I want to ask my guy to try a threesome

[greeneyedgeisha]

but im afraid he'll think i'm nuts. has anyone here done it? it's my biggest fantasy to see him fuck someone else with me. what do the boys here think?

 

[mrsoul]

slim chance it will depend on whom you want for the other F.
i predict little resistance.

 

[SissySalina]

but im afraid he'll think i'm nuts. has anyone here done it? it's my biggest fantasy to see him fuck someone else with me. what do the boys here think?

The first time sissy had a threesome it was done by Her. She planned a "chance" meeting with one of Her friends at a bar. Her theory was if it did not go well Her friend would just go off and if the conversation went towards the threesome all would just go home together.

 

[Rockwell12]

You're going to ask him to fuck another woman with you there? It's a common fantasy. I like your odds, but what do I know.

 

[greeneyedgeisha]

The first time sissy had a threesome it was done by Her. She planned a "chance" meeting with one of Her friends at a bar. Her theory was if it did not go well Her friend would just go off and if the conversation went towards the threesome all would just go home together.

would think friends would make it complicated. but it's a great tip! thanks

 

[Bigspurt]

If my SO had a friend who was interested in joing toe two of us, I would welcome it in a second. If we met a single lady in a hotel bar, sure.

A full couple's swap would interest me just as much.

 

[greeneyedgeisha]

If my SO had a friend who was interested in joing toe two of us, I would welcome it in a second. If we met a single lady in a hotel bar, sure.

A full couple's swap would interest me just as much.

a stranger makes sense. just hesitant to ask. wonder if all men are into threesomes...

 

[Bigspurt]

I think that if the vibe is there it would be easy.

 

[Green_Knight]

a stranger makes sense. just hesitant to ask. wonder if all men are into threesomes...

Unless your SO is very sexually conservative, I can't imagine any problem with you raising the possibility. Do it gently, though.

"I've heard that a lot of men really go for the idea of a threesome with two women. Does that idea turn you on?"

I can't see him going ape-shit at that. Most guys would go for it like a shot but, even if he doesn't, the worst thing he's likely to say is "Nah, not my cup of tea". The only thoughts that might worry some guys are:

• you're trying to dump him and setting him up with someone else to do that
• you want to have sex with two men and after your FMF threesome you're going to turn round and say "my turn now"
• you might prefer the other girl and dump him
• will his performance be up to scratch with two women?

Be prepared to reassure him on things like that. Whether it'll turn out to be as much fun as he imagines is another matter. Satisfying two women in one bed can turn out to be quite hard work - what about the potential awkward gap after he's cum the first time, or is he a quick recoverer?

Let us know what happens.

 

[Nezhul]

It all depends on the guy, really. Some people will be into that thing, others will not.

Myself, for example, I can be persuaded for a threesome, but that would take a lot of persuasion. And it doesn't matter if the proposal is MFF or MMF. I just don't feel like sharing this side of my life with another person, but I'd do it if my partner really needed that badly.

Some people are more lax in their relationships.

I suggest first talk about the fantasy. Not suggesting to go ahead and do it, but share your fantasy and listen to some of his.
Give him a couple of weeks to process this new concept, then ask him if maybe you should do that.

In reality this may take longer or shorter based on his initial reaction. Maybe you both share the urge and are ready to do it. And maybe you'll see that he's not ready yet and will decide to slowly work your way towards it in baby-steps.

p.s. oh yea, and it also depends on another lady. If she's not attractive enough for him, some men will have problems.
There are women (not only fat or ugly) whom I don't want to have sex with, even if I had a chance. They simply don't appeal to me that much.
That said, some men will fuck anything that moves.

 

[Nezhul]

• you're trying to dump him and setting him up with someone else to do that
• you want to have sex with two men and after your FMF threesome you're going to turn round and say "my turn now"
• you might prefer the other girl and dump him
• will his performance be up to scratch with two women?

I'll add to this:

• you are testing him if he feels faithful to you

The answer can be "no" simply because he thinks that by saying "yes" he will get you angry with him for wanting another woman and not ONLY you.

