I want to be seduced

[Liar]

It's especially seductive if they flat out tell you they're going to do it, and then succeed. Hell yeah.

Seems like there are two main types of seduction. the more subtle Bait-n-Reel and the Steamroller.

All relationships I've been in has been the result of me being subjected to the Steamroller. I guess I'm just that dense.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Seems like there are two main types of seduction. the more subtle Bait-n-Reel and the Steamroller.

All relationships I've been in has been the result of me being subjected to the Steamroller. I guess I'm just that dense.

My male friends all tell me they're dense about these things unless the Steamroller is applied. I tend to be dense about it, too, if it's subtle. I think we lose our objectivity when we're the focus so we can't see it.

 

[mlady_france]

I'm right there with ya crim. I've always wanted to be suduced. Just have hours spent on me, tempting me, teasing me. My ex would come close, get to a certian point, and then just derail and either start an arguement, or jump streight for the goods.

 

[BlackShanglan]

I think part of the charm of seduction, as well, is that nothing is taken for granted. Each kiss and touch is its own seperate and breathtaking advance, slowly made and passionately won. What could be more luscious?

Shanglan

 

[Recidiva]

Seems like there are two main types of seduction. the more subtle Bait-n-Reel and the Steamroller.

All relationships I've been in has been the result of me being subjected to the Steamroller. I guess I'm just that dense.

I think it has to have both. Humor, perspective, determination and the willingness to not take the entire thing too seriously, while giving it everything you've got.

 

[Recidiva]

I think part of the charm of seduction, as well, is that nothing is taken for granted. Each kiss and touch is its own seperate and breathtaking advance, slowly made and passionately won. What could be more luscious?

Shanglan

Exactly, fun for its own sake. Every step of the journey worth taking. Not just a sprint to the finish.

 

[tolyk]

My male friends all tell me they're dense about these things unless the Steamroller is applied. I tend to be dense about it, too, if it's subtle. I think we lose our objectivity when we're the focus so we can't see it.

I think it's more complex than that.. I think that most of us have far too many self-esteem issues and we're all in denial when someone flirts with us.. It's not that we don't see it, or can't see it, it's that we don't believe it.. Which is exactly why the cocky/assertive people do better in the dating world.. not as many self-esteem issues.


Oh, and Crim, I'd seduce you, over and over and over

 

[BlackShanglan]

Hmmm. And possibly why there's so little seduction going on, Tolyk. Everyone wants to receive it, but no one quite has the guts to try to play suave and confident. There's the fear that it will go horribly wrong ...

Shanglan

 

[yui]

Hmmm. And possibly why there's so little seduction going on, Tolyk. Everyone wants to receive it, but no one quite has the guts to try to play suave and confident. There's the fear that it will go horribly wrong ...

Shanglan

That and it's a whole whopping lot of effort ...

 

[hugo_sam]

That and it's a whole whopping lot of effort ...

But that adds to the enjoyment for both parties.

sorry btw evening yui,shang and tol!

 

[tolyk]

Hmmm. And possibly why there's so little seduction going on, Tolyk. Everyone wants to receive it, but no one quite has the guts to try to play suave and confident. There's the fear that it will go horribly wrong ...

Shanglan

Exactly.. and then there is the social aspect of it.. I mean, who knows what is socially acceptable.. Where is the line? How much flirting is considered in good taste.. how much before you're being pushy or pathetic..

There is too much unknown, too many things to add doubt..

Society is messed up

Ello everyone Very nice pic there Yui.

 

[yui]

But that adds to the enjoyment for both parties.

I don't disagree, hugo. I was being perhaps inappropriately flippant; my apologies if I offended anyone.

Edited to add: Good evening, hugo!

 

[hugo_sam]

I don't disagree, hugo. I was being perhaps inappropriately flippant; my apologies if I offended anyone.

Edited to add: Good evening, hugo!

Didn't take it that way, just adding my 2 cents...
Romantic at heart, only one of the pair here that is.

 

[BlackShanglan]

I don't disagree, hugo. I was being perhaps inappropriately flippant; my apologies if I offended anyone.

Edited to add: Good evening, hugo!

If you don't stop being so damned sweet, I'm going to have to come and nuzzle you all better.

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

Hmmm. And possibly why there's so little seduction going on, Tolyk. Everyone wants to receive it, but no one quite has the guts to try to play suave and confident. There's the fear that it will go horribly wrong ...

Shanglan

<considers> You're absolutely right.

<set up candles, romantic music (no Igor, romantic, not death metal), wine (why is it bubbling, light the candles (good lord they're leaping to the ceiling. Put it out Igor, put it out!)>

Well, the date is running screaming, the house is burning down, and the aliens have landed and are demanding pudding. Okay, still salvagable

<Slick hair back, sprint down date>

How you doin'?

<go down>

(squeeky voice) perhaps I should have rethought that one.

 

[Belegon]

Exactly.. and then there is the social aspect of it.. I mean, who knows what is socially acceptable.. Where is the line? How much flirting is considered in good taste.. how much before you're being pushy or pathetic..

here is my major issue with it..well, that and my marital status, but...let's ignore the latter and assume I was pursuing someone. I can't do it a co-worker without getting MAJOR, MAJOR OBVIOUS signals that it is ok, becuase of the sexual harrassment thing.

