I wanna tell my wife my secret but don’t know how

[jf6940869]

I’ve only fooled around with one guy many years ago and only shared my secret with an Ex. That led to having a 3 some that was amazing but ended to early because he was shy and felt bad for fucking her with me. After that I only had 1 encounter with him and miss fooling around. When I first got with my wife she joked about wanting to peg me but it wasn’t til our early years of marriage I let her try but I couldn’t handle it. Fast forward to last year, we were having a hot fuck session. We’ve been big into stuffing her pussy while I fuck her. I put a 6” in along with me and she begged for me to add a bigger one. Oh boy, she went crazy. She had me pull out and kept going but she wanted to suck my cock. I laid back and she rode them while sucking me. It was so good, then I felt a vibe. She was using on my balls then went lower. Next thing I know she has a few inches in. I came so hard. We did it a few other times but now she says she doesn’t want to really. Ever time I asked she turned me down. I started solo play but it’s not the same. And worse I’ve been craving a real cock. For you bi married men that also like pegging, how do I get her into it again and how did you share your bi side?

 

[LustyScribe]

My suggestion is to bring it up OUTSIDE the bedroom, at a time/place where sex is not particularly on the table. (I have to admit chuckling at that; maybe getting bent OVER the table might come into play, but that's just my cock talking. It does that.) Anyway, bring it up. Hint that you're interested in experiencing it with her. (Key words: with her). If she balks, ask her why? Is there something she's afraid of? Some negative connotations to it in her mind? And then LISTEN to what she says. Don't argue, just acknowledge her thoughts. Ask how you could overcome it with her. Communication, not confrontation.

And if that doesn't work, start buying cucumbers... LOL Honestly, though, good luck!

 

[jf6940869]

My suggestion is to bring it up OUTSIDE the bedroom, at a time/place where sex is not particularly on the table. (I have to admit chuckling at that; maybe getting bent OVER the table might come into play, but that's just my cock talking. It does that.) Anyway, bring it up. Hint that you're interested in experiencing it with her. (Key words: with her). If she balks, ask her why? Is there something she's afraid of? Some negative connotations to it in her mind? And then LISTEN to what she says. Don't argue, just acknowledge her thoughts. Ask how you could overcome it with her. Communication, not confrontation.

And if that doesn't work, start buying cucumbers... LOL Honestly, though, good luck!

Thanks for the great adviice. I guess Im partly worried due to some reactions from her after I was caught up a few times while fucking. over the years we’ve really gotten into dvp ( me and a big dildo) her newest one is a double cock one that’s got a 8” and a 10.5” stuck together. I love fucking her with it and eating her pussy. I’ve always had a fantasy of eating her while she rides a huge cock and secretly enjoying both. So 1 time I was so horny I caught myself starting to lick it as it slid out while she fucker herself. She may have got a peek of it and gave a wired look . i acted like it was on accident. Another time same situation only when it came out she was smashing my face into her in the middle of cumming it hit my mouth and she was kinda waving it, I was licking both as he watched intensely I thought it was what he wanted do I went for it and wallowed half. She went crazy then after asked me did I like sucking it. Her tone didn’t sound good so I jus said I thought that’s what u wanted then just said her pussy tastes so good I couldn’t help it. I love eating her pussy, can do it forever (I also miss sucking a hard cock u til my jaw hurt lol) then a few days ago same thing only this time she fit the whole dildo to the base holy fuck!!!! After she came it popped out and I sad fuk it and licked it all off the cocks and sucked it good . I’m so horny just writing about it I’m stroking and came so hard. I wish I was brave enough to try a gh right now

 

[jf6940869]

Lu

I just kind of went for it after sex one night. Told her I wanted to get a strap on and she was really into it.

Lucky you

 

[crazy4myhusband]

Well I certainly wouldn't tell her you want to go bi. You've got to get past the toys first. You are going to have to get creative in your play. Look here for some erotica that might help with Role Play you can use. I was eventually able to get my husband to open up with a lot of creative RP.

 

[Goldenfinger]

So in the how to section the is a blog about communication. I just don’t know why the most frequently asked question is how do I ask or tell your S/O something. My wife is my best friend, we talk all the time. I know her very well and can probably tell you how she would respond to most anything I’d ask or tell her. My only thing would be about how do I tell her that would be the least damaging emotionally. But the only person that could give me that information is me because I know my wife.

so what do you think your wife would say if you told her?

