If Experience is the Best Teacher...
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It reminds me of the scene at the end of Annie Hall.
u know:
Guy goes to a shrink and says, "Hey my brother has a big problem, he thinks he is a chicken!" The shrink tell him to bring him in. "No way!" says the guy, "We need the eggs!"
Be grateful for mistakes, jl, they don't happen to us, they happen for us.
By the way, experience is not the best teacher. I am.
riffers
u know:
Guy goes to a shrink and says, "Hey my brother has a big problem, he thinks he is a chicken!" The shrink tell him to bring him in. "No way!" says the guy, "We need the eggs!"
Be grateful for mistakes, jl, they don't happen to us, they happen for us.
By the way, experience is not the best teacher. I am.
riffers
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I most always learn from my mistakes.juicylips said:
*Unless there is someone here who learned all their lessons the first time around.
very few times have I repeated somthing that was bad or wrong..... Unless i'm doing it wrong and noone tells me, then I continue it.
I just got off the phone with my sister, who once again, picked the wrong guy. Every guy she gets involved with is of the same cut and cloth, but she can't see that.
Experience seems to have taught her nothing and I am at a loss as to how to get her to see that she keeps making the same wrong choices.
Damn. It is never easy being the oldest sister.
Cassidy
Experience seems to have taught her nothing and I am at a loss as to how to get her to see that she keeps making the same wrong choices.
Damn. It is never easy being the oldest sister.
Cassidy
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Cassidy,
Everyone is so very different in how they deal with this. I am just as guilty, sometimes, because even though I know I need to react differently to a situation, my heart gets the better of me and I end up being the way I didn't want to be. I'm not necessarily speaking about love, either. I'm just talking about the day to day things that I know usually go wrong, but it's like I wait until they slap me in the face or something.
Sometimes we all think this time could be different, that it will all turn out okay, only to be fooled for the "very last time" or so we think.
I'm sorry to hear about your sister, Cassidy, and yes, it's difficult being the older sister. But, just remember, it's also just as difficult being the sister you're trying to help, too.
Hugs to you and your sister.
Enchanted
Everyone is so very different in how they deal with this. I am just as guilty, sometimes, because even though I know I need to react differently to a situation, my heart gets the better of me and I end up being the way I didn't want to be. I'm not necessarily speaking about love, either. I'm just talking about the day to day things that I know usually go wrong, but it's like I wait until they slap me in the face or something.
Sometimes we all think this time could be different, that it will all turn out okay, only to be fooled for the "very last time" or so we think.
I'm sorry to hear about your sister, Cassidy, and yes, it's difficult being the older sister. But, just remember, it's also just as difficult being the sister you're trying to help, too.
Hugs to you and your sister.
Enchanted
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I read somewhere once that unless we are very careful we get caught replaying the same tape in our heads over and over again. This happens through fear and habit and we unconsciously continue to make the same mistakes. I have had friends who got divorced and show up a few months or years later with essentially the same person in a different body. Usually, other people see it first and if you suggest that the new one is alot like the old one the friend insists your wrong.
I think this happens because many people never examine there own thoughts, feelings, strengths and weaknesses. We often say we want change but I wonder how many of us are willing to change ourselves.
I think this happens because many people never examine there own thoughts, feelings, strengths and weaknesses. We often say we want change but I wonder how many of us are willing to change ourselves.
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Cycles of violence, cycles of crime, cycles of abuse: we've been into re-cycling for years.
Breaking the cycle is not easy, it's often safer to stay with the crap that we know than risk the potentially worse. The subconscious, collective or individual, works very hard to maintain the status quo.
So basically, we don't learn from experience because the inner forces against change are always working to maintain the equilibrium we already have, even if it's really unpleasant.
But we can choose to change, if we will take the risk. Leave a parter, renounce a long held belief, abandon a work-place. The one thing that's sure is that if you don't embark on the journey you won't discover the new possibilities of life. You won't know where you're going either, because such journeys of discovery do not have prescribed destinations.
Too many of us want to know where we're going - and it's usually where we've already been.
Breaking the cycle is not easy, it's often safer to stay with the crap that we know than risk the potentially worse. The subconscious, collective or individual, works very hard to maintain the status quo.
So basically, we don't learn from experience because the inner forces against change are always working to maintain the equilibrium we already have, even if it's really unpleasant.
But we can choose to change, if we will take the risk. Leave a parter, renounce a long held belief, abandon a work-place. The one thing that's sure is that if you don't embark on the journey you won't discover the new possibilities of life. You won't know where you're going either, because such journeys of discovery do not have prescribed destinations.
Too many of us want to know where we're going - and it's usually where we've already been.
juicylips said:I just got off the phone with my sister, who once again, picked the wrong guy. Every guy she gets involved with is of the same cut and cloth, but she can't see that.
Experience seems to have taught her nothing and I am at a loss as to how to get her to see that she keeps making the same wrong choices.
Damn. It is never easy being the oldest sister.
Cassidy
Experience is the best teacher only if we have true self-awareness....
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For some I believe the answer is that they are unaware of their own behavior patterns.The idea would be that once we recognize our pattern then we can control what we do.......A friend of mine divorced her husband......a very verbally abusive man........She started dating a man who was the mirror image of what she just got rid ofjuicylips said:Why do we continue to make the same mistakes over and over?
Explain please.
Cassidy
*Unless there is someone here who learned all their lessons the first time around.
She finally figured it out and moved on..a little wiser......I think human nature keeps us going back to the familiar......with relationships its usually a personality type were attracted to ..even if we know its probably not good.....its a certain comfort level.........A few years ago I had a new job.......I started partying with my staff..a real management no no....Well I had done it before with a not so good outcome.....The good thing was that I recognized my behavior and what I was doing and stopped before I really fucked up.....Now when I make a mistake I make sure its one Ive never made
