I would like to watch my gf masturbate...

[Gaultier]

I have great sex with my girlfriend, but there is one thing I've hardly experienced with her. She never agreed to masturbate in front of me even when she is really horny, the only time she did it, she was pretty drunk and only wanted to please me but I know that she didn't really enjoy it. Her answer is that there is no need for her to masturbate since I am there to satisfy her and that it feels much better that way anyway. But the thing is I know for sure she knows how to masturbate since she explained me more than once her different techniques.
Is there any way I could make her more comfortable in front of me...I know her for several years now, although our sexual experience is only about 6 months old.
She is everything but shy in sex related matters...Anybody to help?

 

[Kadee]

Watching gf masturbate...

Have you tried masturbating together? I know I would do that with my boyfriend if he was participating, but if he was just watching I would feel a little uncomfortable. I can also see her point of view...it feels much better to have my boyfriend touching me than for me to touch myself. I would do it because I would be inspired by watching him masturbate...as he watched me. It definitely turns me on to watch him. Maybe you could start and that would inspire her...

 

[Roll-One]

I think Kadee has explained it very well.

 

[DriveSouth]

I'd like to watch your girl masturbate too ...

 

[Naked Hunny]

where did that come from!

 

[Gaultier]

Actually yes, she has watched me masturbate and she recently admitted that it did turn her on, but usually it leads to intercourse and not to her masturbate.

I see your point DRIVESOUTH...but if she doesn't wannna do it in front of me,forget the pics, not that I even thought about that...

 

[StevenWill]

go slow

I teach human sexuality and discuss this in class. You need to explain to her how excited it would make you see her masturbate and that you would be willing to do it for her at the same time. You could start slow by being in the dark and talking and sharing fantasies. Or she could lean back against your chest and have an orgasm with you behind her so she doesn't see your face. Another good way is to have her wear a blindfold and she could lose herself in her pleasure without being intimidated. That is fun for both, wearing a blindfold while the other person watches. Slowly she will get more comfortble until she wants to look in your face while she does it and she will want to watch you at the same time. Yikes, I made myself horny here, lol.

Best of luck.

Steven

 

[Kadee]

Human Sexuality Class...

Where can I sign up for class...You aren't the only person you made horny with that description. I'm calling my boyfriend...lol

 

[StevenWill]

Kadee is sweet

You are sweet Kadee. If you and your boyfriend have fun, I have accomplished something. I get this a lot. How cum no one calls me????

Masturbating for each other is very intimate and powerfully erotic experience. Everyone should give it a try. It's like talking dirty, which isn't "dirty" at all, just saying out loud how to feel to someone you trust.

Steven

 

[Kadee]

Thank You StevenWill

Speaking of "talking dirty"... I find that talking and communication is the key to everything in my relationships. When my bf tells me something that he really wants to explore sexually, we always talk it through and share the pro's and con's of it...Then we try it. It's always worth trying something at least once to see if you like it, or even love it. I love pleasing him and vice versa and good communication takes away all those sexual boundries.

 

[Easy Boy]

And where is that intriguing class, StevenWill?

Not in a public high school, I'm betting.

 

[ZshadeZ]

First of all, I have to say that this place kicks ass. That out of the way, Steven, theres a Human Sexuality class at my college... and after hearing you talk I'm signing up. I doubt my girlfriend will be comfortable for a long time though, she is Catholic to the point of thinking masturbation is wrong!

 

[StevenWill]

It's not really possible to argue with religious beliefs. However, some people just feel uncomfortable with masturbation even though they actually don't see it as immoral. Their training has just caused many negative feelings about masturbation. Also, women began masturbating later than men and become comfortable with it at a later age. I wish we didn't teach women such silly things and, in the process, deprive them of one of the wonderful ways of learning about their bodies and their sexuality. I don't think it is reasonable for human beings to be totally dependent on others for ALL their sexual stimulation. Good luck.

 

[Royal_Prince]

Okay so my wife is Catholic but she has never mentioned to me that she felt uncomfortable or even restricted in that area. Come to think of it I catch her routinely- and somehow it always leads to something else!

 

[ZshadeZ]

I know, a lot of Catholics do it... but her family is strictly Catholic... she knows its alright, but can't get ove feeling its wrong just because of the years of catholic teaching. Bloody meddling people.... its like programming children.

 

[AusTess]

The blindfold thing helps.
It makes it easier to lose yourself.
And imagine you are alone,if that is what You would prefer.


I'm a lights on,curtains open,eyes wide kinda girl.

 

[SallyIsHere]

We all get a little self conscious at times. I love to watch a guy masturbate. It turns me on so much to watch that I just have to touch myself. So you might let her watch you and see how she reacts. When I see a guy stroke himself, I can't keep my hand out of my panties and then he gets more turned on and we both get bolder and more excited.

Just have fun with it.

 

[StevenWill]

I have corresponded with Sally and she is a special woman to be sure. What she gets and accepts is that it is a huge turn on for a guy to watch a woman masturbate. Knowing that allows for a whole new dynamic--teasing. Sex gets fun when the woman is totally confident that touching herself will be a huge turn on for the guy. Then she can really be erotic. Unless you have that, it's just a woman doing a favor for man, and that's not much fun.

Steven

 

[Gaultier]

Thanx guys...I made some progress...but I guess the whole thing will take some more time

 

[SallyIsHere]

It's worth the time. Good luck!!

 

[willywanker]

this may take some time too, but I convinced my wife to mastrubate in front of a video camera and we watched it together. Yes, it did lead to other things, but it also turned her on to watch herself getting off. You know it's good when you get yourself off, but it's different to watch.