identity crisis

[Silverluna]

I don't know anymore what I am .....I have this incredible need to fit into catergories...label myself...and get organized!

I know I am not fully straight...but I am very very picky about what woman I am attracted to...I just...eh...dunno ....maybe I am normal? *gasp* goddess forbid me being normal...sorry thought i would share.



p.s.~ to add to all of this uncertainty...my "boyfriend" (long story) doesn't trust the bisexual part of me...he's afraid i will run away with some girl...just because that's what happened to him before. I really love him...*shrug* sorry this is so disorganized...just kinda had to vent to someone(s)

 

[MaddyBaby]

You poor dear...

You sound just like my best friend.... There's no need to label yourself, darling. You are simply attracted to women... there is nothing wrong with that, nor will you run away with some woman, especially if you love your boyfriend. Just remember without trust, there is no relationship, so that sounds like something you need to sit down and seriously discuss with him. He also needs to get over his own insecurities and be glad you told him about your attraction.

In my opinion, women are more likely to have homosexual tendencies, mainly because they are in touch with who they are... and ALL women I have ever discussed this with have all told me that they find other women attractive in some way, shape or form. It's completely natural, darling... and it's OKAY to be picky! We don't want to be settling, do we? Just tell your boyfriend you won't run away with a woman because you're so damn picky, it'll take you forever to find the right one!

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Maddy...Great answer and very true. To me (even before i realized i was the way i am) all women are lovely. Women are more open with one another.

And Luna...until recently I was involved with a man and a woman. Trust is a key factor in any relationship, always. What Maddy says is extremely true..TALK to your mate. Be up front and honest. The love you have for your man will only increase if the structures of talking and sharing with openess and honesty are in place.

Be well...

PET

 

[Etoile]

Yes indeed, Maddy, very well put.

Silverluna, there's nothing wrong with calling yourself bi if you want to - but if you don't want to, that's okay too. You may want to explore coming out to yourself sometime further down the road.

As for your boyfriend, the chances that you'd run away with another girl are the same as the chances that you'd run away with another guy. Is he nervous about that, too? You might want to talk with him about that if he's concerned. That said, I believe that seeing somebody outside your relationship with your boyfriend - boy or girl - is cheating. I know of boyfriends who allow their girlfriends to date other girls, but I still see it as cheating and opening up the relationship to unnecessary possible problems.

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