me on my Yahoo! Messenger and asked if I was from Missouri. I said yes, and he guess which town I was in, and he was correct. He said he lives about 30 minutes from my town, and if we like to meet in a public setting. Now, I refused him that I want to meet until I get my driver's liscense(spelling), so end of that. Well, until today, anyway.

He iM me, and asked if we would like to meet each other at a park. Again, I refused him. So, am I being hard to get or just being cautious about this thing? He isn't bad looking, in fact, he's cute, but, you never know.

Alot of it that factors in is my parents and the fact that they be very upset if they found out the REAL reason me and this guy would be friends. What do you think I should do?

first off from your comment about yor drivers license... am i to asume your not even 16. if that is true do not and i repeat do not meet any one off the internet under any circumstances im just one state away from you and we just had a man murdered in a hotel by a guy who he met in a interenet chat room as for your preferences you mother should know about your interest and how it developed