I Think I Have a Crush on...

GreenEyeBiChick

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... a fellow Mommy in my son's Playgroup. We're really good friends, and I wish that it would go to the next level. The only problems are: A.) I'm scared! and B.) I reallllllyyyy don't think she'd be interested in me in a sexual way. She seems pretty straightlaced (which I think is part of the attraction). But you know what they say, those are the ones you have to look out for! Sigh. Someday my time will come!
 
You are so cute. I found this so sweet and i wish you the best of luck. Ask her out for a juice after playtime, maybe you would get a different feel away from the group.
 
That's an easy one

You make up a story, and feel her out.

"You'll never guess what happened to me.
I was at the mall and I stopped and got a soda,
and this beautiful lady asks if I minded if she
joined me."

You know what gets you hot. Weave a story that
gets you oozing, about how this gorgeous babe
came on to you.
You'll know pretty quick if your friend is getting
off or getting sick.

If she's getting turned on, you got the green light,
but proceed with caution.

Let us all know how it goes.
 
Hi. If you are already good friends that is a start. It is important to find out how she feels about being bi. You will need to gain her trust enough so that she knows that it can be talked about without you not liking her if she says something that she thinks you will not be cool with. It just takes time. Many straight people or people who seem straight are not at all. There are some that are in the closet, some that do not know what the future will hold, (who does?) and some that are just plain descrete.
Try and do something away from the playground. Inviting someone for coffee or drinks, set a time for your kids to play together, go on a double date, and so on.
Never know until you dig. Be super descrete and careful, you being scared is there for a reason. Try and read her, if you are getting all kinds of "NOs" then forget about it and move on.
I hope this helps.
Ginger :heart:
 
Thank you all for the kind replies. :) You all gave me some good ideas, and I'm going to have to try them out. I'll let you know what happens!
 
Hi! You're not alone.
Same sort of thing happened to me with a guy I met who worked in the meat department(no pun intended) at a large grocery chain. He was all arms, legs, chest & fur, just the kind I'm attracted to. He looked the type to be 'straight' as a surfboard...And we became friends and even went over to each other's place to watch football or baseball with other friends on the weekends...So how could I tell this 'Hercules' I was gay, or much less that I liked him in that way. Every time we got together my chest always felt like bursting out wanting to tell him! But I knew if I did that I was risking things could go bad. Not the kind of risk I was williing to take. I held my tongue. So I was just happy we had a good chemistry being friends. A few weeks went by, hadn't seen each other and he calls me up to come on over for the usual sports thing, hands me a beer. Suddenly He blurts out, "why haven't you told me you're gay?" Well, all my blood felt like it sank to my feet! "Relax, he told me. I knew you were from the first time you set eyes on me. And I like you too, but I've never been with another guy...And thanks for not jumping or throwing yourself on me...Now I do like girls, so if you can put up with that for now, then just give me time..."
And the rest is history....In my case it was just a matter of allowing 'time' to let things take their course, and not jumping ahead of myself. But mine was a case in reverse in that "He" was the one that said it first...But, I hope my experience might shed a little light on your situation, even though I think my experience sounds a little corny & cliche, things like this really do happen....Anyway, Thanks! :) for reading all this...Good Luck;)
 
Feel her out...not literally! And figure out what she's all about. Find out about her. Become her friend first and go from there.
 
I am HOPING something like that would happen to me! I think the problem with me is that I'm married and look and act totally straight....when what I want is someone to hit on ME! I think it will never happen unless I get out and alone...with drinks!! Play groups are weird that way... we like to be out with our kids, but then be out with the girls! We aren't gettin' much as it is!!! LOL!

Good luck and please tell me how it turns out!
 
Re: That's an easy one

wvmeateater said:
You make up a story, and feel her out.

"You'll never guess what happened to me.
I was at the mall and I stopped and got a soda,
and this beautiful lady asks if I minded if she
joined me."

You know what gets you hot. Weave a story that
gets you oozing, about how this gorgeous babe
came on to you.
You'll know pretty quick if your friend is getting
off or getting sick.

If she's getting turned on, you got the green light,
but proceed with caution.

Let us all know how it goes.



*nods* in agreeance
 
That is the worst. When there's one that you want and you hit it off. How to take it beyond friendly flirting without potentnially ruining the friendship? I hit on a friend who I thought was sending me signals, and then she informed me that she was not interested. We recovered after a period of unease.

Good luck!
 
GreenEyeBiChick said:
... a fellow Mommy in my son's Playgroup. We're really good friends, and I wish that it would go to the next level. The only problems are: A.) I'm scared! and B.) I reallllllyyyy don't think she'd be interested in me in a sexual way. She seems pretty straightlaced (which I think is part of the attraction). But you know what they say, those are the ones you have to look out for! Sigh. Someday my time will come!




Blimey, this sounds like I could have written it. Isn't it the worst feeling? There's this Mom at my girl's playschool and she acts all flirty with me. Well I see it as flirty. Maybe she doesn't think of it as flirty. I'm sure she must be straight, she has a new baby but I just get these vibes off her. :rolleyes: Sometimes I think it's nice to look forward to seeing her and other times I wish I never had to see her again. It's pretty much like torture. (Although, that's not nessecarily a bad thing.:D )
 
Ok... I wanted to start writing something very clever but... but...

When I was new with my bisexuality I had a crush on a woman at the company I was working back then. I can tell that I tried all those "tell a story/joke about it and check signals etc". Problem is that when you have a big crush, you dont see properly - you see partly what you want to see. You will see all good things in her. It can be that you'll just wait for any signal that could be understood as sign of her bisexuality or interest.

Even couples which have been married decades can have hard time understanding all those signals. Talk, talk, talk - dont guess on signals is what we tell to all couples asking how to know if s/he is interested.

So... what to do actually... I would just honestly confess it. I know I'm sometimes very straightforward in these kind of things but truth is that no hetero girl has got offended so far when I have expressed my interest on her. You just need to do it politely - maybe as a compliment. I know its risky if you're in closet and want to stay there but if you know her at all you can prolly make quite good guess if she would run to tell about it everyone or not.

My experience so far is that straight girls love attention :)
 
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