I think my boyfriend is going to break up with me

[Zilla]

He called. I can stop looking at the caller ID box like a fucking high school girl now.

We have discussed his role in my son's life KS. The discussions just never seem to go anywhere. Not a good sign, methinks.

After this whole episode today, we are not ready to move in together. I told him that on the phone just now. I also told him we need to talk about this serious shit in person and not on the phone. I think talking in person will help us to avoid misunderstandings.

It pretty much boils down to, he's a self-centered guy and he knows it. He is not sure he wants the pressure of a live-in GF and a little kid to boot knowing that he can be selfish as hell at times.

I tend to attract very selfish men. Why is this do you think?? I hate selfishness. Maybe I am more selfish than I realize and that's why I am attracting them? Fuck, who knows.

Thanks for reading all my babbling, you guys are really a great bunch of people.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

I'd dump his ass you don't need him I almost had a BF until he got his idiot of a drunk friend to call and call and call and call well you get the point and then I got one of my close male friends' to call him and tell him to stop calling me and he calls his friend and tells him that my friend was threatening him and all that BS and then he calls me and leaves' a very nasty message on my machine calling me a bitch and a whore and everything else under the sun now should I have to take that shite to have a BF Noooo so neither should u....good luck

 

[Frimost]

I don't know about a kid, but as for a nice woman I wish I had a live-in g/f (would be a great way to share the rent among other incentives).

As to why you are attracted to selfish men, look to your father, that is where bad choices in men usually come from in women just as bad choices in women usually come from a mother's bad example when it comes to guys.

 

[cowgirl heaven]

We have discussed his role in my son's life KS. The discussions just never seem to go anywhere. Not a good sign, methinks.

After this whole episode today, we are not ready to move in together. I told him that on the phone just now. I also told him we need to talk about this serious shit in person and not on the phone. I think talking in person will help us to avoid misunderstandings.

I can't believe KS actually posted something that makes complete sense. If you can't get a down to earth satisfactory answer to the relationship he will have with your son and you----you're right on the money......it's not good.

I think it's wise not too make any major decisions over the phone.

Good Luck!! Keep us posted and don't give up. There's someone out there somewhere who will treasure you and your son and it will happen when you least expect it.

 

[Killswitch]

Well, zill....if it's off be glad you found out now, instead of when you are 1500 miles away from home, if where you are now is home.

Good luck.......

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Zilla, I'm sorry to hear things aren't woking out teh way you had hoped. Long-term, it may be better that you found out these negative aspects to your relationship BEFORE you moved...

 

[Zilla]

He is sexy and fun and talented and all sorts of stuff like that...but that's not enough when it comes to me AND my little boy. He hasn't spent much time around the two of us, we are usually alone together. I do want to be with him very badly, but I don't want to risk it turning into a bad situation for my son. That's why I am not going to move in with him. I don't know what is going to happen next, but I'm flying down there day after tomorrow so hopefully we will get some of this figured out soon.

 

[Prince Romeo]

3 simple questions to ask him:

Ask him how he feels. Ask him what he wants. Ask him if there is anyone else.

 

[bknight2602]

Sounds to me like you have made the right choice. If he really can't include your son, then it is time to move on to a new lover.