I think my wife is anal-curious, but won't admit it.

[indigoboy]

My wife has always said that she has no interest in *anything* anal, and so I have never really pressed the issue with her since she always seemed to have such a resolute opinion about it. But a month or so ago, after we had gone out and she was quite drunk, I was going down on her and started licking her asshole- and she really seemed to like it! So that piqued my interest a little bit- and I have to admit it mad *me* curious. (Unlike most guys I know, I have never been all that worried about anal sex.)

Later on, in the course of conversations about sex, she again mentioned how awful she thought anal must be.

Last night, after some more drinks, I was gong down on her again and as I was licking her clit and fingering her pussy with my index finger, I started applying some pressure to her ass with my middle finger- and much to my surprise she loved it! She started rocking her ass onto my finger, back and forth, slowly taking my finger into her ass. She seemed to really be getting into it, but at some point she said "Get your finger out of my ass!" So I obliged her, but I didn't remove my finger from the area, and in less than a minute she was rubbing her ass on the end of my finger again, slowly taking it back into her. I removed it and she took it back again 3 or 4 times. She was bucking her hips and her ass all around, and my finger was buried in her as far as it could go. She was assfucking my finger for probably 20 minutes or longer. It certainly wasn't an accident, and she had *plenty* of opportunities to stop if she really didn't enjoy it. But she did, and her actions and her moans are proof enough for me.

Of course, after I pulled it out for the last time, she went back to her old demeanor and protested the fact that I had dared touch her tight little asshole- to which I replied - "You seemed to be enjoying it!" We went on to have some good ol' vanilla sex, and afterwards she protested again, (she doth protest to much!) and again I told her how much she seemed to like it. She said I was "gross."

Afterwards, she seemed more cuddly that usual, and even this morning she seemed to be in a better mood. I must admit I went to sleep with a raging hardon, and I woke up with one, and it hasn't gone away.. I am so horny I could burst right now!

So anyways, I think she likes me to play with her ass, and in that cased I am much more curious to try anal sex, but I am pretty certain that if I were to bring it up in the course of conversation, she would protest again. I will probably just keep working at her...

Ladies, what do you think? Do you think she is putting up a front? How do you think I can overcome it?

Thanks!

 

[Tat2mom]

I'm sure she liked it BUT it's still new to her and she may be a bit embarrassed about it. I know it took me a few yrs to go from anal play to anal sex. My thought would be to not make a big deal out of it to her and just let her go at her own pace. Like with this, she didn't ask you to do it she just went with it. Try it again sometime and sooner or later she may build up to more. Let her bring it up if she wants to talk about it.

 

[pandoravampire]

Looks like anal

For what its worth, i think your handling the whole situation with descretion, and sensitivity.
She's clearly not quite at the level where she can admit her penchant for this, but seems to be thoroughly enjoying your exploits (arent females a funny breed eh?) so just play the game, go slow, go lubed and for gods sake go read something about anal before you make the mistake that as she can take your tongue and finger, your cock's not a lot different. If she needs to pretend that she doesnt know what your doing, then just go with that for now.
good luck

 

[SmilinAngel]

I agree with both the above replies. Let me give you a little personal experience, though. When I first started having sex, I had NO interest in anal - I thought it was gross. But, after reading some of the stuff on here and hearing things from my friends, I'm curious, but my fiance still says that he has no interest. If he had started trying to, I probably would be embarrassed - after making such a big deal about it before - and act like I didn't like it. But, if he would let me feel like I was trying it for *him* and then, while trying it for *him* that I began to like it, it would be okay since I only had tried it at first for him, and could now be allowed to like it ... does that make sense? I mean, I'm pretty open with sex, but since I mad such a big deal of not wanting to try it, I would feel weird asking him to try it. So, my advice, tell her that you are curious and tell her that you would really like to try it, and even though you know she isn't interested, ask if she would try it *just for you* - to satisfy *your* curiosity. I hope this helps. Good luck!

 

[SweetErika]

Sounds like you're doing a good job, and I'd follow the advice of not making a big deal of it. She might be feeling guilty about liking it or thinking that admitting that she likes it will lower your opinion of her.

Maybe it's just me, but I was more comfortable getting into anal play with toys as opposed to body parts. If you don't have one, get a small vibe that can be used for genital as well as anal stimulation. Then try substituting it for your finger while you go down on her. She might feel better about it, and it could be a good introduction to other activities.

Good luck!

 

[TSNick]

Wow,the way you described that was hot.

Anyways,I'd try to talk her over with it,Or wait until she brings the issue forward to you.

 

[Celtia]

sounds like she wants it, but has hang ups about it.

anal play CAN feel good. My SO is not into it at all, either, but I notice his hands moving to my butt a lot more (nowhere near the anus, but by the crack, which is closer than they used to get) so I think he's curious, but won't admit it.

