SweetErika
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Reading that just about made me come, Indigoboy! Congratulations on your experimentation, and I hope you're putting your storytelling skills to good use on Lit! 
I think my wife is anal-curious, but won't admit it.
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I don't think it is at all uncommon for a lady to enjoy anal play, but afraid to admit it. Let me say I love anal play, both giving and receiving, few things turn me on more than sexy little female asshole!
When my wife and I first started dating about five years ago she let me fuck her several times, but she later told me she got nothing from it and only did it for me. I would always try to play with and or lick her asshole when I would go down on her, but the response was always almost always the same, "get away from my ass." But sometimes it would be different, after I've been going down on her for 5-10 minutes, sucking on her clit and fingereing her, I would get a finger very wet and slip it into her ass before or during her orgasm. She sure didn't try to stop me and it was obvious she really enjoyed it.
Over these past five years or so she has let me fuck her ass several times, again, just doing it for me. A couple of years ago she was even initiating it saying she needed practice, but quickly made it off limits again for no apparent reason. I too have always suspected that she really enjoys anal play, but has a psychological hang up and doesn't want to let herself enjoy it. Very rarely she would slip a lubed finger in my ass while going down on me, but again, she's never been real comfortable with this. I have purchased Sinclair's anal sex DVD, Tristan's anal sex book, etc. all in an attempt to make her feel mentally at ease with anal play.
Several weeks ago we talked about it, mind you, this is so far like a five year process for me, so I'm taqking my time. I told her I could understand he not wanting to have my cock in her ass, but I simply couldn't understand why she wouldn't let me lick her asshole, I said that couldn't possibly hurt. She agreed to try to be more opn about ass play and so far it has been fantastic. I am always rimming her during oral sex and fingering her ass during oral and vaginal sex, it's obvious she is enjoying it and becoming much more comfortable with it.
A couple of weeks ago I was on my back and she was on my left side going down on me. While she was expertly sucking my cock I was playing with her pussy first with one and then two fingers, I then pulled a finger out and slipped it into her ass for a bit of finger double penetration. She gives the most incredible blow jobs and enjoys using her hands, which drives me crazy as well. She grabbed a the lube, lubed up a couple of fingers and started playing with my ass and then slipped a finger in for a bit of prostate stimulation. It was incredible, she was fucking my ass with one hand, jacking me off and playing with my balls with the other and giving me one of her best blow jobs ever while I have one finger in her very wet pussy and another going in and out of her ass. All this and her moaning with her mouth full of my cock just drove me over the edge and I must have cum close to a gallon. She just continued to drain me and finger fucking my ass until I made her stop...I just couldn't take it anymore! This is rare for me as I never cum in her mouth unless it's "just a blow job" and we both wanted to fuck!
After a good drink of water I found myself between her legs and went to work on both her pussy and her ass with my tongue and fingers until she exploded in a HUGE orgasm. She then wanted me from behind, so I slid my cock in her pussy and a finger in her ass until she drained me again. It was a wonderful evening!
Anyway, I kinda got off the subject, but my point is I have always known she enjoys ass play, but she wasn't convinced she enjoyed it. It is still a work in progress using only fingers and a tongue, and she is now asking for me to play with her ass when we fuck. I want to bring some small toys into play and then my cock, but this is going completely at her pace. It is opening up another aspect to her, and our, sexuality and I believe she is beginning to think of her sexy little asshole as more of an sex organ than just a part of her body, and definitely not a part to be avoided during sex.
Your wife sounds a lot like mine, so give her the time that she needs and you'll probably be paid back in spades! Best of luck.
When my wife and I first started dating about five years ago she let me fuck her several times, but she later told me she got nothing from it and only did it for me. I would always try to play with and or lick her asshole when I would go down on her, but the response was always almost always the same, "get away from my ass." But sometimes it would be different, after I've been going down on her for 5-10 minutes, sucking on her clit and fingereing her, I would get a finger very wet and slip it into her ass before or during her orgasm. She sure didn't try to stop me and it was obvious she really enjoyed it.
