I tried this last Saturday. I got up early even though I was working a third shift that night and drove over an hour to where the website said they would be meeting. Nada. I was really looking forward to experiencing my first munch and meeting some new people. Does this happen very often with other munch groups? I was going to the Satyricon in Madison, WI.
I tried going to my first munch...
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i've never had any problems with the munches that i've been to. Sometimes it takes some time for people to show tho.... one night it was almost 45 mins after the start time, before anyone showed, and then all of a sudden, they came out of the woodwork.
i'm sorry to hear that you weren't able to experience a munch, i get so much out of them. Try again, don't give up
i'm sorry to hear that you weren't able to experience a munch, i get so much out of them. Try again, don't give up
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Most groups have email lists that you can join from their web site. There are several groups in my area, and each has an email list that you can get to know members a little before you even venture out to a munch.
Some groups are pretty formal and keep things close to the vest about when and where they meet. These groups also have special dates when guests are allowed.
But, some groups don't worry about that kind of protocol, and allow guests at any time. It's always nice to let someone know you are going to be there, if possible. There are hate groups in all areas that try to cause problems.
One group in my area has had problems with their munches and get togethers. Non fetish get togethers at restaurants have been protested and even the restaurants have canceled reservations at the request of militant religious groups, or be subjected to media coverage and possible loss of customers.
But, to make a long story short, it isn't a normal thing for a munch to be scheduled and then not happen. Even if something like the above comes up, there would be someone there to let people know, and something would be posted to the email list.
If you haven't, I'd check the Internet for groups in your area and check to see if they have web sites and email lists you can join. Google is good for this. Google for munch groups, D/s groups, BDSM groups, S/M groups, etc.
I don't know where you are, but you could also look for links at the below site.
www.soj.org/groups.html
Some groups are pretty formal and keep things close to the vest about when and where they meet. These groups also have special dates when guests are allowed.
But, some groups don't worry about that kind of protocol, and allow guests at any time. It's always nice to let someone know you are going to be there, if possible. There are hate groups in all areas that try to cause problems.
One group in my area has had problems with their munches and get togethers. Non fetish get togethers at restaurants have been protested and even the restaurants have canceled reservations at the request of militant religious groups, or be subjected to media coverage and possible loss of customers.
But, to make a long story short, it isn't a normal thing for a munch to be scheduled and then not happen. Even if something like the above comes up, there would be someone there to let people know, and something would be posted to the email list.
If you haven't, I'd check the Internet for groups in your area and check to see if they have web sites and email lists you can join. Google is good for this. Google for munch groups, D/s groups, BDSM groups, S/M groups, etc.
I don't know where you are, but you could also look for links at the below site.
www.soj.org/groups.html
xxMissTaken said:
i didn't claim to research anything...just made a comment on these mindless drones...never said anyone here was involved did I??
take your own advice and research before you open your mouth for anything but a big juicy cock..
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Back on topic:
I never attended any munches. I did join yahoo chat groups to get acquainted with people who were involved with them, but in both instances, the groups seemed to be rife with hostility and bickering on line.
Then, once I made friends in real time who also practiced BDSM, the allure of munches dissipated.
I never attended any munches. I did join yahoo chat groups to get acquainted with people who were involved with them, but in both instances, the groups seemed to be rife with hostility and bickering on line.
Then, once I made friends in real time who also practiced BDSM, the allure of munches dissipated.
Yeah, the allure of a munch will probably go away once I have some RL friends also into BDSM to chat and hang out with. I was hoping that attending some munches might be a pretty good way to go about making those friends with the same interests. Too many of my friends right now are very vanilla and get uncomfortable when topics such as BDSM or which rope is the softest on the skin are brought up.
Marquis: I never implied that I would go through with any request you may have made pertaining to my avatar. I simply felt it would be polite to inquire about your difficulties with it.
For all I knew, it was just too sexy for you to bear looking at.
Marquis: I never implied that I would go through with any request you may have made pertaining to my avatar. I simply felt it would be polite to inquire about your difficulties with it.
For all I knew, it was just too sexy for you to bear looking at.
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Munches aren't anything but groups of people with the same interests in common. If you have enough friends with BDSM interests already, then a munch can be a waste of time.MissTaken said:Back on topic:
I never attended any munches. I did join yahoo chat groups to get acquainted with people who were involved with them, but in both instances, the groups seemed to be rife with hostility and bickering on line.
