If I looked up someone's photos on Facebook, will they know?

[erotica_n_s]

Okay, so I looked up some photographs of this woman on Facebook. We're not "Facebook friends". I just happen to have had a crush on her for a while.

Just regretting it now. Her general demeanour towards me in the last couple of days has been a little unusual.

I'm starting to worry that she's somehow found out I was looking at her photographs, and hence is feeling a little creeped out when I'm around, and hence maybe why she's acting a little unusual. I mean, I was just getting back to "speaking terms" with her after quite a while, but now once again I seem to be getting the cold shoulder from her. Not sure why, but can't help worrying that somehow she's found out I was looking at her Facebook profile. I'm regretting it now.

The different websites out there give conflicting information. Some state that there is no way for anyone to track who's looking at their profile, whereas other websites state that there are little apps/workarounds that do provide this kind of information.

Any info, guys?

 

[fire_breeze]

Okay, so I looked up some photographs of this woman on Facebook. We're not "Facebook friends". I just happen to have had a crush on her for a while.

Just regretting it now. Her general demeanour towards me in the last couple of days has been a little unusual.

I'm starting to worry that she's somehow found out I was looking at her photographs, and hence is feeling a little creeped out when I'm around, and hence maybe why she's acting a little unusual. I mean, I was just getting back to "speaking terms" with her after quite a while, but now once again I seem to be getting the cold shoulder from her. Not sure why, but can't help worrying that somehow she's found out I was looking at her Facebook profile. I'm regretting it now.

The different websites out there give conflicting information. Some state that there is no way for anyone to track who's looking at their profile, whereas other websites state that there are little apps/workarounds that do provide this kind of information.

Any info, guys?

You're safe. It is impossible to tell who has checked out your profile page, and none of those apps work. And those workarounds? A couple of us put them to the test and discovered that they are baloney, particularly as one of the names that popped up was someone who is dead.

Facebook themselves say its impossible to now who checked out your page, and that those apps in face cause more damage.

If she's giving you the cold shoulder, perhaps asking her instead of hypotheticising would be better?

Good luck, and relax. She isn't giving you the cold shoulder because you Facebook stalked her. She doesn't know (unless you mentioned something!)

 

[NightL]

Just regretting it now. Her general demeanour towards me in the last couple of days has been a little unusual.

I'm starting to worry that she's somehow found out I was looking at her photographs, and hence is feeling a little creeped out when I'm around, and hence maybe why she's acting a little unusual.

Maybe after getting back on speaking terms she checked you out on the Internet and came across your blog or indeed your Lit account. That - just might make her a little wary - or a lot.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Oh man. Accidentally clicking "like" is the worst. I've accidentally liked some pretty shitty posts and made an ass of myself.

Sometimes though, I like to fuck with people and like their pics. Then unlike them. You know, just to make them paranoid and self conscious.

 

[erotica_n_s]

Is it possible to "like" someone's photos/posts if you're not actually on their "friend" list?

 

[fire_breeze]

Is it possible to "like" someone's photos/posts if you're not actually on their "friend" list?

Depends on how the privacy settings are, but if there is the option to like, you can like someone's post, regardless if you're on each other's friend's list.

(I just conducted the experiment, and I was able to like a random stranger's photo).

To see if you did like this young lady's photo/post, go to your activity log and scroll down to see. If you did like accidentally, then it'll show. If you didn't, you're safe. The activity log will tell you what you posted (likes and comments) not what pages you visited. So if you just checked out her pages, you're fine. If you accidentally pressed like or left a comment, that's something else.

BUT!! Most people, even with public profiles, will NOT let non-friends like or comment. I don't know if it's a default (my profile is as private as you can get), but most people will at least have their profile settings that will hide the 'like' button from those who are not on their list.

 

[erotica_n_s]

Depends on how the privacy settings are, but if there is the option to like, you can like someone's post, regardless if you're on each other's friend's list.

(I just conducted the experiment, and I was able to like a random stranger's photo).

To see if you did like this young lady's photo/post, go to your activity log and scroll down to see. If you did like accidentally, then it'll show. If you didn't, you're safe. The activity log will tell you what you posted (likes and comments) not what pages you visited. So if you just checked out her pages, you're fine. If you accidentally pressed like or left a comment, that's something else.