Over these past five years or so she has let me fuck her ass several times, again, just doing it for me. A couple of years ago she was even initiating it saying she needed practice, but quickly made it off limits again for no apparent reason. I too have always suspected that she really enjoys anal play, but has a psychological hang up and doesn't want to let herself enjoy it. Very rarely she would slip a lubed finger in my ass while going down on me, but again, she's never been real comfortable with this. I have purchased Sinclair's anal sex DVD, Tristan's anal sex book, etc. all in an attempt to make her feel mentally at ease with anal play.
Several weeks ago we talked about it, mind you, this is so far like a five year process for me, so I'm taqking my time. I told her I could understand he not wanting to have my cock in her ass, but I simply couldn't understand why she wouldn't let me lick her asshole, I said that couldn't possibly hurt. She agreed to try to be more opn about ass play and so far it has been fantastic. I am always rimming her during oral sex and fingering her ass during oral and vaginal sex, it's obvious she is enjoying it and becoming much more comfortable with it.
A couple of weeks ago I was on my back and she was on my left side going down on me. While she was expertly sucking my cock I was playing with her pussy first with one and then two fingers, I then pulled a finger out and slipped it into her ass for a bit of finger double penetration. She gives the most incredible blow jobs and enjoys using her hands, which drives me crazy as well. She grabbed a the lube, lubed up a couple of fingers and started playing with my ass and then slipped a finger in for a bit of prostate stimulation. It was incredible, she was fucking my ass with one hand, jacking me off and playing with my balls with the other and giving me one of her best blow jobs ever while I have one finger in her very wet pussy and another going in and out of her ass. All this and her moaning with her mouth full of my cock just drove me over the edge and I must have cum close to a gallon. She just continued to drain me and finger fucking my ass until I made her stop...I just couldn't take it anymore! This is rare for me as I never cum in her mouth unless it's "just a blow job" and we both wanted to fuck!
After a good drink of water I found myself between her legs and went to work on both her pussy and her ass with my tongue and fingers until she exploded in a HUGE orgasm. She then wanted me from behind, so I slid my cock in her pussy and a finger in her ass until she drained me again. It was a wonderful evening!
Anyway, I kinda got off the subject, but my point is I have always known she enjoys ass play, but she wasn't convinced she enjoyed it. It is still a work in progress using only fingers and a tongue, and she is now asking for me to play with her ass when we fuck. I want to bring some small toys into play and then my cock, but this is going completely at her pace. It is opening up another aspect to her, and our, sexuality and I believe she is beginning to think of her sexy little asshole as more of an sex organ than just a part of her body, and definitely not a part to be avoided during sex.
Your wife sounds a lot like mine, so give her the time that she needs and you'll probably be paid back in spades! Best of luck.
Hi emmagee! Much of your story sounds similar to experiences with my wife. I had always wanted to try anal, there was time in our 2nd year of being together that she asked me if I wanted to try, which of course I jumped at the chance! Since then, though, it has been up to me to initiate and I still get mixed signals from her concerning anal play. She usually seems fine with rimming and fingers, I try not to push for anal sex too often, and I heard from her, as you did from your wife that "she got nothing from it and only did it for me". This was disheartening but better than an outright kibosh on further anal sex adventures. We are finishing up our 4th year together, we are still going at her pace, but perhaps in the 5th she will gain a bit more confidence and curiosity sexually and ass play will become more common.
Oh and she flipped out the one time I asked her to finger my ass... that was quite embarrassing.
Oh and she flipped out the one time I asked her to finger my ass... that was quite embarrassing.
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It's great that you want to take this slow so as not to distress your wife. Anal play is one of those subjects that lots of people have hang-ups about, so I agree with all the good advice you've been given about holding her close afterwards and making sure she knows you love her and think she's really sexy.
