I think I can, I think I can, I think I can....

[Shankara20]

How To Change/Break A Habit - It Takes 21 Days

1# Write down your goal.
I will not jack off for 21 days in order to change my habit of wanking 4 times a week.

2# List your reasons for changing or eliminating your habit.
When I have sex with GF I have no "juice" and it is becoming a problem...

3# Find substitute routines.
wellll, I guess I could start eating cheetos - this I will need to work on, Go For A Walk might work...

4# Talk to yourself. Tell yourself you're making progress.
"Don't wank, Shank!" Don't wank, Shank!."

5# Recruit helpers for support. Explain to them why you are making this change. Ask for their support. Their support may be needed encouragement.
So I am starting this thread...

6# Be prepared for people who may sabotage your change. Be assertive and tell them what they are doing.
Damn-it! don't send me your naked photos...


Two Days = No Wank!

 

[intothewoods]

Do you ever "wank off" together? I ask because that's what Dan Savage would ask.

 

[Cattypuss]

... and there was I, thinking that "wank" was a term used almost exclusively on this side of the Atlantic (and probably in the Antipodes too).

 

[bellassecret]

... and there was I, thinking that "wank" was a term used almost exclusively on this side of the Atlantic (and probably in the Antipodes too).

Yes we use it in the Antipodes. And we add the 'er' onto it sometimes too.

Shankara, this is a bit of a personal question, and I understand if you don't want to answer it.

If you have a girlfriend, why do you need to wank so often? Are you finding your sex life unsatisfactory? Or are there other reasons?

Just wondering because it might be easier to stop if you understand the whys of the situation.

 

[Cattypuss]

I add "er" to it at least daily lol!

 

[Shankara20]

Do you ever "wank off" together? I ask because that's what Dan Savage would ask.

errrr, Dan Savage was wanking with my GF

 

[Shankara20]

... and there was I, thinking that "wank" was a term used almost exclusively on this side of the Atlantic (and probably in the Antipodes too).

"antipodes"


*sounds of Shank doing a Google search*


"In geography, the antipodes of any place on Earth is its antipodal point; that is, the region on the Earth's surface which is diametrically opposite to it. Two points which are antipodal to one another are connected by a straight line through the centre of the Earth."


OH! as in England and "Down Under".

Well, yes, "wank" is more of a British term but I use it because "jack off" sounds so, so, crude...

 

[DVS]

How To Change/Break A Habit - It Takes 21 Days

1# Write down your goal.
I will not jack off for 21 days in order to change my habit of wanking 4 times a week.

2# List your reasons for changing or eliminating your habit.
When I have sex with GF I have no "juice" and it is becoming a problem...

3# Find substitute routines.
wellll, I guess I could start eating cheetos - this I will need to work on, Go For A Walk might work...

4# Talk to yourself. Tell yourself you're making progress.
"Don't wank, Shank!" Don't wank, Shank!."

5# Recruit helpers for support. Explain to them why you are making this change. Ask for their support. Their support may be needed encouragement.
So I am starting this thread...

6# Be prepared for people who may sabotage your change. Be assertive and tell them what they are doing.
Damn-it! don't send me your naked photos...


Two Days = No Wank!

On your #3? Wanking after eating Cheetos would most likely cause a cheesy colored tool. Does your GF like cheetos?

As a reason to continue wanking...researchers say those who continue to change the sperm in their um...reservoir will be less likely to acquire cancer. The possibility has been brought up that semen sitting there...all alone and unwanted could be a bad thing. It's better to flush it out, on occasion. Maybe you should just slow down, and not totally stop? God man, 21 days is a looooooooong time.

 

[Shankara20]

Yes we use it in the Antipodes. And we add the 'er' onto it sometimes too.

Shankara, this is a bit of a personal question, and I understand if you don't want to answer it.

If you have a girlfriend, why do you need to wank so often? Are you finding your sex life unsatisfactory? Or are there other reasons?

Just wondering because it might be easier to stop if you understand the whys of the situation.

No problem with the question. I'm 62 years old. Wanking has been my primary sexual release activity for over about 8 years. I have had erectile dysfunction when lovemaking that the little blue pill has helped with, but I also have great difficulty reaching orgasm with a partner (and I know some of the reasons - all in my history)

She also has a problem with interstitial cystitis that causes her pain if we "go at it" for a long period of time. We have been struggling with finding a solution for about two years. Last month we started going to a sex therapist to sort it all out.

I know that me wanking 4 times in two days before going over to spend a weekend with her takes much of my sexual energy away. I also have developed a belief system that informs me that even if we do have sex I won't get off - it has become a self-fulfilling fear.

In addition I am somewhat of an adult ADHD and wanking/sex play has become a place I go to deal with my "fog". So while we, GF, therapist and me, work of finding ways to have fun with our sex bits, I'm going to stop my compulsive wanking.

The "way I do it" I understand, the "compulsion to do it" is my struggle.

I know, I know TMI. But there you go.

