If your girlfriend...

[leyna]

gives great blow-jobs but gained 2 dress sizes...

are you biding time or content?

 

[patient1]

gives great blow-jobs but gained 2 dress sizes...

are you biding time or content?

As far as I'm concerned real sex trumps super-model fantasies. As for gaining, I look at it as gaining bigger boobs and bottom.

Nagging and complaining are about the only thing which could make me lose interest in a woman who was meeting my needs.

 

[Super-Surprise]

Ask her not to swallow!

 

[pointless]

which two dress sizes?

 

[leyna]

Ask her not to swallow!

but the protein is so good for her

 

[pete]

gives great blow-jobs but gained 2 dress sizes...

are you biding time or content?

so you gained 2 dress sizes, big deal.

don't freak out, he's not gonna bail on you

 

[leyna]

As far as I'm concerned real sex trumps super-model fantasies. As for gaining, I look at it as gaining bigger boobs and bottom.

Nagging and complaining are about the only thing which could make me lose interest in a woman who was meeting my needs.

you know women are obsessed with weight...when does "baby got back" turn to "baby don't hurt me" ?

 

[leyna]

which two dress sizes?

does it matter?
and I guess that's the point, isn't it?
4 years 2 dress sizes

 

[leyna]

so you gained 2 dress sizes, big deal.

don't freak out, he's not gonna bail on you

big deal is when she is uncomfortable with herself

 

[BoyNextDoor]

Curvy girls are great. A couple of pounds is not going to disrupt your relationship. You being insecure and fretting, however, can become a self fulfilling prophesy. The answer is to talk to him about it and ask him flat out "are you biding time or content?"

 

[pete]

big deal is when she is uncomfortable with herself

if it bothers you, then work on it.

if it bothers your bf, then he's shallow and petty (and unworthy of great bj's)

 

[islandman]

Curvy girls are great. A couple of pounds is not going to disrupt your relationship. You being insecure and fretting, however, can become a self fulfilling prophesy. The answer is to talk to him about it and ask him flat out "are you biding time or content?"

This.

 

[patient1]

you know women are obsessed with weight...when does "baby got back" turn to "baby don't hurt me" ?

They shouldn't obsess about their weight or their size. Obsessing isn't good.
Hormones change. Knees wear out so that you can't exercise anymore.

Youth and fertility won't last forever. A person is more than appearances. A lasting relationship isn't superficial, it is based on so much more. I shouldn't need to explain this.

Okay. At some point a man's back/ knees/ whatever wears and he probably shouldn't lift anything heavier than a pair of suitcases, but that's about his body, not yours.

Surely you have more merit than your body.

Surely there is more to a 4 year relationship than merely the physical.

 

[bronzeage]

gives great blow-jobs but gained 2 dress sizes...

are you biding time or content?

Is she pregnant?

 

[MNGuy]

Depends on several factors other that blow job skills, this is not a complete list, but some other factors:

• How much do I love her?
• Can she cook?
• Is she up for threesomes?
• Is she kinky?
• Frequency of blowjobs?
• How much money she has?
• How generous is she?
• What else is available?
• Did she go from super skinny to just right?
• Is her family assholes?

One skill does not a relationship make.

 

[dagdag]

gives great blow-jobs but gained 2 dress sizes...

are you biding time or content?

Wouldn't care unless it is an issue with her health.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

which two dress sizes?

The State Department just called. You're hired.

 

[doctor_insanus]

I dunno. Is this relationship based entirely on her blowjob skills?

I need more details before I decide whether to dump her.

 

[phrodeau]

Is she pregnant?

They can't get pregnant that way.

 

[Debbie]

big deal is when she is uncomfortable with herself

I am assuming you are referring to yourself?

In my opinion women are very self conscious when they put on weight. They worry that they are not as attractive as they were. Will their partner be put off because of the weight gain etc. More often than not we are our own worst enemies and are so hard on ourselves.

If you are uncomfortable then I suggest you stop beating yourself up emotionally and enjoy the good things about yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back and some positive affirmations.

If you feel you need to lose weight for health reasons then do so. I suggest you talk to your Dr for a health check and advice on a good diet and possible exercises. Eat healthily (Do not starve yourself.) and perhaps some low impact exercise like swimming for a start.

Find a walking buddy or group and socialize while exercising.

Take care and be good to yourself.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Sex is fucked up when it's treated as a conditional bargaining chip for something else or doled out like puppy treats for good behavior (unless you got that dom thing going on, then it's all good!)

Fuck and suck cuz you like it, lust it, love it and you wanna make your lover feel good. And wear your body's all-natural thickumms meaty curves with pride!

http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/c7/96/8b/c7968badf590e3321449bae2c9bfb198.jpg

 

[Not Normal]

I love her for her.

 

[Debbie]

I love her for her.

Great post.

 

[bronzeage]

C.an you imagine a woman saying, "My boyfriend gives good head, but I noticed he's let his belt out to the last hole. Should I dump him?".
Me neither.

 

[Laurel]

That's a different story. If you're unhappy with a part of yourself, then you should make a plan and change it. Our own bodies are one of the very few things in life which we have a direct ability to change.

If you yourself are unhappy with your weight gain, then you can lose the weight. It's simple. Not easy, but simple. Set realistic goals and work toward them. It won't happen overnight, but it will happen.

If your actual concern is that your weight gain will drive your man away, let me tell you a secret, woman-to-woman: what real men want in a longterm relationship is relaxing happy non-conflict. Most men would rather have a life partner who is a happy fun sexually active girl with a soft belly and crow's feet than a super-toned angel-faced superbody who is a nagging unhappy bitch.

If you're worried about competing with the cute girls who catch his eye on the street, give up. Even if you morphed into an 18-year-old supermodel, he's still going to look at other women. The fact that pretty girls catch his eye says nothing about you or your relationship. You worrying about them is like an Olympic gold medaler worrying about some little kid who sleds down a hill really fast. Quit competing. You've already won him.

And if he's really the type to throw away what you have together because you've put on pounds and some young hottie catches his eye, then fuck him. He doesn't deserve you.