I would also recommend reading through the how-to story in this link --> http://english.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=82247
Inserting a finger is very, very different from a penis, so as you progress with your explorations it's a good idea to really understand how to make the experience a good one for her.
Good luck!
I would also recommend reading through the how-to story in this link --> http://english.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=82247
Inserting a finger is very, very different from a penis, so as you progress with your explorations it's a good idea to really understand how to make the experience a good one for her.
Good luck!
Filling_KK
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Emmagee, that sounds like my wife; in fact, I could have written that verbatim! Best of luck to you, I'm so thankful my wife is *finally* enjoying ass play.
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As I mentioned previously my wife enjoys but doesn`t like to talk about anal sex and as you say there is always some doubt as to whether they are enjoying it.
For me and most of the other men`s posts I have read, enjoyment for your partner is the key to our enjoyment as well.
Anyway what I discovered was that when you do have anal sex if you can get your wife to sit astride you, thus giving her full control, you can watch her face as penetration takes place, if my wife is anything to go by, there is absolutely no doubt that she loves it even if she wont admit it. I now ask her to look me straight in the eyes as I don`t want to miss one second of the beautiful look on her face. This is a compliment she can`t really ignore. I find her expression of complete pleasure equal to, if not better than when she orgasms.
Anyway just a thought, you seem to have everything under control.
Oh Yeah, my wife has gone from "You can fuck me in the arse (aussie spelling) if you want" .
To "I WANT you to fuck me in the arse" This too has taken many years, amazing how patient a bloke can be if he thinks there is the slightest chance of something sexual.
For me and most of the other men`s posts I have read, enjoyment for your partner is the key to our enjoyment as well.
Anyway what I discovered was that when you do have anal sex if you can get your wife to sit astride you, thus giving her full control, you can watch her face as penetration takes place, if my wife is anything to go by, there is absolutely no doubt that she loves it even if she wont admit it. I now ask her to look me straight in the eyes as I don`t want to miss one second of the beautiful look on her face. This is a compliment she can`t really ignore. I find her expression of complete pleasure equal to, if not better than when she orgasms.
Anyway just a thought, you seem to have everything under control.
Oh Yeah, my wife has gone from "You can fuck me in the arse (aussie spelling) if you want" .
To "I WANT you to fuck me in the arse" This too has taken many years, amazing how patient a bloke can be if he thinks there is the slightest chance of something sexual.
Filling_KK
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Glad it's working for you, quoll; I long for the day she asks me to fuck her ass.
A few weeks ago I was fucking her from behind, I always slip a finger in her ass when we fuck, no matter what position we're in. I love it, but it almost makes me want to cum on the spot both from the mental aspect and I can feel my cock sliding in and out of her pussy through the thin membrane between her rectum and vagina; it takes a lot of self control on my part. In any case, I was fucking her vaginally from behind and I grabbed a small, about 1" diameter vibrator and slowly worked it into her ass and began giving her a DP. She really enjoyed and I did as well, but feeling those intense vibrations and the vibe going in and out in rhythm with me put me over the edge quicker than I would have liked! I'm sure the fact that she had had several glasses of wine prior to this didn't hurt matters since I don't know if she would have let this happen other wise.
We've tried actual penetration with my cock several times, the last time was about a month ago. She says it doesn't hurt, I've got an average size cock, so that helps, but she seems to concentrate so much on relaxing that she really has yet to enjoy true anal sex. I think if she would give her clit some stimulation that would help, but she says she wants to concentrate on relaxing. I'm giving her time and praying for the day she asks me to go for her ass, I jsut think it's one of the most erotic things a couple can do.
