If your spouse gave you a hall pass

[Beck31]

Seems like a silly concept but it does happen.

 

[MatthewVett]

Hmm, assuming the right person were willing, I think I'd be willing to use it, too. Probably with...this girl I had a crush on in college who's now a drummer.

 

[Beck31]

hall pass

i used to think i would go visit a friend if i had a pass.

 

[silvastormcloud]

I think I would turn down the hall pass. I know myself and it always takes me a few times with a new partner before I enjoy myself.

If the bf offered me a pass I would be so excited and get my hopes only to let myself down...

 

[Beck31]

paa

Interesting

 

[amofiga]

Would you use it and if so who would look up? for me it would probably be an ex or someone I had a crush on before I met my current S/O.

I hate to admit that there are a few in the past that I would love to see again. Like someone else said, I'm not much on one-nighters with strangers. I like a bit more emotional content and familiarity, at least to the level of a good friendship. However, given what we went through about 10 years ago, the likelihood of a "hall pass" is about the same as getting hit by lightning while standing on my left foot on my birthday.

 

[NFLGIRL87]

Heck Ya

I would definitely use a hall pass. I have an ex I still think about every once in awhile....

 

[Frodo55]

You betcha. A good friend told me that she is dying for me to make love to her again. Been a long time but its good to know I left an impression

 

[Beck31]

pass

hmmmmm

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

My wifes sister!

 

[TxBoots]

I would use my hall pass on a cousin. We dated a few times as teens and petted but never had sex. Haven't seen her in two decades but expect she is still sexy. My second choice would be a girl I dated in HS. She is prettier now, as a mature woman, that she was as a teen.

 

[writing_duo]

I was given a hall pass once...but being me nothing ever happened in person. The only thing that came of it was meeting a woman who is now a close, if long distance friend, that I chat/flirt with on a semi-regular basis.

 

[ice6869]

If I would get one. I would never use it, I think it would still some how ruin the relationship with ur spouse. To me it isn't worth it.

 

[Beck31]

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[SecretSong]

I have two ex girlfriends... one is black, bi, agressive and loves, well, doing anything.

The other is a hot BBW I met on crigslist. We ended up being fuck buddies and trusted each other enough for sloppy bareback fun. We ended up getting into the group thing and would invite couples and other women from craigs to join us on our weekend debauchery.

Would have loved to gotten them both together....

 

[adguy]

Hall Pass

Sounds intriguing....BUT I know down-the-line....the "Hall Pass Police" would have second guessed her issuance of the Hall Pass....and/or asked WHY did I want or use it.

 

[angel2612]

Funny how the hubby just told me a few days ago , if I met someone I was very attracted to, just be honest with him and whatever happens, happens. I turned that down. I'd hesbnot involves then I'm not playing.

 

[monkeyman057]

Even if I could find the time and a suitable partner - I don't think I could. Hall-pass or no, I'd be wracked with guilt. Now, if she were to join in the fun-making that would be entirely different. Alas, the time and suitability issues compound the problem to the point that I've pretty much given it up to fantasy land.

 

[Ike_The_Spike]

Given that I've admitted to cheating, I don't think this would ever happen. If it did, there are only 2 - 3 people I'd realistically consider.

My best friend from high school, we're still in contact with each other even after 25+ years. He was my first gay experience and to this day I regret not having given up my ass to him.

The second is one of the women I slept with while married, she's the only one you could truly call an affair as we met several times over an extended period of time. She's a bit on the wild side and would do things my wife never would (like pegging me).

The third would be an ex I never truly got over.

I'm not sure I would do it though, it took a lot of work to repair the damage I did to our marriage. While it isn't perfect in my mind, it is good, warts and all.

 

[Beck31]

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[whynotjustsayit]

If given the option, I would totally use a "hall pass" and wouldn't be looking up people from my past but temptations from my present.

 

[LovelLady4Ever]

My hubby didnt give me a hall pass, I made my own and Im loving it.

 

[Beck31]

well now that i think of it i would tear up my hall pass

 

[njlauren]

I'd turn it down, no matter how well intentioned it was, deep down I don't think it works, I think the spouse who gave it would resent the other person for using it. I might appreciate the thought behind it, but would rather not go there.

The other problem with a hall pass is there is the inherent idea that the reason the spouse is getting it is because the other partner a)is already cheating and it makes them feel better to let their mate 'cheat' or b)is thinking of cheating and this is an out for their guilt...even if it isn't true, it would eat at me I think. It was kind of like the old MASH tv series where Henry gets a letter from his wife being understanding if he cheats, and he figures out/finds out she had cheated with someone else and it was her guilt in action there.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

For some of us, it would work QUITE well.

It isn't cheating if a spouse or SO gives you permission to experiment with others sexually. It's only cheating when you don't have that permission...just sayin'.

Ideally, both SO's would give each other hall passes and disclose most or all of how that hall pass is utilized.

Open marriages, swinging and polyamory aren't for everyone, that's clear, but it can work for some.