 

[Shankara20]

God man, 21 days is a looooooooong time.

21 days did not look that long two days ago
Thanks for your encouragement.

 

[Shankara20]

On your #3? Wanking after eating Cheetos would most likely cause a cheesy colored tool. Does your GF like cheetos?

no no no no - Cheetos instead of wanking.

 

[DVS]

"antipodes"


*sounds of Shank doing a Google search*


"In geography, the antipodes of any place on Earth is its antipodal point; that is, the region on the Earth's surface which is diametrically opposite to it. Two points which are antipodal to one another are connected by a straight line through the centre of the Earth."


OH! as in England and "Down Under".

Well, yes, "wank" is more of a British term but I use it because "jack off" sounds so, so, crude...

And masturbate is so...um...technically correct. It's kind of like the antipodal point to the word wanking.

go with it, man. It will help your chi.

 

[Shankara20]

go with it, man. It will help your chi.

http://pics.drugstore.com/prodimg/172409/200.jpg​

 

[Betticus]

Oh what??? That was just a lil typo... Darn fingers!!

 

[intothewoods]

errrr, Dan Savage was wanking with my GF

Seriously, Dan Savage gets questions from guys who can only come while wanking all the time.

You know something.... I've never until now wanted to tear the clothes right off of a man, tie him down to a railroad tie, slide a finger in his ass and massage his prostate while sucking his hard cock like it was the first and last meal that I would ever have on this Earth...

Huh. I was not expecting this post. Yeah.

 

[MisterSir]

I think I can too. I am the Little Psion Who Could.

/joke nobody but me and maybe Winston will understand

 

[neci]

wow... i wish you the best of luck with your no wanking weeks. sounds tough, but the pay off makes sense. it is just so damn tempting to post something dirty. i will restrain myself... if only for your lady

 

[Shankara20]

Oh what??? That was just a lil typo... Darn fingers!!

damn...

*sounds of Shank unpacking, no longer going to NM*

 

[Shankara20]

Seriously, Dan Savage gets questions from guys who can only come while wanking all the time.

there is a change we might cum, errrrr, come 'round to that...

Huh. I was not expecting this post. Yeah.

I'll bet you could be allowed to watch, if you wanted that is

 

[Shankara20]

I think I can too. I am the Little Psion Who Could.

/joke nobody but me and maybe Winston will understand

thanks for sharing

 

[Shankara20]

wow... i wish you the best of luck with your no wanking weeks. sounds tough, but the pay off makes sense. it is just so damn tempting to post something dirty. i will restrain myself... if only for your lady

seldom is restraint a good thing

"Those who restrain desire, do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained."-
William Blake, The Marriage of Heaven and Hell (c. 1790-1793)

 

[ecstaticsub]

If I can go 21 days without playing with my kitty or having sex then you can last 21 days without wanking. (of course my excuse was some minor surgery and any play would have caused a great deal of pain (not the good kind) and damage. )

I do wish you luck and a positive outcome.

 

[Homburg]

God man, 21 days is a looooooooong time.

21 days? Shit, I haven't wanked in... Hmmm, at least 24 days. Probably more like two months.

Disclaimer: I am not including mutual wanking for joint sexual enjoyment. You really might give that a try, Shanks.

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Seriously, Dan Savage gets questions from guys who can only come while wanking all the time.

It is often related to Retarded Ejaculation. And it is a condition that can be developed. Women can have it happen too. When you masturbate a lot, you get quite adept at pressing your own buttons, and quite used to a certain level of sensation. Actual sex is both overwhelming and underwhelming, as the sensations are more serious than what your hand produces, and yet are not precisely what pushes your buttons. Women who use vibes a lot, for example, can get to the point where they can only orgasm with vibrators.

Huh. I was not expecting this post. Yeah.

Ah, thank you for preserving that one for posterity.

Betticus, you sly dog.

 

[Shankara20]

was some minor surgery and any play would have caused a great deal of pain

I don't want any medical intervention to help me make it

Thank you very much


I hope your recovery was successful

 

[Shankara20]

21 days? Shit, I haven't wanked in... Hmmm, at least 24 days. Probably more like two months.

You have always been the very model of a modern man indeed - something to which I aspire

Disclaimer: I am not including mutual wanking for joint sexual enjoyment. You really might give that a try, Shanks.

So, do I understand correctly, you do include mutual wank in your joint sexual enjoyment, right?

It is often related to Retarded Ejaculation. And it is a condition that can be developed. Women can have it happen too. When you masturbate a lot, you get quite adept at pressing your own buttons, and quite used to a certain level of sensation. Actual sex is both overwhelming and underwhelming, as the sensations are more serious than what your hand produces, and yet are not precisely what pushes your buttons. Women who use vibes a lot, for example, can get to the point where they can only orgasm with vibrators.

EXACTLY! There can also be emotional and mental components. Retarded Ejaculation can be complicated by some vitamins, supplements and meds as well.

Betticus, you sly dog.

He is a truly evil man