A few weeks ago I was fucking her from behind, I always slip a finger in her ass when we fuck, no matter what position we're in. I love it, but it almost makes me want to cum on the spot both from the mental aspect and I can feel my cock sliding in and out of her pussy through the thin membrane between her rectum and vagina; it takes a lot of self control on my part. In any case, I was fucking her vaginally from behind and I grabbed a small, about 1" diameter vibrator and slowly worked it into her ass and began giving her a DP. She really enjoyed and I did as well, but feeling those intense vibrations and the vibe going in and out in rhythm with me put me over the edge quicker than I would have liked! I'm sure the fact that she had had several glasses of wine prior to this didn't hurt matters since I don't know if she would have let this happen other wise.
We've tried actual penetration with my cock several times, the last time was about a month ago. She says it doesn't hurt, I've got an average size cock, so that helps, but she seems to concentrate so much on relaxing that she really has yet to enjoy true anal sex. I think if she would give her clit some stimulation that would help, but she says she wants to concentrate on relaxing. I'm giving her time and praying for the day she asks me to go for her ass, I jsut think it's one of the most erotic things a couple can do.
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Filling_KK
From what you say it certainly seems that at worst she doesn`t mind and at best likes but won`t admit.
She is used to you using a finger all the time and I presume she doesn`t tell you to stop so next time she will be expecting more of the same, but this time!
Tease, Tease, Tease, Get her as hot as you can, lick her clit, keep her on the edge as long as you can, lick and touch her arse, no penetration, just keep hinting that you might do something, just by your touches and caresses.
As I`m sure you know, the outside of the anus is extremely sensitive and it produces feelings that cry out for much more, but don`t give her any penetration unless you get some indication from her, probably pushing back on your fingers or if you are lucky a verbal indication.
Be patient, make sure you have plenty of time, this should all be about her, not you.
When you do fuck her arse use the vibe on her clit if you think that will help her relax.
I think a lot of the relaxation comes from the woman accepting that she truly does want this.
Ladies feel free to correct me on anything I have written this is just from my experience, you are the ones at the pointy end
so to speak.
BTW I know what you mean about self control, when my wife asked me to fuck her arse that first time the night was nearly over then and there.
Good Luck, Lick, Love,Lube
Man I hope what I wrote was good I am a tad tired after a 14hr day, but some things are just too important.
From what you say it certainly seems that at worst she doesn`t mind and at best likes but won`t admit.
She is used to you using a finger all the time and I presume she doesn`t tell you to stop so next time she will be expecting more of the same, but this time!
Tease, Tease, Tease, Get her as hot as you can, lick her clit, keep her on the edge as long as you can, lick and touch her arse, no penetration, just keep hinting that you might do something, just by your touches and caresses.
As I`m sure you know, the outside of the anus is extremely sensitive and it produces feelings that cry out for much more, but don`t give her any penetration unless you get some indication from her, probably pushing back on your fingers or if you are lucky a verbal indication.
Be patient, make sure you have plenty of time, this should all be about her, not you.
When you do fuck her arse use the vibe on her clit if you think that will help her relax.
I think a lot of the relaxation comes from the woman accepting that she truly does want this.
Ladies feel free to correct me on anything I have written this is just from my experience, you are the ones at the pointy end
so to speak.BTW I know what you mean about self control, when my wife asked me to fuck her arse that first time the night was nearly over then and there.
Good Luck, Lick, Love,Lube
Man I hope what I wrote was good I am a tad tired after a 14hr day, but some things are just too important.
crazybbwgirl
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This thread is making me horny.......
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Just kinda breezed the last couple o' posts, but would like to interject a couple of thoughts.
I wouldn't recommend a vibrator/toy. With toys, unlike using your fingers, there's a lack of feeling (for you) and you might end up doing something that she finds uncomfortable. This can kind of kill the moment and may make her more apprehensive about anal play.
I would work up to more fingers. Once you can get three in there regularly, you know she's pretty relaxed about it, probably enough that she can take your cock. That doesn't mean she will yet. It's just a "gauge" about how relaxed with anal play she is.
Make sure you build her up and give her great orgasms while playing with her ass. The idea her is to associate good feelings with anal play, thus opening her up to it more.