 

[Michael_Keaton]

Satisfying two women in one bed can turn out to be quite hard work - what about the potential awkward gap after he's cum the first time, or is he a quick recoverer?

If you're in a hurry start at about the 2:08 mark.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXS9WGYptM0

 

[LostGirlTink]

The fantasy is often better than the reality.
I've tried this a few times, none of them damaged the relationships but keep in mind depending on situation, people involved, timing (crucial) and myriad other things, some may go better than others.
The first time was in college and was amazing. Semi-serious boyfriend, girl that I was friendly with but not best friends, a bit of rum all made for a lot of fun and was probably the reason I was happy to try again.
Second time was ok, but lacked something. There wasn't a connection between him and her and she and I were too good of friends. It just felt strange.
Third (and last time) just felt like work. Instead of thinking omg this is amazing I kept thinking things along the line of "Is she getting enough attention?" or " Is he getting enough attention?" or "I wish she'd get off my hair" and "This would be more fun if this was all about me"
Relationships and sex are filled with twists. Sometimes you might just like the fantasy. Like I said, none of it wrecked a relationship, didn't even damage it, but the 2nd and 3rd time probably would have been better to have played out just as whispers in bed.

 

[armyman2010]

I've asked but she told me no. That's why I'm here to read stories,chat,and have fun with others.

 

[Durax]

I suggest first talk about the fantasy. Not suggesting to go ahead and do it, but share your fantasy and listen to some of his.
Give him a couple of weeks to process this new concept, then ask him if maybe you should do that.

and

The answer can be "no" simply because he thinks that by saying "yes" he will get you angry with him for wanting another woman and not ONLY you.

As a guy who sometimes feels insecure about sex with my SO due to conservative upbringing and a couple heartbreaks in the past, I think these are the best points made so far in the thread.

I think the suggestion about talking first about it as a fantasy gives you a safe place to explore the idea together and profess love for one another, and everything that flows afterwards is grounded in that mutual trust. This is how my current SO and I got into exploring anal play.

 

[megustatoda]

really depends on the gender and what he is into

I'm 95% sure thought that if he straight and you would bring up him fucking you and your hot girlfriend he would be down

 

[Rockymtnman]

I don't know a dude

That would say no. Although I think threesomes are slightly more than most dudes can handle. My first one I literally blew my load in under a minute. Luckily I was young and just kept fucking. Now I'd probably be like... Yeah yeah I'll just watch for a while.

 

[NightL]

Happened a number of times over the years. Always with friends. Always spontaneous. Each and every time was special and fun. Never impacted negatively on relationships or friendships. There was never expectation of repeat occurrences with the same combination and only did a couple of times. After there was never the "elephant in the room" with friends, just simply "we had a lot of fun the other night".

Different combinations and different roles in participation. Sometimes mutual sharing of affection sometimes two gifting to one.

To be honest I always felt that prior planning would place expectations, that if not met could lead to disappointments and regret. Having never planned for a threesome or moresome I just don't know - loved the spontaneity though. With the different partners I have shared these moments with it had never come up in conversation at all prior. "Shall we have a threesome?" - nope.

How did it happen? Dinner parties with a friends, dancing, alcohol, laughter, fun and flirting - just naturally progressed into wonderful times. Dancing out at a club that had back rooms. Back massages that became more. Knowing a sleep over guest was listening to our love making and calling out for them to join us. Spa pool moments that led to indoor moments. Night time skinny dipping at the beach that led to clothes falling off back at home which led to massages which progressed onto sensual massages.

I think if both in a relationship are naturally flirtatious and comfortable witnessing their partner giving and receiving attention from others then it just seems to happen. If you playfully display affection toward each other then it is easy enough to gauge the interest or intrigue from those witnessing.

Ultimately it is about people feeling comfortable and happy, being at ease in expressing affection verbally and physically. I would imagine if there was any indication of apprehension from one then it could lead to uncomfortable and regrettable situations for all.

