If I don't fuck my boyfriend soon, he may leave me...

[ApprenticeApril]

Okay, so I don't think he's actually going to leave me. But for reals, I need to have sex with him.
For some reason, I don't want to have sex. Probably because of my recent discovery; that being I now enjoy getting beaten. Seriously, I'm in love with him spanking the crap out of me. But now, it just makes me all done for afterwards.
I think he is possibly getting a little irritated about it.
Grrr... I've never been the one with a low libido before, this is so weird to me.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Okay, so I don't think he's actually going to leave me. But for reals, I need to have sex with him.
For some reason, I don't want to have sex. Probably because of my recent discovery; that being I now enjoy getting beaten. Seriously, I'm in love with him spanking the crap out of me. But now, it just makes me all done for afterwards.
I think he is possibly getting a little irritated about it.
Grrr... I've never been the one with a low libido before, this is so weird to me.

trust me, I know the feeling.
I very much like...not the pain, although that can be nice...but the violence.
My current doesn't really udnerstand that.

 

[Chicklet]

I've had men around who I enjoyed playing with, but not fucking.

Usually, what that meant was that I wasn't exactly attracted to them. When I find a guy that I want for play AND for a relationship, I absolutely want to boink his brains out.

 

[ApprenticeApril]

I've had men around who I enjoyed playing with, but not fucking.

Usually, what that meant was that I wasn't exactly attracted to them. When I find a guy that I want for play AND for a relationship, I absolutely want to boink his brains out.

That's how I usually am! I'm very confused by this!

 

[Vail_Indigo]

*sighs*
mind-heart-body
complex at times.
Its amazing we fuck at all, sometimes.

 

[ApprenticeApril]

I've been giving more blow jobs and hand jobs to make up for it...

 

[TenJed69]

Why not have him beat you while he fucks you?

 

[iluvyou3638]

Why not have him beat you while he fucks you?

EXACTLY. have him slap your ass while he pulls your hair and fucks you from behind. thats fucking hot.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

EXACTLY. have him slap your ass while he pulls your hair and fucks you from behind. thats fucking hot.

yeah really.
I mean, I've had my girlfriends do that when I needed it

 

[iluvyou3638]

yeah really.
I mean, I've had my girlfriends do that when I needed it

see? yummy.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

it seems to me that, if you are with someone, and there's something you need, you have to be able to talk about it and work on it.
The "fucking while smacking" thing seems like a good idea, and something you would have thought of.
Is he not into the act?

 

[ApprenticeApril]

Well, the spankings have been me just laying down and him going to town on my backside.
It's hard enough hits that I don't think fucking and hitting would have worked simultaneously.
I'm pretty much in a rut. When we first got together it was a problem that I wanted more sex than him. We talked a lot about it, then ended up compromising. I got a little less than I wanted, he got a little more. I got pretty accustomed to that and actually ended up really liking it.
This last month however, we've really amped it up. Sex several times a day. Which has been wonderful, of course. But... I think I need a break!
It's not really a huge issue, mostly because I'm sure in the next week or two I'll be back to my old self, I just enjoying complaining I guess.
I planned on talking to him about it today nevertheless.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

LOL
I wouldn't worry much if you think its just a passing rut

Sounds like you guys have a great sex life

 

[im_a_voyeur]

/snip/ Sex several times a day. /snip/

I wish I had that problem.

 

[pellso27]

just lay there and let him fuck you, use you to get himself off!

 

[twysted73]

Your mind is sharp and your intelligence is high enough that you like variety.

But you already knew you were part of the human race.
Communication, compromise and patience.
The three things he needs to do to help you both through this. It's not a rut. it's not anything negative.
Leaving you would be negative. Him cheating on you would be negative.
You blaming this on yourself and taking it hard would be negative.

You both need to focus on what you DO have.
A good relationship? Attention and intimacy. Being close together geographically which, in this forum, is a luxury in itself to quite a few.

Your mind has a new stimulation. It hungers for it. Humans are addictive by nature.
It's all good. He needs to look at this as an opportunity to strengthen you bond by indulging you until your mind decides it doesn't HAVE to have spanking and beating as much.
All he has to do is wait for your libido to return.
And if he can do that.....you'll love him all the more for it.
Anything else is just him being selfish.
He has handjobs and blowjobs.

He needs to shut it and be happy.

 

[ApprenticeApril]

^^^ I laughed about that last line.
I appreciate all of your good advice. Now that he's up and alive, I mentioned the thread. He thinks it pretty funny actually.

 

[BiBunny]

I'm not saying this applies in your situation, but I've found that as much as I love sex, if it's not good sex, I'd rather not even bother. Anything else just gets my hopes up and lets me down. Sex is a lot of trouble if one party's not really into it. But when it's good...I wanna do it all the time.

 

[rthnck]

I've been giving more blow jobs and hand jobs to make up for it...

More blowjobs. Now you're singing my tune. You obviously know what we need.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

^^^ I laughed about that last line.
I appreciate all of your good advice. Now that he's up and alive, I mentioned the thread. He thinks it pretty funny actually.

Funny how we make problems where there aren't

 

[snowbyte]

if it's not good sex, I'd rather not even bother.

I turned that corner awhile ago. 'not good sex' may happen for any number of different reasons.

But I'm almost always up for a good beating

 

[twysted73]

I'm not saying this applies in your situation, but I've found that as much as I love sex, if it's not good sex, I'd rather not even bother. Anything else just gets my hopes up and lets me down. Sex is a lot of trouble if one party's not really into it. But when it's good...I wanna do it all the time.

Hazzah!!!

 

[the_pet]

For some reason, I don't want to have sex.

...drink more alcohol


pet

 

[Etoile]

Never fuck before you're ready. Not just the first time, but with any new partner. Never.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Master and I have been having penetrative sex quite infrequently lately for a number of reasons. When it does happen though, it's so hot and so awesome that it's enough to convince us both to leave each other alone for a while afterwards. There's nothing like protracted anticipation to make you enjoy everything so much more when it does happen.