On the occasions where I've had anal sex, we didn't really talk about it. It was more of a knock on the door and see how she responded type of situation. That way no pressure to perform and she is comfortable rejecting you.(without killing the mood)
The most important part is that once you get her to try it, make sure she enjoys it. go slow, keep it lubed, and continue to pay attention to her clit. If she leaves the experience with mind blowing orgasmic memories, she'll be much more likely to try again in the future.
I guess what I'm saying is positive reinforcment is key.
I wouldn't recommend a vibrator/toy. With toys, unlike using your fingers, there's a lack of feeling (for you) and you might end up doing something that she finds uncomfortable. This can kind of kill the moment and may make her more apprehensive about anal play.
I would work up to more fingers. Once you can get three in there regularly, you know she's pretty relaxed about it, probably enough that she can take your cock. That doesn't mean she will yet. It's just a "gauge" about how relaxed with anal play she is.
Make sure you build her up and give her great orgasms while playing with her ass. The idea her is to associate good feelings with anal play, thus opening her up to it more.
On the occasions where I've had anal sex, we didn't really talk about it. It was more of a knock on the door and see how she responded type of situation. That way no pressure to perform and she is comfortable rejecting you.(without killing the mood)
The most important part is that once you get her to try it, make sure she enjoys it. go slow, keep it lubed, and continue to pay attention to her clit. If she leaves the experience with mind blowing orgasmic memories, she'll be much more likely to try again in the future.
I guess what I'm saying is positive reinforcment is key.
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crazybbwgirl said:
Uh oh! we can't have that!
I just wanted to pop in and thank everyone for all the great replies. I have been so busy latley, pulling 13 and 14 hour days, that I haven't had much time for sex, much less time to get in here and update.
Ayways, things are progressing well I suppose. My wife seems pretty comfortable when I finger her ass, she almost seems to expect it now. A week or so ago, after she had come 3 or 4 times she let me rub my cock between her asscheeks, and after massaging her asshole with my cock for a while she let me try to slide it in. I think she is still a bit too tight, and while she didn't object, I am not sure she enjoyed it either. I only got about an inch in her, which was fun, but then she wanted me to get it out and I obliged.
Looking forward to next time; we have both been so busy who knows when that will be!
Christina O. Leigh
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I got so turned on when reading how you went down on her, I had to reply!
In my marriage, my husband would do the same thing. He started licking my ass, as well as my pussy, trying anal but he was too large. I was only 24 at the time and it almost killed me. But I absolutely loved the ass play. Tickling with his tongue, all around, up and down, in and out. Oh yeah! I loved it!!
Now in my mid 30's, divorced and moved on with someone else, my new b/f of now 5 years doesn't even want to go near my ass. It's hard enough trying to get him to eat me out. No, I take that back. He does but I feel like I have to teach him. I'm his 3rd woman he's ever been with and he's 44, so he's not very experienced. I have brought this up to him- about anal sex and it's "No way!". No lick, no tickle! (me growls). Now that I'm older, I want more of everything! I'm really open-minded and he's not.
So....
You're lucky!!! I bet a mill she'll ask for that cock of yours on her own. She likes the finger, the licks but then later says it's gross. One of these nights, she might just grab that moisture seeking monster missle and plunge it deep inside her tight ass. I wish you all the luck! Wish me luck too!!
In my marriage, my husband would do the same thing. He started licking my ass, as well as my pussy, trying anal but he was too large. I was only 24 at the time and it almost killed me. But I absolutely loved the ass play. Tickling with his tongue, all around, up and down, in and out. Oh yeah! I loved it!!
Now in my mid 30's, divorced and moved on with someone else, my new b/f of now 5 years doesn't even want to go near my ass. It's hard enough trying to get him to eat me out. No, I take that back. He does but I feel like I have to teach him. I'm his 3rd woman he's ever been with and he's 44, so he's not very experienced. I have brought this up to him- about anal sex and it's "No way!". No lick, no tickle! (me growls). Now that I'm older, I want more of everything! I'm really open-minded and he's not.