Not saying my experience is right or wrong, it is all that I know having never planned for a threesome. Maybe if as a couple you are still finding out about each other you should discuss it through- bring it up as a shared fantasy while love making - tell each other what you would like to witness and experience. You will find your boundaries.

 

[pplwatching]

I have turned down a threesome. I was and am only interested in the woman that I am with. In addition to a lack of interest, I am generally averse to risking the things that are important to me. My marriage and family are the things that I value the most in my life, and I treat them accordingly.

 

[geoff0833]

I agree

I have turned down a threesome. I was and am only interested in the woman that I am with. In addition to a lack of interest, I am generally averse to risking the things that are important to me. My marriage and family are the things that I value the most in my life, and I treat them accordingly.

I have been in a similar situation. Neither me or my SO have any interest as we have too much to lose. I don't fear much for the breakdown of our relationship, but I do worry about it causing a fracture to the intimacy that we cherish. Based on risk and reward it's just not worth it.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

but im afraid he'll think i'm nuts. has anyone here done it? it's my biggest fantasy to see him fuck someone else with me. what do the boys here think?

Read some of our early stories. When we first married some of my old school girl friends took turns with my husband to give me a break.
It took most of my life before I finally let other male friends have sex with me.
For some it will be the end. For us it has always been our fantasies coming true.
I'd suggest go on a vacation and find strangers who you will never meet again.

 

[NightL]

but im afraid he'll think i'm nuts. has anyone here done it? it's my biggest fantasy to see him fuck someone else with me. what do the boys here think?

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=39927413&postcount=1
http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=35852875&postcount=1

So I am thinking all is just a little imaginative wishful thinking... if the older posts were true then you wouldn't have created this thread.

and there is "what do the boys here think?" As a woman(?) I would think opinions from other women would be important for you.

what ever

 

[greeneyedgeisha]

The fantasy is often better than the reality.
I've tried this a few times, none of them damaged the relationships but keep in mind depending on situation, people involved, timing (crucial) and myriad other things, some may go better than others.
The first time was in college and was amazing. Semi-serious boyfriend, girl that I was friendly with but not best friends, a bit of rum all made for a lot of fun and was probably the reason I was happy to try again.
Second time was ok, but lacked something. There wasn't a connection between him and her and she and I were too good of friends. It just felt strange.
Third (and last time) just felt like work. Instead of thinking omg this is amazing I kept thinking things along the line of "Is she getting enough attention?" or " Is he getting enough attention?" or "I wish she'd get off my hair" and "This would be more fun if this was all about me"
Relationships and sex are filled with twists. Sometimes you might just like the fantasy. Like I said, none of it wrecked a relationship, didn't even damage it, but the 2nd and 3rd time probably would have been better to have played out just as whispers in bed.

thank you! this was fun reading and sounds just about right

 

[greeneyedgeisha]

That would say no. Although I think threesomes are slightly more than most dudes can handle. My first one I literally blew my load in under a minute. Luckily I was young and just kept fucking. Now I'd probably be like... Yeah yeah I'll just watch for a while.

haha!

 

[greeneyedgeisha]

Unless your SO is very sexually conservative, I can't imagine any problem with you raising the possibility. Do it gently, though.

"I've heard that a lot of men really go for the idea of a threesome with two women. Does that idea turn you on?"

I can't see him going ape-shit at that. Most guys would go for it like a shot but, even if he doesn't, the worst thing he's likely to say is "Nah, not my cup of tea". The only thoughts that might worry some guys are:

• you're trying to dump him and setting him up with someone else to do that
• you want to have sex with two men and after your FMF threesome you're going to turn round and say "my turn now"
• you might prefer the other girl and dump him
• will his performance be up to scratch with two women?

Be prepared to reassure him on things like that. Whether it'll turn out to be as much fun as he imagines is another matter. Satisfying two women in one bed can turn out to be quite hard work - what about the potential awkward gap after he's cum the first time, or is he a quick recoverer?

Let us know what happens.

thanks for this. very helpful