If you started out again, what would you tell yourself?

[Dreadnort]

When you look back at your journey in BDSM, is there anything you wish you could reach back and tell yourself at the start? To avoid mistakes which cost you time, money or emotional energy.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

"Keep being a Domme"...
Well, I would tell myself that, only I don't believe that if that were the case, I would of met a very special man in my life now ...
I may have chosen a different DD to keep entertaining... Maybe.

 

[Dearelliot]

I'm a different person than I was at 21, or 31, I changed over time, what I want now or at a different stage of my life, isn't the same.

 

[Slickrick123]

Just be yourself.

 

[Norfolkguy49]

It not worth it

 

[Wonderer67]

When you look back at your journey in BDSM, is there anything you wish you could reach back and tell yourself at the start? To avoid mistakes which cost you time, money or emotional energy.

Nope.

It all worked out the way it worked out.

I was older than most students in college. So was she. I had just gotten outta the army. She was getting started later in her life. We gravitated to each other, immediately.

She taught me what s&m was (bdsm wasn’t really a term then) and how it worked. She was an excellent teacher. I guess I was a good student.

 

[OldGoodPup]

Don't be shy. Talk to women. Be honest and upfront. Tell them how you feel and what you're looking for. Be courageous . If they spurn you and/or your interests, don't worry, move on.

 

[Dw313]

Aim high and work your way down

 

[spawnofdavey]

Don't be shy. Talk to women. Be honest and upfront. Tell them how you feel and what you're looking for. Be courageous . If they spurn you and/or your interests, don't worry, move on.

This.

 

[Boat1]

When you look back at your journey in BDSM, is there anything you wish you could reach back and tell yourself at the start? To avoid mistakes which cost you time, money or emotional energy.

Our relationship was fully based upon trust and submitting ourselves to each other before BDSM ever entered the picture...
The ONLY thing I'd change is my work rotation from 28/14 to 28/28 so that I could spend more time with my Lovely Wife Domme Goddess!

 

[lowcollar]

I would have been more careful with my partner choice early on.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I would have made sure to know the difference between a dominant man and a domineering one.

 

[BiBunny]

"That guy you met on CollarMe was a sociopath, and you were right in identifying the red flags to start with. Now, don't be stupid and make excuses for him if you want to save yourself a world of bullshit."

 

[screwher]

I would tell myself “The first time she cheated, don’t get mad. Forgive her right away. The encourage her to continue having sex with other men.” Like I did the second time she cheated. Which started our hotwife lifestyle. But since I didn’t the first time, we wasted all those years where other men could’ve been fucking her!

 

[AprilTwenties]

Find my owner earlier, do exactly as she says and don't question. She'll keep you safe and still earning for her.

A x

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Seek first to understand yourself. I had never explored BDSM, barely knew how to spell it, and I didn't understand the source of my desire to be subservient in a relationship. My ignorance led me to a relationship with a domineering man, and that man nearly ended me. Fortunately, I found a Dominant man to live my life with.

 

[stxjimmy]

I would tell myself “The first time she cheated, don’t get mad. Forgive her right away. The encourage her to continue having sex with other men.” Like I did the second time she cheated. Which started our hotwife lifestyle. But since I didn’t the first time, we wasted all those years where other men could’ve been fucking her!

“When you look back at your journey in BDSM”

 

[BBWcum_slut75]

I'm a different person than I was at 21, or 31, I changed over time, what I want now or at a different stage of my life, isn't the same.

This

 

[shesubmits]

I would have made sure to know the difference between a dominant man and a domineering one.

this is such a good point

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Not really. The journey, and any mistakes that were made, is what made me the successful domme I am today.

 

[Exploringwife46]

I think basically the best advice is to listen to your heart and don't let stereotypes and society dictate how you live. Be true to yourself first and foremost and that ensure happiness.

 

[Submissivepat]

Start earlier

 

[AveryElle]

Not to get involved with him.

 

[Chilllax]

I would have made sure to know the difference between a dominant man and a domineering one.

I think guys would benefit from knowing that too. Brilliant point! I certainly benefited from that perspective.

 

[Wisconsin65]

I think basically the best advice is to listen to your heart and don't let stereotypes and society dictate how you live. Be true to yourself first and foremost and that ensure happiness.

Well said