So....
You're lucky!!! I bet a mill she'll ask for that cock of yours on her own. She likes the finger, the licks but then later says it's gross. One of these nights, she might just grab that moisture seeking monster missle and plunge it deep inside her tight ass. I wish you all the luck! Wish me luck too!!
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Damn, I need to go masterbate now!!
indigoboy
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Christina O. Leigh said:
Sorry to hear about that- I for one can sympathize with your frustration.
So....
You're lucky!!! I bet a mill she'll ask for that cock of yours on her own. She likes the finger, the licks but then later says it's gross. One of these nights, she might just grab that moisture seeking monster missle and plunge it deep inside her tight ass. I wish you all the luck! Wish me luck too!!
Lets hope so! Good luck!
Christina O. Leigh
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Nah, I don't need luck with that.
Masterbation is easy for me. Better than any man. (no offense all)
I do it better myself
Masterbation is easy for me. Better than any man. (no offense all)
I do it better myself
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Half the turn-on of anal play is that it is so taboo. A lot of women believe that butts are "dirty" and "gross" and actually feel dirty and gross for liking it. I happen to be one of those lucky women who discovered I like anal on my own with the help of a dildo. It was pretty shocking to realize, "Holy shit, I like anal sex!" A lot of women enjoy it, but abstain, believing it to be something best reserved for sluts.
I would recommend purchasing a good silicone or water based lube, and then when things are getting heated next, put a hold on it. Tell her you'd like to explore anal play a little more. Tell her you love how she reacted last time, and love how it makes her come. Start a dialogue.
Hell, while you're starting a dialogue, start giving her a back massage. Work your way down her back (make it a thorough massage-- she needs to relax completely), and then start massaging her ass. Work your fingers gradually over her sphincter, so you're stroking the outside of her anus with NO pressure. Keep doing that with one hand and rubbing her lower back/ass with the other and talking to her until she starts to become acclimated to your touch and relaxes. From there, you can lubricate your fingers or just use your tongue. Works like a charm. At least, it did on my fiance
P.S. thanks for not being one of those guys who tries to slip it in while she's drunk like she won't notice and then whines, "My wife doesnt like anal." If you do it wrong, it's incredibly painful. There are 4 ingredients to successful anal: trust, trust, relaxation, and lube.
Good luck!
I would recommend purchasing a good silicone or water based lube, and then when things are getting heated next, put a hold on it. Tell her you'd like to explore anal play a little more. Tell her you love how she reacted last time, and love how it makes her come. Start a dialogue.
Hell, while you're starting a dialogue, start giving her a back massage. Work your way down her back (make it a thorough massage-- she needs to relax completely), and then start massaging her ass. Work your fingers gradually over her sphincter, so you're stroking the outside of her anus with NO pressure. Keep doing that with one hand and rubbing her lower back/ass with the other and talking to her until she starts to become acclimated to your touch and relaxes. From there, you can lubricate your fingers or just use your tongue. Works like a charm. At least, it did on my fiance
P.S. thanks for not being one of those guys who tries to slip it in while she's drunk like she won't notice and then whines, "My wife doesnt like anal." If you do it wrong, it's incredibly painful. There are 4 ingredients to successful anal: trust, trust, relaxation, and lube.
Good luck!
Sounds like its going well mate!
My GF was very similar, saying she hated the sound of it, but then soon after liking a finger in and around her ass!
Wanking my cock onto her anus was a good stepping stone to getting in there too. Shooting my load on her anus as she was close to coming is great too!
she doesn't like it getting licked, but who am I too complain when she lets me fuck it?!
My GF was very similar, saying she hated the sound of it, but then soon after liking a finger in and around her ass!
Wanking my cock onto her anus was a good stepping stone to getting in there too. Shooting my load on her anus as she was close to coming is great too!
she doesn't like it getting licked, but who am I too complain when she lets me fuck it?!
