I think my Daddy has lost interest :( How do I fix this?

[DaddysGirl8530]

My Daddy and I found each other on collarme.com 4 years ago. We have had a beautiful collared relationship with regular D/s sex (at least 1-2x weekly). We got married in April and pregnant shortly thereafter. We have had sex twice since then, both times initiated by me, and he did not orgasm. I feel so hurt and rejected. Why doesn't my Daddy want me anymore? I am young and attractive. I'm still thin and in good shape; you can barely see my baby bump. I went with friends to a party last night (as DD of course) and had a lot of interested suitors (who obviously didn't notice the ring and baby bump, or didn't care), and I politely turned them down...but I'm sad to say I'm starting to become tempted. It is so hard for a baby girl to feel unwanted. All I want is for my Daddy to want me. All I can think is that he must be cheating? Why else would a man turn down sex from his young wife who would happily give him anything his heart desires? I'm so confused. How do I fix this?

 

[RawHumor]

I'm afraid we can't answer your questions. First, I'm sorry for what you're going through.

Sometimes, when a man gets a woman pregnant and they have a baby together, his willingness to top her changes and he gets more protective. Other times, in a sick twist of irony, sometimes a man does lose sexual interest in his wife after they have a baby together. He just sees her differently. I don't know the psychology of it, but I've heard of it happening.

I wish I had magic to tell you how to fix it, but you're the only one who can talk to him about it, and if he won't talk, then either therapy or something more sad and extreme may be required.

 

[cookiecat]

I have to agree with Raw Humor. 4 years of a great relationship and the only thing that's changed is you got married and are pregnant. That's a huge change.

Feeling unwanted is the worst, especially when you've known one way in the past and then it changes. But I'm not sure why the leap has to be he's cheating. Not everything is about pussy.

Your relationship has changed from Daddy / babygirl to husband and pregnant wife. He might have a lot of weird feelings about that. About how this will change the relationship. You've been his focus for 4 years. Now... baby.

How have you guys have dealt with issues in the past - what's the best way to talk to him about it?

 

[Blue]

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[_Necrosomantic_]

Slow down, don't make assumptions before all the pieces are laid bare.

It's easy when we're hurting to look to place blame on each other or search for outside agitators, but often we are just lashing out because we are confused. There is nothing wrong with you physically, I'll put a stop to that line of thinking right now. He doesn't sound to me like the kind of guy who'd marry and conceive a child with someone purely based on aesthetics, he loves you for more than just that. So stop inventing things and vilifying either of you before all the facts are present. It will only serve to make things harder.

Often times, major events in your life can cause people to pull away while they attempt to work things out. This is true for both men and women. More than likely you just need to talk and be honest with each other. If you sit down, put aside the feelings of rejection you currently possess, and he comes out of that shell, you can figure out what's going on and move forward accordingly.

 

[may_I_please]

It's time to communicate with him about how you're feeling

 

[MastersDelight]

When I got pregnant with our first child things seemed to cool off almost over night. He seemed disinterested and withdrawn. Being pregnant I became insecure and hurt. I let it fester for months until it turned into a full blown screaming and crying tantrum demanding why he didn't want me anymore. He talked me down, assured me he still loved me and actually found me even more attractive carrying his child. But the financial stress and worry about becoming a father was destroying him. He wasn't sleeping and was even on anti anxiety medications, which can lower sex drive. We talked, for days, literally. We found comfort in each other again and expressed what it was we needed from each other to feel secure again. I calmed his fears, and he was happy to fulfill my needs to feel close to him again. Please talk to him. Please. It could save your marriage.

 

[Pleasuregiver14]

Fantasy Impromptu

Time for you to find another Daddy.

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Prof. Gav

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

Time for you to find another Daddy.

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Prof. Gav

...Fucking really?

 

[cookiecat]

Come back Daddysgirl! Hows it going?

 

[Rollinbones]

Long term relationships evolve and change. That's a fact of things. You have to allow some space for change and growth. They involve people and people are dynamic.

Erotica is full of massive cocks and wet vaginas, ever ready fuck slaves and constantly creative couples. The truth of the world is occasional loss of erections, the need for lube, boredom, tiredness, stress, work, changing needs and some quick, simple not so mind blowing sex. That's normal and okay too.

We read erotica, we live in reality.

A wise man once counselled me when I was whinging about my sex life many years ago, "If you want good sex, work on good communication."

Try planning an uninterrupted fifteen minute conversation every day for a while.

No-one can pretend to know exactly what you're experiencing or what's best for you. So this is just my two cents worth. Good luck, I hope you both end up very happy.

 

[Blue]

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[cookiecat]

Damn I wish I knew what that said.

He gave her his personal email.

 

[Que]

I'm afraid we can't answer your questions. First, I'm sorry for what you're going through.

Sometimes, when a man gets a woman pregnant and they have a baby together, his willingness to top her changes and he gets more protective. Other times, in a sick twist of irony, sometimes a man does lose sexual interest in his wife after they have a baby together. He just sees her differently. I don't know the psychology of it, but I've heard of it happening.

I wish I had magic to tell you how to fix it, but you're the only one who can talk to him about it, and if he won't talk, then either therapy or something more sad and extreme may be required.

I think you've hit upon what the problem is. He doesn't see her as a sexual being now that she is carrying his child.

The psychology of it it is a problem with his emotional and sexual development. It's a whore/Madonna complex type of issue.