BUT!! Most people, even with public profiles, will NOT let non-friends like or comment. I don't know if it's a default (my profile is as private as you can get), but most people will at least have their profile settings that will hide the 'like' button from those who are not on their list.

Fine, thanks very much for your reply.

I checked my activity log, it's not on there. I hope I'm safe.

Ironically, I'm actually starting to worry a little more now.

I mean, let me just say, for what it's worth, I don't believe I've broken any rules (except possibly certain unwritten "social rules"). I think many of us have done this - browsing/snooping around other people's Facebook profiles - out of pure curiosity, and the simple fact that... well, we can.

I'm giving up. I'm not going near her profile ever again. I saw her again at work today, there still seemed to be some awkwardness in the air.

I mean, I can't find anything to suggest that I left some obvious sign that I was lurking around, but I can't be sure. Seriously, feels like it's all more trouble than it's worth. I'm giving up. Not much I can do to "undo" any damage that might possibly have been done.

 

[fire_breeze]

Fine, thanks very much for your reply.

I checked my activity log, it's not on there. I hope I'm safe.

Ironically, I'm actually starting to worry a little more now.

I mean, let me just say, for what it's worth, I don't believe I've broken any rules (except possibly certain unwritten "social rules"). I think many of us have done this - browsing/snooping around other people's Facebook profiles - out of pure curiosity, and the simple fact that... well, we can.

I'm giving up. I'm not going near her profile ever again. I saw her again at work today, there still seemed to be some awkwardness in the air.

I mean, I can't find anything to suggest that I left some obvious sign that I was lurking around, but I can't be sure. Seriously, feels like it's all more trouble than it's worth. I'm giving up. Not much I can do to "undo" any damage that might possibly have been done.

You said you checked your activity log and nothing was there? You're safe. She doesn't know; and I would be very surprised if she her privacy setting is a complete free-for-all. As I said, you need to see the visible 'like' icon to click on. Most people, even those with completely public profiles, will not let non-friends comment or like their stuff.

There are a number of reasons why she may act awkward around you. She may find you attractive. She may have heard a rumour. She may be going through something at work. Her brother may have been in an accident. She may have had an unexpected expense. She may be preoccupied with work. Or... you may also be imagining the awkwardness. It may be nothing related to you.

Honestly, my dear, I think you're over-analysing, and this is coming from a woman who over-analyses everything! Instead of assuming, simply ask her if you two are okay, a simple: "Hey, it must be my imagination, but it seems that you're a bit pre-occupied and distant. Is everything okay?" You may be surprised with the answer and you can be a good friend and be there for her when she needs you to.

 

[davro]

Maybe you're subconsciously looking guilty and making her wary so she's looking at you funny and so it goes on.

 

[Mr.G]

Maybe after getting back on speaking terms she checked you out on the Internet and came across your blog or indeed your Lit account. That - just might make her a little wary - or a lot.

For what it's worth a number of women have checked my LIT and or FB (there is a link on that too) pages and FLED. I think they figure I'm out fucking everything I can hold down by the ears just because I share that Technique thingie from years ago. Either that or they think I'm a sex maniac or have some inflated ego about my abilities. My abilities are quite normal - no inflated ego. It is hard to change a person's mind when they have it all figured out already.

 

[erotica_n_s]

Update: we're back to saying "Hello" to each other...

She even smiles at me when she says hello (and it's a lovely smile, I have to say), but it's been a long while since we had any kind of meaningful conversation...

So... the likelihood is, she doesn't know I looked up her pictures...

Still, I've not gone back to look up her profile, and I don't think I will again... Don't want to take chances...

 

[fire_breeze]

Update: we're back to saying "Hello" to each other...

She even smiles at me when she says hello (and it's a lovely smile, I have to say), but it's been a long while since we had any kind of meaningful conversation...

So... the likelihood is, she doesn't know I looked up her pictures...

Still, I've not gone back to look up her profile, and I don't think I will again... Don't want to take chances...

I am glad to hear that you two are back on speaking terms.

The likelihood of her knowing that you looked at her photos is about as high as the likelihood of you knowing who I am and calling me by name.

She does not know - unless you told her.

Instead of playing this cat and mouse game, why not friend her on Facebook? Or when you strike up a conversation, cut it short (ie "I really enjoyed talking with you - a shame I have to finish the Thompson report. Do you mind if I Facebook you?"), and then you don't have to go around wondering how you look.