I can't do it with a client because of conflict of interest issues.

So that leaves obviously "social" situations. I'm sorry, but my days of taking a girl home from a bar are basically over.

Now, if I met someone and managed to get it to that date thing? That I can still see myself doing. But it is not without risk.

In order to be successful at the way I would practice "seduction", I have to really make myself vulnerable to rejection. And if I were to be in that situation, that wold be may major obstacle. Because in a situation where I really like the person, I get scared of screwing up. If it is more casual, no problem. But when my emotions get involved...

 

[yui]

Didn't take it that way, just adding my 2 cents...
Romantic at heart, only one of the pair here that is.

I'm glad I didn't offend you! I'm romantic at heart, too, and I think that's why it hurts to believe, eh?

If you don't stop being so damned sweet, I'm going to have to come and nuzzle you all better.

You so almost got a dancing rice ball and hearts emote for this …

<considers> You're absolutely right.

<set up candles, romantic music (no Igor, romantic, not death metal), wine (why is it bubbling, light the candles (good lord they're leaping to the ceiling. Put it out Igor, put it out!)>

Well, the date is running screaming, the house is burning down, and the aliens have landed and are demanding pudding. Okay, still salvagable

<Slick hair back, sprint down date>

How you doin'?

<go down>

(squeeky voice) perhaps I should have rethought that one.

I was with you until Igor materialized out of nowhere to beat the flames back with heavy black velvet drapes. Even the aliens gave you a sort of Mulder-ish charm ... *sigh*

 

[tolyk]

here is my major issue with it..well, that and my marital status, but...let's ignore the latter and assume I was pursuing someone. I can't do it a co-worker without getting MAJOR, MAJOR OBVIOUS signals that it is ok, becuase of the sexual harrassment thing.

I can't do it with a client because of conflict of interest issues.

So that leaves obviously "social" situations. I'm sorry, but my days of taking a girl home from a bar are basically over.

Now, if I met someone and managed to get it to that date thing? That I can still see myself doing. But it is not without risk.

In order to be successful at the way I would practice "seduction", I have to really make myself vulnerable to rejection. And if I were to be in that situation, that wold be may major obstacle. Because in a situation where I really like the person, I get scared of screwing up. If it is more casual, no problem. But when my emotions get involved...

That too, we're all so sick of rejection, especially when the emotions are involved.

But, I think seduction can happen within an existing relationship, and it hurts just as much if you get shot down with that too. I mean, if you plan a romantic night with your s/o and they're not interested... it hurts.

 

[English Lady]

My husband seduced me, he still seduces me in fact. We met online, it was all about typing, flirting, horsing around. He wheddled my phone number from me, he flattered, complimented and seduced me with his gorgeous voice till one day he turned up on my doorstep and seduced me into his lap for a kiss.

*grins*


I seduce him sometimes too, a smile, a compliment, a touch. I let him know i want him, need, him and long for him, that I will do anything at all to have him.

Damn, is it hot in here?

Seduction is good. I love seduction. I'm lucky to be married to a Charming man, who still puts the charms on for me

 

[Sweetpeeee]

*big hugs* Crimson...it will happen and you will love it!

I have been seduced a few times now and it is just the biggest turn on...knowing someone has put that sort of effort and thought into "getting" you...dammit now i want to be seduced LMAO

 

[Recidiva]

That too, we're all so sick of rejection, especially when the emotions are involved.

But, I think seduction can happen within an existing relationship, and it hurts just as much if you get shot down with that too. I mean, if you plan a romantic night with your s/o and they're not interested... it hurts.

Maybe that's part of it. You have to be willing to be rejected, and be willing to reject and have that be okay. Not in a rude, obnoxious way so that there's an ego boost out of it, but in a way that acknowledges that people are very complicated, and getting to know someone is a process involving care and time. If there's chemistry, that makes it more fun, but even the most promising relationship at the beginning can slam into a brick wall for one reason or the other.

Maybe it's by not idealizing love and not idealizing each other, and playing with the realities and what we can do with them, that makes a seduction. Patience, curiosity and the interest in exploring rather than just planting a flag.

Quick fast sex is easy and doesn't require much in the way of preparation. Like fast food it's what some people want when they're hungry. Cash in hand, drive in window, drive away, done. No hunger anymore, but also no personality. Everyone gets the same thing from a menu.

Seduction is carefully deciding what the other person really wants, is really like, is really craving, what kind of dinner conversation you're likely to have, and puttering around the kitchen feeding each other bits of food to see if there's an allergic reaction to something you haven't tried before.

Even the act of seducing makes you better at knowing what other people want. That's part of the whole trick of seduction. Everyone knows what they think they want. Having someone serve you something completely new that they made up for you, that's cooking. Two people that like to do that for each other can do very well together and not get bored of their favorites. I know people complain about "having sex with the same person forever" being the main drawback of monogamy...but for me that's like saying that with an incredibly well stocked kitchen...that you'd always make macaroni and cheese. No imagination.

It's always nicer to have someone make something for you that they know you love, who knows your tastes, someone who cares enough about beauty to put flowers on the table and not think of that as being just a prop, but part of the whole thing. Much nicer than having someone plunk some bag from a takeout window in your lap. In that case, I'll cook for myself.