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I was the wife in this situation. My ex liked to dress in women's clothes. When he wanted to have sex like that, I was turned off.
Then I felt like I hurt his feelings, so we talked.
When watching porn he would talk about wanting to see me let loose in a movie theater.
I didn't realize he was stroking the men about to cum on me.
Then one day, on our way to one, he mentioned how good I look sucking cock and it makes him want to try. When I was already worked up for extracurricular activities, it sounded hot.
It was not long before I watched a man swallow his cum.

I question now if I was manipulated for his ultimate goal. But I don't care. I sucked some great cock, including his best friend, with him and in front of him in the process

Good luck. I would hate to see you go behind her back like many married men feel the need to.

 

[PFWilly]

Glad I broached the subject of the sex I’d had with guys, very early in our own encounters. Suspect it might have taken a bit more time for that discussion to happen, if I’d not shared that with her at first. Got lucky, very lucky, as she made me aware that the subject was quite arousing for her.

But she’d already told me about her guilty feelings about sex with her grandfather. My own admissions seemed rather tame in comparison.

 

[LustyScribe]

Communication is everything. It died regarding sex for us, and it is very hard to restore. In its absence, suppositions and suspicions run amok, destroying your foundation, and you may not even know it until it all crumbles.

 

[jf6940869]

Lu

Lucky you

Oh man I got lucky a few nights ago. Wifey came to bed and was like hurry up guy. Grab whatever you want and let’s do this!?! I grabbed a harness and one of her lifelike 8.5” and oh boy did she give it to me good. Nice and slow. I suggested trying laying on our sides so she wouldn’t get to rough like she tends to when I bend over the bed. She gets carried away and kinda gives it to me to hard.

 

[jf6940869]

So in the how to section the is a blog about communication. I just don’t know why the most frequently asked question is how do I ask or tell your S/O something. My wife is my best friend, we talk all the time. I know her very well and can probably tell you how she would respond to most anything I’d ask or tell her. My only thing would be about how do I tell her that would be the least damaging emotionally. But the only person that could give me that information is me because I know my wife.

so what do you think your wife would say if you told her?

Partly I feel like she might consider it. She used to be bi when she was younger so maybe she’d understand. I feel like after pegging me she might like to see me really get fucked by a guy. Also, we both enjoy dvp. We started by using an average size dildo along with my cock and it was great. In the recent years we have done more exploring with double cock dildos, our newest has an 8.5 and 10.5 and this thing is girthy along with the length! I wish it was split so she could choose one or the other or both. A few times she’s gotten close to taking both all the way I was like holy shit!!! She orgasmed so hard I wish I had it recorded. I did manage to catch it one time but only the last 2 mins before she came. The 20 mins before that tho omg it was fricken hot AF to see her fuck herself with it. She was going crazy talking nasty too. I’d love to find a bi dude with a huge cock to help me stuff her

 

[IndianaStevenJones]

I have a secret from mine as well. If she knew it would ruin my relationship with her a d her son. I'd like her to know and get freaky with but I doubt it.

 

[swflabimale]

I kept no secrets from my wife and early in our relationship she could not have been any hornier if she tried. I cannot think of anything I haven't told her about. I'm trying not to step over the line but general information is I told her about my lessons in submission from my pediatric nurse, experimenting with a friend, a 4+ year long relationship with my male cousin, a short tryst with a bi-racial 18 year old male, a 6 month relationship with my younger brother, a 3+ year long bi relationship with a guy who initially fucked my wife (with my approval) and when she cut him off he approached me by offering to jack me off and then suck me. I was also approached by a gay ex neighbor who sort of persuaded me to jump into bed with him.
She found out a good bit later down the line and it was really unfortunate for me because menopause struck a little early and that ended a lot of our experimenting. After she knew about my cousin and we saw him at a family function she went sex crazy. There pretty much wasn't anything she wouldn't try. We shopped together at adult stores, she picked out a 8" strap on, a 18" double headed dildo, a vibrator, 2 crops, nipple clamps, blindfolds, and a baby bottle to catch my cum.

 

[jf6940869]

Wow u have been very fortunate..I miss having fun with my cousin.

 

[swflabimale]

Wow u have been very fortunate..I miss having fun with my cousin.

I have been overwhelmed by all the thoughts going through my head about all the experiences I've had growing up and keeping it a secret from everyone except my wife and one of her girlfriends. On the upside, her girlfriend is non-judgemental about all I've told her. She's seen me nude on a couple occasions and didn't mind at all.........