If you could change one thing...

[Needssome]

If you could change ONE thing that you did in your life what would it be? Would you have never married that creep? Would you have not driven drunk?

Me, there's nothing that I did do that I would change. I don't really regret anything I've done some much as regretting the things I didn't do. For me, I would've tried to find more friends in elementary school (outside of the jerks at my school).....I spent those years so lonely and to this day I still feel like nobody will like me...I've often wondered if I'd liked myself more back then and had a support system of friends I'd like myself more today. In fact according to an article in a recent issue of Psychological Science (I think...I've been skimming too many journals lately) the researchers (I can't recall their names...sorry) extremely happy people have very active social lives and spend the least time alone compared to average and unhappy people. If only I could figure out how to do that now.....

 

[Dragon Dreamer]

If I could change one thing in my life, I wouldn't have given up and walked out the door. I've regretted it ever since and think I probably always will.

If you could change ONE thing that you did in your life what would it be? Would you have never married that creep? Would you have not driven drunk?

Me, there's nothing that I did do that I would change. I don't really regret anything I've done some much as regretting the things I didn't do. For me, I would've tried to find more friends in elementary school (outside of the jerks at my school).....I spent those years so lonely and to this day I still feel like nobody will like me...I've often wondered if I'd liked myself more back then and had a support system of friends I'd like myself more today. In fact according to an article in January's issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology the researchers (I can't recall their names...sorry) extremely happy people have very active social lives and spend the least time alone compared to average and unhappy people. If only I could figure out how to do that now.....

 

[Private Vasquez]

I wouldn't have gotten that plastic surgery.

 

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[Needssome]

There was a time in my life I could spit out reason among reason as to what and when I would change the horrific things in my life. However, would changing those events make me a lesser person than I am now? I would think so. SO now I've come to the conclusion that every thing happens for a reason and I'm a better "ME" because of it. How I choose to handle the events in my life is what matters the most, not how I would have change them.

Good point......You can't change the past...It's best not to dwell on it...At the same time it's good to know so you don't make the same mistake again...It's also nice to learn from somebody else's mistakes....It's important to make mistakes, it's just nice to make your own stupid mistakes rather than repeat anyone else's.

 

[Calamity Jane]

My theory is that everything that has/has not happened to me, and every action I've taken/not taken has shaped me into the person I am. And I really am starting to like this person a whole lot.

So, I wouldn't change anything and risk being someone else.

 

[SXCRgirl]

I try not to regret anything that I've done. Regret is one, if not the hardest thing, to live with in my opinion. There are a few things that I wish I had done better, but all in all, I don't regret anything.

I am who I am, faults and all. My experiences shape who I am and I don't want to spend the rest of my life trying to fix what has happened in the past. Because if you keep looking back, you'll fall flat on your face and not enjoy the rest of your life ahead of you.

I've learned that if there is something that you're unhappy with, change it. Take steps in ensuring that you are going to live your life a little bit differently. Remember, change is difficult. It's easier to stay on the course that you're in. Take it one step at a time and be good to yourself. Rome wasn't built in a day and changing yourself will take time.

 

[chewbacca71]

Hmmm..... This is a toughie. Off the top, I would have to say that I wish I had never quit college. I was not that far off , but my priorities changed. But if I did , then I would not have my wife and kids. Got to think on this one some more.

Chewey