You're doing a good job, keep it up!

 

[wicked woman]

Sounds like the difference between listening to her mind and her body...as others have said...just keep doing as you're doing...progressing a bit...respecting her when she says to back off...and just take it a bit at a time. Enjoy.

 

[Lynxie]

I'm not going to be redundant - I agree with the advice everyone's given so far. But I am going to request that you keep posting your progress with your wife! I'm sure I'm not the only one who would love to read more about how her curiosity progresses

 

[indigoboy]

My thought would be to not make a big deal out of it to her and just let her go at her own pace. Like with this, she didn't ask you to do it she just went with it. Try it again sometime and sooner or later she may build up to more.

That is pretty much how I thought I would handle it. I don't want to scare her away from it, but I don't think I will give up either. I wonder how much of her response is due to the liquor? (she never really seems *that* drunk... but I can't help but wonder if she would protest *more* when she hadn't been drinking.)

 

[indigoboy]

pandoravampire said:

For what its worth, i think your handling the whole situation with descretion, and sensitivity.
She's clearly not quite at the level where she can admit her penchant for this, but seems to be thoroughly enjoying your exploits (arent females a funny breed eh?) so just play the game, go slow, go lubed and for gods sake go read something about anal before you make the mistake that as she can take your tongue and finger, your cock's not a lot different. If she needs to pretend that she doesnt know what your doing, then just go with that for now.
good luck

Thanks for the kind wishes! I have been doing a bit of research today, so perhaps I can report back in a little while!

 

[indigoboy]

Smilinangel said:

I'm pretty open with sex, but since I mad such a big deal of not wanting to try it, I would feel weird asking him to try it. So, my advice, tell her that you are curious and tell her that you would really like to try it, and even though you know she isn't interested,

I think this might be what is happening here. She has always made such a big deal about it, I think maybe she feels guilty about liking it or wanting to try it. She has told me on a few occaisions that hse has had anal dreams, although that was immediately followed with "It was so weird because I have *no* interest in doing that!" sort of statements.

 

[indigoboy]

SweetErika:

If you don't have one, get a small vibe that can be used for genital as well as anal stimulation.

I think something that deliberate would scare her. She is sexually reluctant- she doesn't like going into porn/adult stores, and certainly won't let me have any toys, even though she has some of her own.

For right now, I think I will try to use the tools at hand until she gets more comfortable.

Thanks for the advice though!

 

[indigoboy]

TSNick said:

Wow,the way you described that was hot.

Hehe, thanks, I guess! Maybe I should write a story...

 

[indigoboy]

Celtia said:

You're doing a good job, keep it up!

hehe, will do! believe me!

and wicked woman said:

Enjoy.

I plan on it.

 

[indigoboy]

Lynxie said:

But I am going to request that you keep posting your progress with your wife! I'm sure I'm not the only one who would love to read more about how her curiosity progresses

Will do! I really appreciate all the replies I have received! Thanks!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

That is pretty much how I thought I would handle it. I don't want to scare her away from it, but I don't think I will give up either. I wonder how much of her response is due to the liquor? (she never really seems *that* drunk... but I can't help but wonder if she would protest *more* when she hadn't been drinking.)

Personally I think anal sex IS better with a bit of a buzz. Just enough to help me relax really well. Plus, maybe in her mind she can tell herself 'well - it was just the booze' and that might make it easier for her. It's hard. Often women are taught that enjoying sex is wrong - and enjoying 'kinky' sex is REALLY wrong.

Actually, the man who taught me to enjoy anal sex got me very drunk one nite - ahhh - but that's another story.......

 

[SweetErika]

I think something that deliberate would scare her. She is sexually reluctant- she doesn't like going into porn/adult stores, and certainly won't let me have any toys, even though she has some of her own.

For right now, I think I will try to use the tools at hand until she gets more comfortable.

Thanks for the advice though!

I didn't mean to suggest you ask her or go buy anal toys. We just started play with a couple of the vibes we already had...he'd use it on me and slowly slip it down...I'm not sure I could really tell what was happening, just that it felt incredible. I just thought your wife might object less to something that wasn't as personal, and the vibration makes what's going on a little less obvious, so she might be able to enjoy it more without the mental block.

 

[Tat2mom]

That is pretty much how I thought I would handle it. I don't want to scare her away from it, but I don't think I will give up either. I wonder how much of her response is due to the liquor? (she never really seems *that* drunk... but I can't help but wonder if she would protest *more* when she hadn't been drinking.)

