I Told My Husband

[GreenEyeBiChick]

That I want to fuck another woman. Maybe even while being fucked by him... we were having really hot sex the other night, and I kinda just blurted it out. Actually, he told me he wished he could eat my pussy and fuck me at the same time, so I took that as an opening to ask if he'd like to bring another woman into bed. So the rest of the sex talk was based on me eating out another woman while he fucks me. I mean, we got pretty graphic with the talk. The only problem is, now I'm kinda confused as to what he really wants... yesterday, I jokingly mentioned to him that I asked a friend of mine if she wanted to have a threesome with us, just to see what his reaction would be. He said, "Oh yeah?" and I said, Yeah, she said she'd have to think about it. And he let it go at that!!! Sigh. So now I'm left wondering if it was JUSt sex talk or something he really does want?! I don't want to push it, so I'll guess we'll see what happens next time we have sex.

 

[au_man]

Seems to me that your communication skills outside the bedroom are lacking... This may be due to a lack of confidence on your part, unless he is really insecure...

What have you got to loose? Heck, if you can't talk about sex, what can you talk about?

I say, pop in a DVD or video of your choice, get the ball rolling and talk before you hit the sheets.... Even if this isn't gonna happin, at least you can ratchet up the labido before you go verticle.

 

[John Doe]

Well, how exactly did he say "Oh yeah?"

Was it in a nuetral, conversational way or was he grinning like an idiot or what?

Anyway, I wouldn't automatically assume based on just the words that he isn't really interested. I suggest you talk to him about it again (outside the bedroom), or even ask him outright and tell him youjust wanted to make sure.

Becasue threesomes are complicated and risky enough when everyone involved is interested and compatible, but if someone is reluctant, it could be a disaster.

 

[kristycross]

A Dream Cum True!

The fantasy of most men is to be with two women at once! Some want to leave it as a fantasy because of their own self esteem, not sure if they could please two women. But If you were to bring home someone I'm sure he love to watch and play! I know I would. Although I'm a Transvestite, I'm bi and enjoy being with several partners at once, both male and female. It's been some of the best times I've ever had!

 

[LindaL]

I'd suggest that you keep talking. Maybe in a quiet (but not necessarily intimate) moment, you could say something like "I was really turned on by the thought of having my friend join us in bed. Is that something we should seriously consider doing?"

My husband and I have covered a lot of scenarios in "sex talk". But we had to talk a lot more later to determine which ones we really might like to try, and which ones were just fun fantasies that we did not want to bring to reality.

 

[blue112]

I say just straight up ask him, your clearly not sure if he was interested or not, so tell him that and see where the ball rolls to.

 

[SweetErika]

Maybe he was trying to be nonchalant because he didn't want to hurt you by seeming really excited about another woman. Men are clever like that once in awhile.

At any rate, I agree you should have a conversation about this outside of the bedroom. Does he know you're bi, or just that you're curious about women? This might be a good time to tell him you identify as bi if you haven't already.

 

[anne27]

Communication. You have to talk about this out of the bedroom and more than once. And be sure after it happens, ya'll discuss it then too and make sure everyone is ok and secure in what occured.
We've just been doing the added bed partner thing this past year and so far we've had very good luck. We talk about it a lot, before and after. It's a tricky thing, trying to make sure all the emotional baggage people tend to wrap sex up in gets removed before sex play happens.

Talk, talk, and talk some more. And best of luck with it!!