I think my mother in-law

[wolf72]

I think my mother in-law has the hots for me. She all of a sudden started to wear pretty revailing shrits when she knows that I'm going to be around. She bend over in front of me and I get a good look at her Bra. She is also touch my back or my arm when every she gets a chance. What sould I do. She pretty hot.

 

[Bobmi357]

Your Mother in Law right? DO NOTHING!

Its quite simple, you mess with her and you risk divorce, the wrath of your wife and her father.

 

[wolf72]

That's what I figured I would do. I will just enjoy the view. What if she makes a move on to me? Should I do some thong back or just drop it.

 

[bobsgirl]

My best advice would be, in addition to leaving her alone, make sure you are never ever alone with her unless she gets over this ridiculous behavior.

 

[NaughtyLil1]

Ask if she would like to join you and your wife for a 3some. J/K

Maybe she's just testing you to see how far she can push your buttons or maybe she's looking for attention.

If I were you, I would just ignore her and hopefully she will stop.

Good luck, dude!

 

[incognito989]

make sure you are never ever alone with her unless she gets over this ridiculous behavior.

I'd go one step further than that if she does truly have the hots for you.. Stay away whenever possible and don't be around her at all. Out of sight, out of mind, all that.

Course, maybe she's just comfortable with you now and is dressing how she likes to dress, rather than dressing to impress? The hand on the back thing isn't a smoking gun - hell, my ex-in-law would do that, and I'm quite sure that she didn't want that. Was just a touchy feely type.

Wouldn't you feel silly if it was all in your head? Double think it and make sure that you're correct - look for more concrete signs than just what you've mentioned.

 

[cyberski]

What sould I do. She pretty hot.

Send her HERE

 

[FlashRed]

lucky guy to possibly have mother & daughter..or about to have your balls chopped off and fed to you..tough call..

 

[cyberski]

I wanna change my post

Send her to my house instead.
Yup, that's the correct answer to the whole problem

 

[wolf72]

She has never done any of this before. I think my best bet is to not worry about it and see what happens. I try not to be alone with her. I'm not going to start any thing with her.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

The fact that you would even THINK about screwing around on your wife with HER MOTHER shows just what sort of rotten bastard you are. I hope your wife finds out sooner than later.

 

[wolf72]

I not looking to do something with her. She's the one who is starting this. I'm just going to see what happens.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

Your tone implied you were somewhat interested in her advances.

I mean what kind of moron has to ask advice on this subject? The obvious answer was to ignore it or ask her what the fuck is going on and tell her to get lost...because no decent guy would consider responding to the advances no matter how "hot" she was...I mean come on, this is common sense...at least if you actually want your marriage to last for any time period!

 

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[ReadyOne]

I seem to hear a lot of the same line from many of the regulars around here, but I'm not one to instantly slam the door, especially until I know more about things.

If my MIL was hitting on me, first thing I'd do is feel out my spouse about it. She and I talk well, and I'm sure she wouldn't race off in a mad huff to her mother and start bitching.

Instead she'd appreciate my sharing the problem and we'd together agree on a strategy to do any fixing that was needed. Perhaps the line of acceptable behavior isn't as prim and problem as everyone seems to think it should be in a good victorian society...

It might be enough for SO to talk to MIL and drop a gentle hint. If if keeps up, you could follow up with MIL saying that SO knows what's going on and has agreed not to do anything if MIL backs off.

Having SO aware of MILs actions will help control any situtation that comes up later, for example MIL is hitting on you when SO or FIL walks in and MIL tries to blame you. You'll have SO on your side, having worked out a response and stuck to it.

As, I didn't hear if there is a FIL here, and if so, how would he react to his wife hitting on you?

I've seen several couples where that wouldn't be an issue between them as they would already have agrees to some limit. It could be MIL flurting only, no skin on skin, or even "what ever daughter will allow" with the implicit assumption that SO won't let things get very far. Note that puts the focus back to how your SO feels about things.

Communication with SO can solve a lot of problems. The thing is to not be going behind anyone's back.

You and MIL might be allowed some very heavy flurting, which could be lots of fun for both of you. MIL might even be great fantasy material with SO.

I'm saying there are other possible things that will work out without you having to be chaperoned in MIL's presence.

Again, you may decide to go behind someone's back. The problems with cheating have been well discussed, and there are some who never have to face a problem from it -- just don't plan on being one of them.

There's also the possability that calling MIL's bluff or pushing past her limit might bring things back to center. If you've talked to SO and still have a problem, then go ahead and put the full court press on MIL and see if she get scared and backs out. This worked well for me several times with females who just testing their limits.