I always had to be drunk before trying something new. LOL Now I've done it all (mostly) so I don't have to drink beforehand. Hey, if that's what it takes for her to be comfortable let her have a few drinks first. JUst make sure even if she's drunk to be careful and not go to far. Let her make the decision. I said never ever to anal sex till I was trashed one night and decided to try. Now I don't need alcohol to do it. LIke I said before, just go with what she is letting you do for now. Enjoy it and make it as pleasurable as you can for her.

 

[Seakla]

It's hard. Often women are taught that enjoying sex is wrong - and enjoying 'kinky' sex is REALLY wrong.

Exactly! There have been times I have simultaneously thought "oh, this is wrong....but it feels so good!" LOL

I have had anal sex before. Losing your virginity the "normal" way can hurt...but nothing compared to anal. It is not meant to recieve that big of an object and it is a tight little squeeze. I STRONGLY reccommend baby oil, vaseline of sex oils for the first time...an even all the times after that.

It does sound like she is curious and if she liked the finger she might like going all the way. But take it slowly and let her handle it her own way. You could bring up topics every now and then like and mention people you know that have had anal sex or even try to get her to watch a video of it.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

psst..... you really shouldn't put baby oil or vaseline in your ass. Or your vagina either for that matter. Not good for those delicate tissues. Any good lube will work just fine......

 

[BigDogCST]

so how are things going?

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

psst..... you really shouldn't put baby oil or vaseline in your ass. Or your vagina either for that matter. Not good for those delicate tissues. Any good lube will work just fine......

Gotta agree with CBBW here, my personal lube of choice is Astroglide for anal (and any other kind of play) but any commercially sold lubericant should work, just make sure it's water-based or it could be quite uncomfertable.

-Zergplex

 

[indigoboy]

no news

so how are things going?

No news really. We haven't had sex since last weekend; she's been sick. Hopefully I will have something to report soon.

 

[indigoboy]

update!

Well, my wife had a bit of a cold, enough to keep her out of the mood for the past week and a half. She finally got over it, and I got a chance to get back to work.

We had to go to a social event the other night. She didn't have anything she wanted to wear, so I told her to go buy a cocktail dress... well she came home with a dress, stockings, a garter belt, and some new heels.

We went to the reception, and left as soon as possible. As soon as we got home we both stripped... I think the wine had quite an effect. As soon as she got out of her dress and I saw the garter belt I started getting hard; for some reason I find stockings and garters ultra-sexy. I coaxed her into bed, and started rubbing her pussy through her new undies, and I laid with my head at the foot of the bed while she laid opposite me. I pulled her towards me and pulled her lacy thong aside and started licking her right then and there.

Eventually we rearranged and got her out of her underwear.. if her panties hadn't been trapped by her garter belt I would have loved to fuck her in her stockings.... anyway, I started eating her out and she got really wet. I took my time, making sure everything was nice and wet, and started toying with her asshole again. She didn't say anything, she just went with it!

Normally, she declines to let me get her off when I go down on her, because she prefers to get off from actual sex. She tends to protest when she feels like she is going to come... But I was having such a good time I stayed down there, and after a while she started talking dirty, which is a real first for her! I was licking her clit and sliding my tongue in and out of her, with my middle finger slowly sliding into her asshole. She started saying stuff like "Eat that pussy!" and "Oh fuck! Make me come" and at the same time she grabbed my head and started grinding her pussy into my face. A few seconds later she orgasmed, bucking her hips and clenching down on my finger.

After a few secongs I started licking her again and she was still squirming from her first orgasm, but she got back into it soon enough. After abotu 10 or 15 mintues of me eating her out and fingering her ass, she had another monster orgasm. It was great!

After that, I went and washed my hands, and when I came back into the bedroom I got her to go down on me for a little while. She used to go down on me all the time, but not very much lately (even though she became quite an expert at deepthroating me.) I convinced her to lay her head off the side of the bed, and she let me fuck her face that way. I have never had a blowjob standing up in that position, so it was exciting in that respect and the sensation was undescribable!

She tired of that position pretty quickly, so I laid her back and we started fucking. I started by licking and biting her nipple, then working my way up her body as I penetrated her. We started slow at first getting into a comfortable and familiar position, until she slowly started working towards a breathless climax, her third for the evening.

*I* was tired by this point, so I laid back and got her to sit on top. She was pretty tired too, but after a few minutes she got more interested, and started grinding herself onto my cock. Then she started bouncing like a madwoman, and came AGAIN at the same time I did. That made FOUR orgasms for one session, which was a new record for her! I was very proud, both of her and of myself.

It was seriously some of the best sex we have ever had, and it MORE than made up for the lack of from the previous week.

I know I digressed a bit from the original topic, but aside from the great sex it was intriguing and exciting that she didn't protest *at all* about the anal play this time. She did mention it later, in a joking mood but at the same time trying to call me out for it... I just told her she seemed to like.

She said: "I don't like it *that* much."

Yeah right!