Then, once I made friends in real time who also practiced BDSM, the allure of munches dissipated.
But, if you are looking for a sub or a Dom that is local to your area, a local organized group with a munch or some other form of meeting is a good place to start.
It's not easy finding someone who likes to submit to you. Trust me, I know. You get tired of the shocked looks after a while.
Local BDSM groups are just another tool that is available to us. And, in the case of a submissive looking for a Dom, local groups can be very helpful in finding someone safe. Looking on your own can be a very frightning, if not dangerous time.
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Not really sure I have enough history to voice an unbiased, informed opinion, but my brief experiance was not overly pleasant.
I come from a small town, thus it took me approx. 4 years to even find a group. I was so understandably excited when I was able to locate one, that I didn't hesitate much at the prospect of attending.
I was fortunete in that the meeting wasn't to take place for a couple months, hence giving me a decent opportunity of getting to know both the people who were hosting, and a few of those who would present.
It didn't take me long to figure out that the main host and his wife were more interested if I would be attending the after play-party, than if I would actually darken the doors of the munch. It was also soon glareingly obvious that the vast majority of people attending were married swingers looking for a piece of tail to accompany them for the evening.
I didn't really enter the situation expecting to meet my ideal mate, but I was so barraged with pathetic come ons from both men and women and pleas to attend this "play party" that I decided to bypass the whole 'affair' in its entirety. All I really wanted was to meet with people of similar interest in a non-threatening enviroment.
Don't get me wrong, I'm pretty open minded. If that is your scene, then I don't judge. However, safety is a top consideration when you are a twenty some year old single chick contemplating walking into a room full of horny, married, kinky couples. I think the final deciding factor was right about the time when I was instructed to shove a plug up my arse for the event by someone I barely knew.
I come from a small town, thus it took me approx. 4 years to even find a group. I was so understandably excited when I was able to locate one, that I didn't hesitate much at the prospect of attending.
I was fortunete in that the meeting wasn't to take place for a couple months, hence giving me a decent opportunity of getting to know both the people who were hosting, and a few of those who would present.
It didn't take me long to figure out that the main host and his wife were more interested if I would be attending the after play-party, than if I would actually darken the doors of the munch. It was also soon glareingly obvious that the vast majority of people attending were married swingers looking for a piece of tail to accompany them for the evening.
I didn't really enter the situation expecting to meet my ideal mate, but I was so barraged with pathetic come ons from both men and women and pleas to attend this "play party" that I decided to bypass the whole 'affair' in its entirety. All I really wanted was to meet with people of similar interest in a non-threatening enviroment.
Don't get me wrong, I'm pretty open minded. If that is your scene, then I don't judge. However, safety is a top consideration when you are a twenty some year old single chick contemplating walking into a room full of horny, married, kinky couples. I think the final deciding factor was right about the time when I was instructed to shove a plug up my arse for the event by someone I barely knew.
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Did you do it?
My experience with a munch was OK. It was a younger group, so I expected there to be some attractive possibilities there, which there were not. However, everyone was real cool and it was nice to be in an environment where I could be myself.
My experience with a munch was OK. It was a younger group, so I expected there to be some attractive possibilities there, which there were not. However, everyone was real cool and it was nice to be in an environment where I could be myself.
sincerely_helene
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Marquis said:
Ha, ha.
(Maybe.)
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Marquis said:
The description!
I was just hoping ot meet some other people with an interest in BDSM and maybe if I were lucky meet some single subs that I could chat with. I chose to hit the one I did because I figured there would be a better chance of the people NOT all being married couples. The only other area munch group I've been able to find is in Milwaukee. From the sounds of things, they're a group of couples. The Madison group was meeting on campus at UW-Madison, so I thought the number of 40 something married couples would be lower.
Sorry about your experience Helene. I'm stuck in a small town myself so I have to be willing to drive an hour or so in order to make a meeting. I can defintely appreciate your wariness going into the munch. Maybe if I actually make a meeting that happens I'll look so much the better without a bunch of cheesy come-ons.
Sorry about your experience Helene. I'm stuck in a small town myself so I have to be willing to drive an hour or so in order to make a meeting. I can defintely appreciate your wariness going into the munch. Maybe if I actually make a meeting that happens I'll look so much the better without a bunch of cheesy come-ons.
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