You could arange with SO to set MIL up and try to embarress her into keeping within a limit acceptable to everyone. Get to the heavy petting stage or how ever far your SO will allow for this, and then let SO catch you. SO can just give you a curt "we are going to talk" and then turn attention to MIL and get her to agree to modify her behavior.

(Then SO can drag you off to your room, or send MIL home and then you and SO can have some hot sex talking to each other about MIL!)

 

[wolf72]

I think readyOne has a good idea. I'll talk with my SO and see if we can set up my MIL. Because I know my wife would just love to embarress the Hell out of her mother. As far as my FIL consirded I don't think he would care. I Will let you know what happens.

 

[lovechild27]

Maybe she is wearing low cut shirts because she got a sudden rush of confidence. Maybe she is touching your arm to be friendly in a nonsexual way....

there are a million explanations for her behavior, most of them not sexual. I think a lot of this is in your head.

 

[complicity]

I seem to hear a lot of the same line from many of the regulars around here, but I'm not one to instantly slam the door, especially until I know more about things....

Again ReadyOne providing the voice of reason! Afternoon R1....

Maybe she is wearing low cut shirts because she got a sudden rush of confidence. Maybe she is touching your arm to be friendly in a nonsexual way....

there are a million explanations for her behavior, most of them not sexual. I think a lot of this is in your head.

...and Lovechild I agree totally that this could all come about by Wolf possibly reading too much into MILs tactile comunication combiled with a shift in her usual dress patterns, and dare I say maybe even a bit of wishful thinking on Wolfs part. My MIL had a very sexy curvaceous body and tended to wear low cut tops during the summer to show off her ample bosom. She too was a very tactile person. In no way at all was any of this aimed at me. But had I been inclined I could have read more into it than there was.

 

[Lou Nuttick]

I think readyOne has a good idea. I'll talk with my SO and see if we can set up my MIL. Because I know my wife would just love to embarress the Hell out of her mother. As far as my FIL consirded I don't think he would care. I Will let you know what happens.

Good plan. I hope the rest of your plan is never to see your mother-in-law again after doing this, because women hold l-o-n-g grudges for even small slights, and this one would not be small.

 

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[ReadyOne]

My point was "Start with your wife". From there, all things flow.

No matter what the posibilities are, he and wife are in this together. Leaving wife out just complicates the problem.

Further, her advice and "read" of the situtation will almost certainly give the correct perspective on the situtation.

Everything else I said was shotguned across the spectrum, trying different perspectives.

I did miss the "innocent" one. I should have considered it; I've been there/done that/didn't understand what I thought was innocent was a problem until it was pointed out to me. Thanks for suggesting it.

 

[asenath]

Maybe she is wearing low cut shirts because she got a sudden rush of confidence. Maybe she is touching your arm to be friendly in a nonsexual way....

there are a million explanations for her behavior, most of them not sexual. I think a lot of this is in your head.

I agree with this. Some guys have overactive imaginations.

 

[ReadyOne]

I think readyOne has a good idea. I'll talk with my SO and see if we can set up my MIL. Because I know my wife would just love to embarress the Hell out of her mother. As far as my FIL consirded I don't think he would care. I Will let you know what happens.

Did you ever get this settlled? Is there a good story here??? !!!

 

[race_1962]

I am curious, how much does your wife and mother in law look alike? How are they different? How old is she?

Would be interesting if she was in her early 40's and a hot body. We all just might find out that your wife is 40 and her mom is in her late 60's. Not as erotic as the former scenario.

 

[damnewc]

Your tone implied you were somewhat interested in her advances.

I mean what kind of moron has to ask advice on this subject? The obvious answer was to ignore it or ask her what the fuck is going on and tell her to get lost...because no decent guy would consider responding to the advances no matter how "hot" she was...I mean come on, this is common sense...at least if you actually want your marriage to last for any time period!

You are being very drastic with this guy. Chill out just a little. I hope his wife finds out too.... but that he tells her. You do not know what kinda marriage they have. Maybe they swing, maybe his MIL is a widow or divorcee...... come on now.

The proper answer would be like..... tell your wife and discuss together the appropriate steps to take. Perhaps you should absolutely shut the whole thing down...... but that is up to you and your wife, together. All sexual decisions of married couples are total property of both parties, period.

Lates not hang this poor guy just because he got on a sexually oriented website to ask advice about a sexual issue. Let's give him good advice.